13/05/2023
TEN THINGS YOU MUST NOT DO WITH YOUR CHILD
1. Screaming
Some say it's worse than beating and leave one with long-term mental and emotional scars. Remember, the Prophet ﷺ never raised his voice on a child, women, a friend, or otherwise. Regulate yourself when you hear your voice starting to get louder. When the parent screams at the child, the child's nervous system shuts down, and the brain can't absorb anything you're saying. If you scream or make mistakes (we all do), the best thing you can do is apologise to your child. You will teach them how to repair after making mistakes and how to take responsibility. If you struggle with apologising to your child because you don't want to look small, you have some work to do.
2. Blaming
Blaming weakens relations, lowers self-esteem,and prompts children to be on the ddefence even when they haven’t done something wrong. Anas b. Malik, then a 10 year old child, said: “I served the Prophet ﷺ for nine years and he never said about anything I did, why I did that, or about anything I didn’t do, why didn’t you.” When the only thing that comes out your mouth when addressing your child is criticism, blame, and orders and there's very minimal praise, loving words, affection or fun you as a parent become a source of negativity for their child instead of someone they want to come to for affection or support.
3. Nonstop Order
Orders and instructions, without first convincing, persuading, educating, or leading by example, turn the child into a robot ,nd this is not healthy. When growing up, they blindly emulate and obey any authority, regardless of its values. Balance out your orders with apappreciation ach day. Make sure you share more appreciation and positive moments than orders and criticisms in a day. The research shows tthe ratio of positive interactions to outweigh negative interactions is 5:1. That is 5 positive interactions to every 1 negative interaction. This is because as ,umans, the impact of hurt and pain lasts lon
