21/04/2025
HOW YOU CAN BE HEALED FROM YOUR SPOUSE’S HURT
Let’s be real—marriage can be beautiful, but sometimes we hurt each other. And it’s not always on purpose. A word said the wrong way, an action taken (or not taken)… it can cut deep. Why? Because the people closest to us have the greatest ability to touch our hearts—for good or for pain.
When emotional wounds are not treated and allowed to heal, they can create emotional distance between you and your spouse. This distance can make it difficult to ascend in personal prayer—let alone pray together.
If this issue is not addressed in time, it gives the devil the opportunity to live rent-free in your home. I can tell you plainly: you may not be able to quantify the damage that can result.
There was a time I was deeply hurt by someone. Although I chose to forgive, I still struggled to ascend in prayer. I asked God why, and He responded, “Don’t you see you have a wound in your heart? That’s why you can’t ascend the hill.” He said, “Open the wound and let Me treat it. Then you can ascend.”
That moment changed everything for me.
So how can you be healed from your spouse’s hurt? Here are 3 simple steps:
1. Go to God first.
I know—it’s tempting to want to talk to your spouse right away, to explain how they hurt you, hoping they’ll understand and comfort you. But sometimes, they’re also hurting, maybe from the same issue, and they might not have any comfort to give. So first, go to God. Tell Him how you feel—raw and honest. He knows already, and He’s ready to comfort you in ways no one else can.
2. Then talk to your spouse.
But this time, you're not coming from a place of pain, you're coming from a place of peace—because God has already started healing your heart. Even if your spouse is still upset or unaware, the grace you’ve received will shift the atmosphere. You’d be surprised how your healing can start theirs too, especially when God is in the middle of it.
3. When you come together to pray again, make worship your focus.
There’s something powerful about worship—it cleanses your heart, drives away the offense, and shuts the door on anything the enemy might be trying to use against you. Let the presence of God soak into your soul and your space. That’s where real healing begins.
I hope this is helpful.
Amb. Gbenga Oluwatope
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