04/06/2024
COMMON MISTAKES IN LIFE!
One mistake you should never make is to allow yourself to be recruited by someone, to hate another person who hasn't wronged you.
Hear this: ā We must avoid taking hasty conclusion because of what others are saying about someone else".
What people say about others, says a lot about them. I am repeating this more directly: The things you say about others, says a lot about you! I can tell a lot about a person by what they choose to see in others.
Character assassination is a pervasive and destructive phenomenon that is found everywhere. You find it in families, churches, organizations, work places, etc.
Wikipedia defines Character assassination as the deliberate, malicious, unjustified and sustained effort to damage the reputation or credibility of an individual.
The Merriam-Webster defines it as the slandering of a person usually with the intention of destroying public confidence in that person.
Athi Murugan defines āCharacter Assassinationā as the act of lowering oneās character in a bid to ruin the character of others.
There are people that take maximum delight in ruining other's reputation. These set of people have what I will like to call āDestructive Tendenciesā. They oil their own ego by pulling other people down. PhD(pull him down).
False allegations are the most chronic form of mental abuse. When people canāt kill your dreams and purpose, they will try to assassinate your character. There are some people that your spirit will always irritate their demons! Once they realize hating isnāt working they start telling and spreading lies about you. People are assassinated once but āCharacter Assassinationā kills daily! Character assassination is a form of emotional violence against others.
Someone once said, āA friend of my enemy is my enemy.ā One of the things that hinders us from living a fulfilling and inclusive life is bringing past bias and sentiments into present relationships. A friend of your enemy is not necessarily your enemy; it all depends on intentions and contributions. God can use your enemyās friend to bless you!
7 critical āDONāTsā that you really need to guard yourself against. Refusing to getting trapped in them will help you live a more productive, fulfilling and unbiased life. They are:
1. Donāt conclude about people because of what others say about them:
Never draw up conclusions based on what others tell you about someone. It is a lack of social intelligence that makes people draw conclusions on others based on what other people say about them. I know youāve heard about emotional and financial intelligence, but there is something called social intelligence. This is the kind of intelligence that keeps you sane even when others are trying to pollute your mind against someone else until you have thoroughly confirmed the veracity of the claims before you. Judges are trained to have this kind of intelligence in order to avoid biased judgments.
2. Donāt inherit other peopleās enemy:
It is total lack of education and enlightenment when you automatically make your friendās enemies your own. Donāt make people your enemies just because they are not in good terms with your friends.
3. Donāt use your children as weapons of war:
God can use your enemies to bless your children! The Bible says that your children are for signs and wonders. Stop using them to fight those you donāt like. Your children will need to discern their enemies for themselves; never use your parental influence to make your children hate others. You may often need to guard them with their choice of friends but never plant the seed of discord in the heart of your children against someone else.
4. Donāt gang up with others to hate someone:
Donāt join the majority to hate someone ā you may realize that the person has no offence. Someone said, āIf you donāt see it with your own eyes, or hear it with your own ears. Donāt invent it with your small mind and share it with your big mouthā. Never join the multitude to hate someone else.
5. Donāt be used as weapon in other peopleās battle:
It is not every battle that you must involve yourself in. Refuse to be used as weapons in other peopleās battle. When people fight dirty, refuse to take sides. Observe deeply before concluding finally.
6. Donāt hate people just because they donāt behave like you: That someone is not your tribe doesnāt make them your enemy. It is a waste of education if the only people you like are those that are like you. The greatest proof of our education is in how we respond to people whose opinions are different from ours. People who think their opinions are superior to others are most prone to overestimating their relevant knowledge and ignoring chances to learn more.
The people who donāt think like you are your greatest source of enlightenment. It is normally people that are not like us that help us grow the most. Companies that had maximized growth are really those that value diversity and inclusion.
7. Donāt judge people until you know the whole story: Someone once said, āBeware of the half-truth. You may have gotten hold of the wrong halfā. Donāt judge other peopleās choices without understanding their reasons.
If people say something bad about you or judge you as if they know you, donāt easily get affected. Remember this, dogs bark if they donāt know the person. People who are intimidated by you talk about you with hopes that others wonāt find you so appealing.
Stay away from people who talk bad about others daily; these kind of people carry a negative spirit, and a negative spirit is contagious. The real problem is not that they are unhappy about others, but they are unhappy with themselves.
Stop the destructive habit of talking about people behind their back. Talking badly about someone else while they arenāt there to defend themselves says more about you than the person youāre talking about. When you have issues with people, try and discuss it with them. Stop discussing it with others. Someone once said, āDonāt talk about me until you have talked to meā. Stop spreading false information and rumours about others.
Rumours are carried by haters, spread by fools and accepted by idiots! Stop creating walls of contention, rather help build bridges of understanding among people.
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