Extra Oil Ladies Ministry

19/03/2026

A few years ago, I almost entered a relationship with a brother.

We were still in the talking stage when God revealed his true character to me.

One day, we got into a conversation about s*xual purity. From one question to another, I asked how he felt about staying s*xually pure until marriage.

To my surprise, he strongly disagreed.

At first, I thought he was joking… until I realized he was completely serious. I even laughed and said, “This relationship hasn’t even started yet—what happens if it actually does?” 😂

He went on to call me a “saint.”

Honestly, I don’t mind being called a saint when it comes to s*xual purity. 🙂

That one question saved me from entering a relationship that would have pressured me to compromise God’s standard.

It was patience that allowed God to reveal who he truly was.

Many sisters have lowered their standards, trying to keep men who were never worth keeping in the first place. And some brothers carry a Christian title but lack self-control, thinking a relationship is an outlet for their s*xual desires.

My brother, it doesn’t work that way. If you cannot be in a relationship without s*x, it’s better to stay single.

Discernment is important, but so is asking the right questions. Don’t assume—ask. That’s how you truly know who someone is, and avoid mistaking the wrong person for a life partner.

Not every “good” connection is God’s will.

Sometimes, one honest conversation is all it takes for God to open your eyes.

Don’t ignore red flags just because you’re excited about the person. What you tolerate at the beginning, you’ll struggle with later.

Hold your standards. Stay aligned with God. The right person will not require you to compromise to be loved.

19/03/2026

The phone rang, but it wasn’t a voice I heard first. It was the sound of a heart shattering into a thousand pieces.

“Ma, I failed,” she gasped out. Her voice was shaking so hard I had to tell her to breathe. Between the heavy sobs, the story spilled out like a wound that wouldn’t stop bleeding.

Tunde had been the “perfect” man. For three weeks, he spoke the language of a king. He promised her the world. He promised her a ring. Most importantly, he promised to wait. “I will never touch you until we are married,” he had said, looking her in the eye with a sincerity that felt like a shield.

But a “short visit” to his house changed everything. The shield broke. The promises evaporated in the heat of a single hour. Before she could even process the “No” in her heart, she had lost the one thing she vowed to keep.

Now, barely a month into the relationship, the mask has fallen. Tunde isn’t talking about their “big dreams” anymore. He isn’t talking about the future. Every conversation starts and ends with s*x. When she cried, when she threatened to leave because the guilt was eating her alive, his response was a cold splash of water:

“Go then. Someone else can easily fill your space.”

In one moment, she went from being his “queen” to being “replaceable.”

Hard Lessons for Every Lady

1. Don’t Trust “Day 1” Promises
A man can say anything to get what he wants in the first month. Commitment is proven by time, not sweet talk.

2. Avoid the “Solo Visit” Your willpower has a limit. If you want to stay pure, stay out of bedrooms and locked houses. The atmosphere usually wins.

3. If he only stays because of s*x, he was never there for you. He was there for the “benefit.”

4. If he says someone else can take your place, believe him and Walk away immediately.

5. Mistakes Don’t Define You
You might have lost your virginity, but you didn’t lose your soul or your worth. Don’t stay in a toxic hole just because you tripped.

My Dm is opened for counseling

11/02/2026

Let’s be real—Valentine’s season can feel a bit overwhelming if you’re focusing on the wrong things. 🙄

But what if you could redefine what love actually means? What if there’s a “Higher Kind” of love that brings peace instead of pressure? 🕊️

Our guest speaker, is ready to dive deep into the theme REDEFINED LOVE. If you’re a young woman looking for clarity, purpose, and a sisterhood that grows together, you need to be in this digital room!

Strictly for:
✅ Teenagers
✅ Young Adults

Comment “LOVE” below if you want the link to join! 👇

12/01/2026

Don’t settle for less than a love that uplifts, protects, and celebrates you. 🌿💑

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01/01/2026

This year is our year of Explosive Growth. You will experience growth on every side, financially, spiritually, in your career, family, and relationships. Nothing about your life will remain stagnant. God is lifting you and expanding you in all areas, in Jesus’ name.

27/12/2025

I’m screaming for joy because of a testimony I just heard from one of us, It was a "last-second" win that only God could coordinate. It gave me a fresh fire to pray for this group.

What are you still believing God for before this year ends? Don't look at the date, look at the Promise Maker! Let’s agree together: No delays. No shifts. No more waiting. We receive it in Jesus' name! 👇

Drop a "Prophetic Yes" if you believe

25/12/2025

Greetings, beautiful ladies!

As we celebrate the birth of our Savior, the Extra Oil Ladies’ Ministry wants to wish you a season filled with peace, joy, and the warmth of God’s love. Just as the wise virgins kept their lamps full, may your hearts remain overflowing with the "extra oil" of faith and the Holy Spirit during this holy season.

Thank you for being a part of our sisterhood. May your home be bright and your Christmas be truly blessed!

With Love, Extra Oil Ladies’ Ministry 🪔✨

09/12/2025

I KNOW YOU’RE WONDERING HOW THEY MET… 👇
Long before the global influence…
Long before the millions of followers…
There was simply Joshua and Sandra — two young undergraduates on the campus of Ahmadu Bello University (ABU), Zaria.
Apostle Joshua Selman was studying Chemical Engineering.
Lady Sandra Areh Chinelo — fondly called “Selwoman” — was studying Mass Communication.
Their paths crossed in those early university days, and Sandra quickly became a remarkable pillar in the work God was building through Apostle Selman.
Born into a Christian home, she gave her life to Christ in 2010. Perfectedlight. Her passion for God drew her into active service, especially in the media department, where her loyalty, commitment, and quiet strength earned her the affectionate nickname “Selwoman.”
Those who knew them from ABU testify that Sandra was not just present — she was useful, faithful, and deeply supportive of the ministry as it grew from a campus fellowship into a global movement.
Apostle Selman, however, has always been open about his decision to prioritize his calling and ministry above marriage — a conviction he has maintained for years.
Whatever the future holds, one thing is clear:
Their journey began long before the spotlight — on a quiet campus in Zaria, where destiny was already unfolding.
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07/12/2025

Let’s be honest…

Speaking in tongues does not switch off your hormones.
You can pray for 5 hours, but if you are a woman, you know the cravings will still show up.

You are not firewood. You are not a stone. You feel. You desire.

And pretending you don’t is what keeps many believers trapped in secret battles.

Tonight, I’m breaking down the dynamics of s*xual cravings — why they come, what triggers them, and how to take charge instead of being controlled.

This is a meeting you cannot afford to miss.

Join me this evening.

07/10/2025

Dating in a godly way does not have to be complicated. Here is a simple Christian dating hack: instead of focusing on small talk, read the Bible together, kneel in prayer, and let God guide your hearts. Couples who prioritise spiritual intimacy build stronger bonds, resist temptation, and grow closer every day.

Tag your partner or a friend who needs this reminder, and let us encourage each other to build godly relationships together.

07/10/2025