14/06/2026
🚨 Mistakes we fall into and convince ourselves are normal (3)
"I've decided to distance myself for my own peace."
"I don't want any more headaches."
"I left the ministry."
"I stopped going to that church."
"I cut off my relationship with those people."
Sometimes, distancing oneself is indeed wisdom...
But often, we label escape as "wisdom" when it is really an avoidance of confrontation.
As soon as someone upsets us...
We leave.
As soon as we disagree with someone...
We withdraw.
As soon as we get tired of a place...
We abandon it.
And sometimes we convince ourselves that this is how we've preserved our mental peace.
But the question is:
Is true peace found in escape?
Or in facing the problem with the Spirit of Christ?
Jesus Christ did not flee from those who rejected Him...
Nor from the betrayer...
Nor from the cross.
Rather, He faced suffering with love.
And the Apostle Paul says:
"If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men." (Romans 12:18)
Meaning, do everything you can first...
Then, if evil persists after all your attempts, you have done your part.
📌 Examples of escape that we've come to see:
❌ A person leaves the church because of a single word they heard.
❌ A servant leaves the ministry because of a disagreement.
❌ A husband or wife lives in prolonged silence instead of dialogue.
❌ A young person changes friends constantly because they cannot tolerate any difference of opinion.
❌ A person runs away from confession because they do not want to face themselves.
The problem is, if you run away from the problem...
It will go with you.
Because the root of the problem is often not the place...
But the way of dealing with it.
Saint Antony the Great says:
"He who flees from the external trial without overcoming the internal one will find it waiting for him elsewhere."
How many times have we left a place, thinking the problem was there...
Only to discover months later that the same problems returned in a new form?
📌 Satan loves escape.
Because escape prevents growth.
How can I learn forgiveness if I flee from everyone who wrongs me?
How can I learn endurance if I leave every difficult person?
How can I learn humility if I refuse to confront my own weakness?
Saint John Chrysostom says:
"A skilled sailor is not known in calm seas, but in the midst of waves."
📌 When is distancing oneself wisdom?
When there is clear and persistent evil.
When the place leads you into sin.
When you have exhausted all means of correction, love, and dialogue.
But fleeing at the first shock...
That does not produce a mature person.
❤️ Ask yourself today:
How many relationships have I lost because I could not endure?
How many ministries have I left because of my pride?
How many opportunities for growth have I lost because I chose escape over confrontation?
Perhaps the problem you are trying to escape from today...
Is the lesson God wants to teach you.
"In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world." (John 16:33,)
Christ did not promise us a path without problems...
But He promised us a presence that never leaves us in the midst of problems.