The Sex Code

15/02/2018

God is pleased by faith, believe therefore when you speak to Him!

12/02/2018

The Last One Syndrome

On the way out of an addiction, say p**n and ma********on or any other destructive addiction, the cycle is repeated several times under the guise of 'this is the last one'. Maybe this addresses you, the one reading this right now.

Well, the straight forward truth is there's actually no last one when it comes to quitting an addiction. There's no saying goodbye. Addiction thrives on repetitions. The more you repeat an act, the more your body recognizes that act as a necessity of its existence. Your body gradually builds a satisfactory reward of doing it, and that's the beginning of habit formation. The more an act is repeated, the more the chances of more repetitions.

Destructive addiction is not your friend. It seeks to destroy you, humiliate you, disgrace you, belittle you and above all re**rd your progress by interfering with thinking and progressive activities. The tactic of quitting lies in your ability to break the cycle and replace it with something more profitable. Please you've got to break the mindset of the last one syndrome. Just leave, no exchange of parting pleasantries. Clear the thoughts of last ones from your mind and don't let it come back. Strengthen your will to stand and take back your freedom and fulfillment.

Break the cycle. Our help is in the name of the Lord.

04/02/2018

Proverbs 9:13-18 (KJV) A foolish woman is clamorous: she is simple, and knoweth nothing.

For she sitteth at the door of her house, on a seat in the high places of the city,

To call passengers who go right on their ways:

Whoso is simple, let him turn in hither: and as for him that wanteth understanding, she saith to him,

Stolen waters are sweet, and bread eaten in secret is pleasant.

But he knoweth not that the dead are there; and that her guests are in the depths of hell.

11/01/2018

You are stronger than your desires. Before you give in, raise your eyes beyond the pleasure. See the guilt, see the broken promises you made to yourself, see the hurt and the depression and then ask yourself, is it worth it?

Every victory over a temptation is strength gained. Every victory over an addiction is a little distance away from the grip of that addiction. Break the cycle. There is nothing like the last one. The last one is the beginning of another last one. Be free, as Christ has made you free! Amen

10/01/2018

We can make the world a better place

Fatherhood

According to a fact stated in the movie, Courageous, 10% of armed robbers are from fatherless homes. This is something to be worried about. 10% of armed robbers, in simple terms mean out of 100 robbers, 10 are from homes without fathers. This also means that 10 out of 100 armed robbers across the globe had the chance not to become robbers, but the lack of fathers made them become so.

The next important question to ask is where does the cycle begin? Where does the irresponsibility in fathers begin? Well, it begins from when a boy is born. Fatherhood does not actually start when a man has a child, it starts when a boy starts growing up. Every belief, every play, every movie, every word, every relationship, every friendship, every food, every thought, every exposure, everything adds to making of a father. A man is the sum total of how he grew up. Whatever has imparted his life is part of the experiences he gathers as he journeys towards becoming a man. He treats women in the way he has seen his society treat women. He sees things in the way he has been exposed to. The making of a father starts with the good mentorship and friendship of a father.

My dear parent reading this, do not think you are merely raising a son, you’re raising a husband and a father. Every son passing through your hands is a father and a husband. How are you raising them? To be matured and responsible or to be simply fun loving and self-centered? There are subtle ways in which boys are made to become irresponsible. The focus of this post is not on that. At the appropriate time, we will focus on that solely. But brief among those practices is unnecessary praising of a child. Inasmuch as it’s important to lift the self-worth of a child, praising a child when not necessary begins the buildup of unnecessary ego in the child. The feeling of everything must go my way because I’m the most important and special person begins to set in. There is absolutely no single individual who is the most important, everyone is. Teaching a child that all men are special and important creates a wonderful acceptance of others. It reflects in how a child sees other children and consequently develops respect for others. If he begins a relationship he will respect his partner’s feelings. He will value her opinion. There must be a balance of praise and discipline to correct pride. These little upbringing are the building blocks of life and must not be taken lightly. That’s why the ability to make babies is not in children, because it takes maturity to raise lives. It takes someone who has gone through life enough to raise another life. It’s a parent’s responsibility to raise children especially in the fear of God. Society is dead to godliness and morality. Leaving the outcome of your child’s life to society is detrimental. The current society will choose anything aside morality.

