19/10/2025
Majesty Gospel Center
Sunday, October 19, 2025
Topic: A Failed Family
Speaker: Rev. Ubongabasi Dominion
Scripture: Proverbs 14:1
Today, we're looking at Proverbs 14:1, which asks, "Who builds the house?" The answer lies in the scripture: "Every wise woman builds her house, but the foolish plucks it down with her hands." This verse highlights the important role women play in building and maintaining a home.
When God talks about home building and peace, He's emphasizing the importance of the woman's role. In fact, another scripture suggests it's better to live on the rooftop of a house than to live in a house with a contentious woman. This underscores the impact a woman's behavior can have on her home.
The Bible clearly states that it's the woman who builds the home. When a man is upset, it's the woman who can calm him down. As a woman, building a family lies in your hands. You're the organizer, and God has given you the responsibility to build your home. Anything God calls you to do, He's given you the capability to accomplish.
A wise woman builds her home, and what makes you wise is how you build your home. Men are built to be strong and bold, while women are built to absorb pressure and complement their partners. God has placed women under men's leadership, and as a woman, you must learn to submit. Submission means surrendering to God's order and respecting your husband's authority.
If you want any organization to grow, it needs one leader. When you challenge that authority, you're challenging God. Rebellious women often want to be equal with their husbands but don't want their children to be equal with them, since you believe in equality why not want your children to be equal with you?
However, if you're not a submissive wife, you may not have submissive children.
Lack of peace eats away at a man's heart and slowly kills him. Wisdom is not about doing what's right in your own eyes; it's about doing what's right when others are doing wrong. As a woman, if your husband is doing wrong, make it right. A bad community or nation starts from a bad marriage. It's how you treat your partner that demonstrates how you'll raise your children.
The highest level of training is living it. Children become what they see you doing, not just what you tell them. What you live impacts them deeply. The kind of life you live impart their soul and spirit but what you only tell them to do good but not practicing it, only stays in their heart that's if they even take it seriously and it will fade away when chance happens, the real thing you deposited in them through how you live will show up...
It's terrible to insult, fight, or snub your partner. The Bible says we're caretakers of our homes. When you marry or want to marry, swallow your pride and save your judgment. No matter how educated you are, If you posses a bad character you are worse than an illiterate. Educated character is far better than the educated in the university and is more valuable to the community.
Now, ask yourself, "What is my value?"
Two things men value are respect and obedience, not love. Love can survive life's mistakes, but it can't survive insult. Men don't understand love the way women do; to them, respect and obedience is love. A word from a husband is a command, not a suggestion, if you need to do otherwise approach him with humility to discuss with him to see things the other way round because challenging his authority by disobeying is dishonoring God, it's rebellion.
A woman can marry a man she doesn't love, but men can't except such man has lost his dignity completely and he's not good for marriage, women should avoid men. Men are the decision-makers. What causes trouble when they finally get married is the inability of a woman to submit. Wisdom is giving up for peace, and anything you give up for peace is worth it. What makes peace impossible is pride. A submissive wife gets everything.
As a woman you must be sure of the type of man you marry you are ready to submit because once you marry God doesn't give condition for you to submit.
Finally, women, don't ever conclude that you're right. One reason you're a home builder is that you're called to submit. It's better to talk to an experienced, sound minded person than to scatter your home because most women don't know when they are wrong. Most women believe marriage is for men to give them beautiful treatment when they are not committed to giving their best to the unity of the family in their character.