30/05/2026
ETERNITY GOAL DEVOTIONAL (EGD)
By Evangelist Abutu Jeremiah Jnr
www.fogtwgospel.org
TOPIC : Current Issues
SUB -TOPIC : Where Domestic Violence Is, Marital Death Is Inevitable
BIBLE TEXT : Ephesians 5:25, Ephesians 5 :33 and 1 Corinthians 13:4-5
DATE: Saturday, May 30th, 2026
SCRIPTURAL REFERENCE POINT :
(1). Ephesians 5:25 ESV - “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”
(2). Ephesians 5:33 ESV - “...let the wife see that she respects her husband.”
(3). 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 ESV - “Love is patient and kind... it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.”
QUOTE
“Home is God’s sanctuary, not Satan’s boxing ring. Where fists fly, love dies (By Evangelist Abutu Jeremiah Jnr)
KEY DEFINITIONS
(1). DOMESTIC VIOLENCE : Any act of physical, verbal, or emotional harm between spouses that destroys trust, peace, and covenant.
(2). MARITAL DEATH : The state where love, trust, and intimacy are killed, leaving two strangers under one roof.
(3). REFUGE : God’s original design for home - a place of healing, rest, and safety. Psalm 91:1
CONNECTION - BIBLE TEXT ANALYSIS
(1). Ephesians 5:25 - Christ’s love for the church never bruised, shamed, or threatened. He washed, fed, and died for her. That’s the husband’s model.
(2). Ephesians 5:33 - Respect is commanded, but not through fear. A wife submits to a man who protects, not attacks her.
(3). 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 - Love does not get provoked. It does not hit, insult, or keep score. If your hands are faster than your tongue, love is absent.
So we have God’s pattern: Love like Christ. Respect in peace. The moment violence enters, that pattern breaks. And where God’s pattern breaks, marital death begins.
THE MYSTERY: THE SANCTUARY PRINCIPLE
God called marriage “one flesh” Genesis 2:24. One flesh means you don’t cut your own body. You don’t slap your own arm. You don’t curse your own leg.
David didn’t fight Goliath with stones alone. He fought with covenant understanding: “I come in the name of the LORD” 1 Sam 17:45.
Couples must fight for the marriage, not against each other. The enemy is outside the home, not inside the bedroom.
ILLUSTRATION
A man built a beautiful house with strong walls, roof, and gates. But he left one door open and called it “anger”. Every night, thieves entered through that door and stole furniture, peace, and finally the children’s joy.
The problem wasn’t the house. The problem was the open door. Domestic violence is that open door. Once it’s open, death enters.
THE DANGER OF VIOLENCE
Violence is never love. It starts with a slap, then shouting, then threats, then “no transport, no visit”, then separation, then divorce. Hosea 4:6 is true here too: Homes perish for lack of knowledge of God’s pattern.
You cannot build a home with the same hands you use to destroy it.
HOW TO GUARD YOUR HOME FROM VIOLENCE
(1). Choose understanding over reaction :
James 1:19 - Be quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger.
(2). Kill lies with truth :
Col 3:9 - Do not lie. Truth builds, lies destroy.
(3). Protect covenant :
Heb 13:4 - Marriage is honorable. Purity guards peace.
(4). Settle anger daily :
Eph 4:26 - Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath.
(5). Submit to God first :
Phil 2:3 - In humility count your spouse more significant than yourself.
THE ASSURANCE OF GOD’S PATTERN
When Christ is Lord of the home, violence has no seat. Isaiah 32:18 - “My people will live in peaceful dwelling places, in secure homes, in undisturbed places of rest.” A Christ-centered home is a safe home.
TAKE NOTE
(1). Strength is for protection, not attack. Real men don’t hit. Real women don’t destroy.
(2). Abuse has no gender. Wrong is wrong whether husband and wife or wife and husband.
(3). God can heal dead marriages, but healing starts with repentance plus boundaries plus help.
(4). Safety comes before counseling. If blood is involved, run to safety first.
SELF-EXAMINATION
(1). When I’m angry, do my hands or my words become weapons?
(2). Does my spouse feel safe or scared around me?
(3). Am I building my home as a refuge, or turning it into a ring?
Always remember that Where domestic violence is, marital death is inevitable. But where Christ rules, peace prevails.
Always remember and never forget that : Home is God’s sanctuary, not Satan’s boxing ring. Where fists fly, love dies.
PRAYER :
Father, forgive every home where violence has replaced love. Heal every bruised heart, broken trust, and wounded marriage. Teach husbands to love like Christ and wives to respect in peace. Remove every spirit of anger, pride, and control from our homes. Make every house a refuge and not a ring. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
DECLARATION
My home is a sanctuary of peace. I will love like Christ and respect without fear. My hands will protect, not attack. My words will build, not destroy. Violence has no place in my marriage. God’s peace rules my house.
ALTAR CALL - ETERNITY DECISION
If your home has become a war zone, turn to Jesus today. Surrender your anger, pride, and pain to Him. He is the Prince of Peace.
PRAY: Lord Jesus, be Lord over my home. Heal what violence has broken. Teach me Your pattern for marriage. Amen.
NEXT STEP
(1). Apologize today for one harsh word or action, even if it was “small”.
(2). Start a “Peace Scripture” list - Add Eph 5:25, 1 Cor 13:4, Prov 15:1 to your journal. Speak them daily.
(3). Share this Eternity Goal Devotional with a couple or friend who needs to choose peace over war.
Good morning, beloved.
Build a refuge, not a ring!
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