07/10/2026
10 SIMPLE THINGS YOU CAN DO THAT WILL MEAN A LOT TO YOUR PARTNER/SPOUSE ❤️
© Pst Samuel Olagbenjo
A husband once said to me during counselling:
“Sir, I love my wife, but sometimes I feel like she doesn't even notice me anymore.”
His wife was shocked when she heard this.
She said, “But I cook for him, take care of the children and do so much for this family. How can he say I don't notice him?”
Then I asked them a simple question:
“When was the last time you deliberately made your spouse feel loved—not just when you needed something, but simply because you love them?”
That question changed the conversation.
Sometimes, couples love each other but stop expressing that love.
Marriage needs more than good intentions. It needs small, consistent acts that say:
“I see you. I value you. I still choose you.”
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1.✅ SAY “I LOVE YOU” OFTEN ❤️
Don't wait for birthdays, anniversaries or difficult moments before saying it.
Yes, your spouse probably knows you love them, but people still need reassurance.
Call your spouse by their name and say:
“I love you.”
Say it when everything is going well. Say it for no special reason.
Sometimes, three simple words can do more than a long speech.
2. ✅ASK FOR YOUR SPOUSE'S OPINION
Even when you already have an idea of what you want to do, ask:
“What do you think?”
It makes your spouse feel involved and respected.
Your spouse should feel like your life partner, not someone who is simply following your decisions.
Don't just inform your spouse about important decisions.
Include them.
3. ✅GIVE COMPLIMENTS FREELY
Don't become so familiar with your spouse that you stop noticing the good things.
If your spouse looks good, say it.
If they smell nice, appreciate it.
If they handled something well, acknowledge it.
If they make progress, celebrate them.
Don't make your spouse receive more compliments from strangers than from you.
4. ✅MAKE RANDOM CALLS AND SEND LOVING MESSAGES 📱
Don't only call your spouse when you need something.
“Please buy this.”
“Where are you?”
“Have you paid the bill?”
“Don't forget to do this.”
Let your communication contain affection too.
Call simply to say:
“I was thinking about you.”
Or send a message:
“I hope your day is going well. I love you.”
Keep the communication warm.
5. ✅LEARN TO LOOK AT YOUR SPOUSE WHEN THEY ARE TALKING 👀
Put down the phone.
Pause the television.
Stop what you are doing when possible.
Look at your spouse and listen.
Sometimes the words are not the whole message. Their facial expression, tone and body language may be telling you something too.
Listening with your eyes can make your spouse feel deeply valued.
6. ✅USE THE POWER OF TOUCH 🤝❤️
Hold hands.
Give your spouse a warm hug.
Touch their shoulder.
Rub their back when they are tired.
Hold their hand when they are nervous.
Physical affection communicates safety, love and connection.
Of course, always respect your spouse's comfort and boundaries.
Don't underestimate the power of a simple affectionate touch.
7. ✅KISS YOUR SPOUSE OFTEN 💋
Don't allow familiarity to k!ll affection.
A loving kiss can communicate what words sometimes cannot.
Kiss when you are happy.
Kiss when you are saying goodbye.
Kiss when you reunite after a long day.
Kiss simply because you love each other.
And remember, affection should be mutual, welcome and respectful.
8. ✅PRAY FOR YOUR SPOUSE 🙏
Don't only tell your spouse, “I'm praying for you.”
Sometimes, let your spouse actually hear you pray for them.
Pray for their health.
Pray for their work.
Pray for their purpose.
Pray for their strength.
Pray for your marriage.
There is something powerful about knowing that the person you love is also taking you before God.
9. ✅INTRODUCE YOUR SPOUSE WITH HONOUR ❤️
When introducing your spouse, don't make them sound like a random person.
Let people know who they are to you:
“This is my wife.”
“This is my husband.”
Speak about your spouse with honour, both publicly and privately.
Your spouse should not have to wonder whether you are proud to be married to them.
10. ✅APOLOGISE WHEN YOU ARE WRONG
Don't become so familiar with your spouse that “I'm sorry” becomes difficult.
Some people apologise quickly to colleagues, friends and strangers but become stubborn at home.
If you are wrong, say:
“I'm sorry. I was wrong.”
And where necessary, change the behaviour that caused the hurt.
An apology is not weakness.
It is maturity.
🌹 FINAL WORD
Marriage is not strengthened only by big romantic gestures.
Sometimes it is strengthened by:
A kiss.
A phone call.
A compliment.
A prayer.
A loving touch.
A listening ear.
A simple “I love you.”
A sincere “I'm sorry.”
Never underestimate the little things.
Your spouse may not need something expensive today.
They may simply need to feel loved, seen, heard and valued by you.
🙏 MY PRAYER
May God restore affection, friendship, communication and genuine love in every marriage.
May couples never become too familiar to appreciate each other.
May our homes become places where spouses feel valued, respected, safe and deeply loved.
Amen.
If this blessed you, PLEASE SHARE it with a married couple. ❤️
Which one of these 10 things do you think couples neglect the most?
© Pst Samuel Olagbenjo II
Marriage & Family Clinician | Best-Selling Author | Publisher | Book Project Consultant | Book Editor | Ghostwriter | Founder, Marital Success Academy
