06/01/2023
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๐๐๐ ๐ -๐๐/๐๐/๐๐๐๐
๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐: RELATIONSHIP TALK
๐๐ฉ๐๐๐ค๐๐ซ: Mrs Priscilla Hagan
๐๐ก๐๐ฆ๐: Godly Pre-Marital Relationship
In the ancient days, among the Jews, betrothal was the closest to pre-marital relationship in our times. The major difference is that in the former, it involved the commitment of the couple and their parents.
Pre-marital relationship is not marriage and so people involved in it cannot do what married people do
A Godly relationship is one that glorifies God and acknowledges Him as the center of the union
There are 3 groups as far as pre-marital relationships are concerned;
๐. ๐๐ก๐จ๐ฌ๐ ๐๐จ๐ซ ๐ฐ๐ก๐จ๐ฆ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ๐ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐๐ฎ๐.
If you belong to this group, you need to;
1. Have principles in place to guide your life
2. Plan on when you want to settle down
3. Decide how far to relate to the opposite s*x
4. Carry yourself well
5. Have a good conduct and attitude
6. Take time to know yourself
7. Invest in developing yourself; study hard, get additional skills, etc.
8. Invest prayers into your future marriage
๐. ๐๐ก๐จ๐ฌ๐ ๐ฐ๐ก๐จ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ค ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ๐ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ซ๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ ๐๐จ๐ซ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ฆ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฆ๐๐ซ๐ซ๐ฒ ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐ซ๐ ๐ฌ๐๐ซ๐ข๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ข๐๐๐ซ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ข๐ญ.
1. If you belong to this group, you should be certain that it is the right time for you and you're waiting to get married soon
2. You also red to confirm if it is really love you're seeing it infatuation (2 Samuel 13:1 downwards)
๐๐ข๐๐๐๐ซ๐๐ง๐๐๐ฌ ๐๐๐ญ๐ฐ๐๐๐ง ๐ข๐ง๐๐๐ญ๐ฎ๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐๐ง๐ ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฏ๐;
1.Infatuation happens instantly but love is slow in process
2. Infatuation craves physical attraction but love craves a deeper connection
3. Infatuation makes you act irrationally/crazy but love calms you down
4. Infatuation is intense but short-lived. Love us comfortable but lasts longer
5. Infatuation is reckless with our emotions. Love is more considerate
6. Infatuation has ulterior motives but love has genuine intentions
7. Infatuation brings obsession and jealousy but love brings out understanding and trust
8. Infatuation is shallow but love is deep.
9. Infatuation is selfish and draining but love is kind and energizing
10. Infatuation has unrealistic expectations but love has realistic standards
11. Infatuation grows with desire but love grows with friendship
12. Infatuation stems from insecurity but love stems from self-assurance
13. Infatuation makes you vengeful but love makes you a better person
14. Infatuation makes you forget you have a life but love is jntergrated with yours
15. Infatuation can leave unannounced but love provides explanations
๐. ๐๐ก๐จ๐ฌ๐ ๐ฐ๐ก๐จ ๐๐ซ๐ ๐๐ฅ๐ซ๐๐๐๐ฒ ๐ข๐ง ๐ข๐ญ
This group of people need to;
1. Set standards/principles to keep the relationship holy
2. Seek the glory of God in your marriage
3. Learn to say know
4. Know your health status
5. Avoid doing what married people do
6. Set apart time for fasting and prayers, bible studies, etc.
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๐๐๐ญ๐จ๐ซ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ข๐๐๐ซ ๐๐๐๐จ๐ซ๐ ๐๐ก๐จ๐จ๐ฌ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ ๐ฅ๐ข๐๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐ญ๐ง๐๐ซ;
1. You will pray. God will lead you but you will have to choose eventually, as God leads you. God won't choose for you
2. The choice you make us crucial. A wrong choice could affect you for the rest of your life
๐๐จ๐ง๐๐ฅ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐ง
1. Do not rush into a relationship
2. Enter a relationship only with intention of it leading to marriage
3. Glorify God with the approach of your relationship
