03/06/2024
This post was sent to a Group I manage, and I decided to share it here. What is your take on it? Help her.
MY CONFESSION: (From anonymous).
(Hide my identity plz)
I had remained faithful to my husband for the first seven years of our marriage. I have three kids and sell minerals and snacks in front of our house. My husband is a policeman, and was recently transfered to a local Division that he did not so much like because of the stinking environment. So, he refused to move us into that locality; instead, he goes to work from home, sleeps over, and comes back once or twice in a week, as the case may be.
We live in a rented apartment in a public yard here; and one of our co-tenants, a night guard, who works night most times, used to be close to my husband when he was here full time. Now that my husband is scarce at home, Nick stays alone all day, and sometimes when he is not sleeping, he comes to sit on my customer's bench just to ask after my husband and play with the kids,, or to take his lunch from what I sell.
One day when I was also sitting alone, he asked if I can play Ludo with him so that he can buy one and use it to whine away time. Ludo? I asked; and he said yes.
Well, I saw nothing very wrong with the idea; after all, we are outside, not inside house. So, Nick went out and bought the Ludo and we began to play it together almost on daily basis.
Playing Ludo together broke the thick barrier between me as a married woman with kids and Nick; and created a kind of close familiarity between us that I had not foreseen or expected before. So, while we played, we began to chat as neighbours that we are; starting with issues concerning the yard and our other neighbours. Then, we delved gradually into family and work issues, and finally into personal issues. Nick was not married and he denied having any girlfriend. I have not seen any around him either.. According to him, his income was too low to maintain a girl friend.
Little by little, Nick became closer and more friendly with me than he used to be with my husband. He can now tell me anything, and I too can ask him anything, even concerning his private life without any scruple. I hope you understand what I mean? We became like friends, hearing each other's stories and offering advice where necessary.
His own stories were never too attractive to the ears; and as a woman, I began to pity him. He always buys mineral and bread from me as lunch almost on daily basis. So now, I decided to be giving him lunch each time I cook a new food or soup. To this gesture, Nick became so glad that he began to call me mummy instead of his usual anti.
Each time after eating, he would wash the plates, dry them well and will go and drop them on the center table in our parlour. That was how he first entered our parlour. The first time he did it, I thought it to be wrong; but because I did not say it, and because my husband was not around and did not know anything about these new developments, I let it go; and everything just continued so.
I don't know what happened along the way, and I don't know how to tell it the ones I remember; but because my husband is not always around, my attention began to shift slowly to the one that is always around. I can swear that Nick never meant to do anything wrong with me; but my own feelings and lonelyness betrayed me. Am sobbing as I confess this to God and to the public. I have sinned and sinned again and again. I can't tell my husband what is going on behind his back. Worst still, I lack to strength to stop it. Nick is always around, and he has become part of my thoughts and feelings. He feels the gap in me and appears in every of my dreams. I am lost in his passion; and it has now became like a routine for us.
Honestly, I am so confused. I don't know what to do. I don't know who knows or suspects what we are doing. I don't want to lose my marriage though. So, I don't want my husband to hear of it.
In truth, I don't like what am doing, but I can't stop it by myself. I need your prayers first, then your advice.
If I were your sister or your friend, how would you treat this my f**k-up without harming my marriage? Advice me plz.
I will be in the comment session for your prayers and advice. Thanks in advance. 🤣🤣🤣
Lesson:
Always maintain your normal boundaries to ward off tempting situations capable of overpowering your human will.
