22/12/2025
As we enter Christmas week, many of us slow down, take time off work and school, and enjoy being with the people we love - at least, that’s the story for most families.
But for many men, women, and children, this season looks very different. Christmas and New Year sadly often see an increase in domestic abuse. This can be due to added stress, increased alcohol use, financial pressures, or simply being in constant close proximity to an abusive partner.
If you are a pastor, church leader, or simply someone who senses that something may be off, it can be hard to know what to look for or how to help.
Some possible warning signs include:
• noticeable changes in someone’s behaviour when their spouse or partner is present
• someone who was once active suddenly withdrawing from church, prayer meetings, or community life
• sudden shifts in personality, confidence, or openness
If you suspect someone may be struggling at home, starting a conversation can feel scary and intrusive. But I believe it is far better to have an uncomfortable conversation where nothing is wrong than to stay silent and risk someone being harmed.
Even if they don’t open up straight away - or if there truly isn’t an issue - reaching out communicates that they are seen, valued, and not alone. And if there is abuse happening behind closed doors, that small step could be the beginning of hope, support, and safety.
Let us be mindful, gentle, and available to care for those who may be silently hurting this Christmas.
Wishing you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year from all of us at CADA.
