19/04/2020
I believe you want an intelligent kid?
So do you know that it takes hard work to raise such kid?
Don't wait till you’re married. Show commitment now by simply learning to become more intelligent yourself.
In morals and everything...
Your children will consciously & unconsciously learn from you.
The way you talk,
The way you react,
The way you raise them, they might end up raising their own kids that way,
The way you fight,
The way you insult your hubby or bully your wife,
The way you pray,
The way you show them emotional love,
The way you correct them,
Etc.
: So singles, it is for your own good first and also for you not to produce stupid children....
Work on yourself... marriage is beyond beauty & figures, marriage is beyond money & “can he spend on me or not”, its deep and an institution that you can afford to enter into it with a foolish person!.
Something happened one day. A woman reported her son to me and she was crying. The woman called her ”bastard”.
So i called the woman. This girl is your daughter and you gave birth to her. Why call her bastard now.
She said because the husband is a useless man. And i said, but you married him.
Why marry a useless man?
She was blinded by his money and she never knew that is his kind of person.
I decided to hear about the woman’s past.... let me keep quiet here.
The morale of the whole thing is that, as a young girl now. You owe your daughter and son a better father.
Same thing goes to young guys, you owe your children a better mother
You cant afford to trade your children’s future because you were only looking for a babe that is perfect on bed...a guy who can spend on you. Etc
I have been into people development for the past 10years. Both young and old, locally and internationally.
have got some things you should not joke with.
This is not to scare you. But for you to prepare your mind.
After digging deep.
I found out some deep and painful truth...
no 1: some tend to know God in marriage and not before marriage.... life in itself is spiritual. This is my opinion so u have a choice to believe it or not.
There are some prayers you ought to pray and there are some understanding you should have before marriage. So I discover many of them married carelessly or and in marriage, LADIES this is meant for you more... some women find themselves being the only person praying for things to work for their kids & family!
so i will advice you, marry a man who will live as a priest of the house (and u also must know your spiritual role).
dear single guys, marry a lady who can be great role model to your daughter, etc.
no 2: some did not build capacity to solve problems... many of us still don't know that challenges are part of life. It will always come and confront you. So I discover many of them don't understand how to solve problems... both spiritual or physical problems... some don't even know how to differentiate the two.
so if you don't build capacity now, it will either crush you or destroy you completely,
challenges are inevitable, how you respond to it is what matters.
so as singles, observe the person you are dying for all in the name of love, check how he or she respond to problems....
No 3: some do not know the primary things that sustain relationships... like communication etc... and they did not know the natural roles of a man and woman.
It is even more worse in our generation because we now have more broken hearted and immature singles out there... i pray God intervene for us
No 4: i discover some of them did not know the primary and secondary thing to watch out for before choosing their partner.
you see a person who is a cheat, drunkard, gambler, pessimist, lacks integrity, different traits that you should run from.
But you tend to believe “he or she will change”.
oga, you are not God that changes people.
I do say this on daily basis, relationship is not for everybody.
Marriage is hard work.
And the sad thing about it is that... Most of these traits flow into our children.
Have you not discovered that some chronic attitude formation is as a result of the kind of life some parents lived back then while they are young.
no 5: some live base on assumption and never made enquiry or ask question about the root of their spouse... let tell you one bitter truth, everyone need to deal with their foundation/root. Especially, if you’re from a polygamous home, royal family & riverine village, or you have been taken to an evil altar before unknowingly or knowingly, please i advice you..... GO AND PRAY TO DEAL WITH YOUR FOUNDATION!
Some of us need to go back home and ask our parents to tell us about where they come from.
No 6: some do not plan together & they neglect the place of growth.
See, right from relationship level, make sure as you are growing, endeavour to carry your partner along.
It is true we all cant operate at the same level.
But let that person be at the level he or she can back you up and not feel inferior. I learnt this personally from Daddy Adeboye in one of his teachings.
No 7: seek God's counsel & the counsel of others (Note: others here shouldn't be anyhow person, they must be people who are aligning their marriage to God's principles and it is evident in their life).
pray together... study God's word together... fast together, practice spiritual activities together.
this is for your own good if you want to keep aligning to God.
you have a God. know that same God together.
no man is an island.
I would have love to say more.
I rest my case. If it's useful, make use of it. If not discard it.
feel free to ask your questions and share whatever the matter is,
be rest assured, its going to be confidential.
Jesus Is Lord.
Gbemisola,
Above all.
It's beyond these words.
Marriage is spiritual, physical, good times and bad times.
Our ability never to faint at all times.
So i agree with everyone of us.
We shall not fail in the place of marriage,
We pray for all “about to break marriage”, the Lord shall come through for you.
We pray for all homes, the Lord shall be the Lord and Saviour...
Your marriage will not break
Devil will not prevail over your marriage.
We all shall not raise children that will disappoint God.
Or children will serve God.
Our marriage shall be an example of how God wants marriage should be.
In Jesus name. Amen.