08/01/2018

Lifestyle
Decisions
Let me begin by wishing you and your loved ones a very prosperous new year. It is it our hope that 2018 will help us fix a lot of the things we wish to fix. It is in the interest of helping us fix some things that this series is essential. Making great changes to our lives begin with decision making. Making strong and concrete decisions is the bedrock for freedom and joy. So it is important in gaining knowledge about decision making. We know you’ve made some decisions for the year. We want to see how best we can go with those decisions. In this month, we will focus on decisions on the Lifestyle Session. This is a small platform to exhaust all the teachings on decision making. We therefore suggest you get more materials on the subject and gain control over these powerful tool. If you’re ready, let’s start.

Episode 1
Everyone makes decision. Someone once said that failure to make a decision is a decision in itself. And that’s true. Failure to stand by a strong sense of commitment has resulted in many lives walking around without aim, waking up in the morning with no purpose and going back to bed with a wasted day. Inability to make good decisions as an individual have dire consequences on your life, and whatever affects your life, whether private life or public life, will have an impact on your relationships. Some of us are having serious challenges in our relationships because we can’t make our decisions stand out. To be able to run our lives in the directions of our decisions, we need to try and get an understanding of decision.

A decision is a choice or stand you make about something after thinking it about it. To decide, we must think first. In fact, it is the ability to think deeply about an issue that gives the confidence in the choices we make. To think is allow the mind to weigh an issue in relation to past experiences, knowledge, convictions (faith and beliefs). We make a choice out of that. A decision therefore is the conviction you give yourself after thinking about an issue. We are completely responsible for our decisions. Al of our life is hinged on the decisions we make and are about to make. A decision made without thinking and without conviction is usually shallow. A decision made on mere emotional feelings is short-lived. Your decisions must come out of deep thoughts, uninterrupted by any distractions, thought through for the time present and projecting it also into the future. When making a decision, you should not be under pressure of any sort.

Every decision you’ve made for this year will have value if you’ve agreed within yourself that that is the path that holds the important needs of your life. If you’ve compared some things of the past, and you’ve really realized that some things must change, they will only change if you decide and allow the confidence and convictions of that decision to climb up into your entire mind, covering any other thought and driving the energy you have. I keep using the word conviction here because till you’re convinced on something, you can’t use it, because you don’t believe it. You only use what you believe. Decision are not made on what we don’t believe, we always make decisions on what we’ve believed. So the moment you are able to convince yourself that this must change, you’re making room for a decision that can have an effect on your life. Most often we assume that we will make those changes, but they never come because we have not laid a good foundation of conviction. This year, don’t assume. Take responsibility. Be ready to be responsible for the actions and inaction of your mind and thoughts.

If it’s a relationship you’ve to quit, decide and be convinced. If it’s an addiction you want to quit, decide and be convinced within. If it’s a relationship you want to start, be convinced about. If it’s school, job or career, etc., take a concrete decision and make your move.

It is amazing to know that the best decisions come out of meditation, and prayer. You may not be religious, but I want to make you aware that making strong decisions have everything to do with prayer, faith and godliness. In our next episode, we will look at the practical role of God’s word in making decisions that will set us free. Until next week, give time to think through the decisions you’ve made for the year.

03/01/2018

Relationships
Find some amount of real differences in this illustrated comics. Look carefully at the images and ponder over them.

Ever wondered what the difference is between lust and love? Well, here are four comics that can clarify the difference pretty easily.

02/01/2018

As we have purposed in our hearts to let go of habits that destroyed our valuable times in previous years, as we decide within our hearts to make use of our days to the benefit of our souls and societies, as we have decided to feed our minds and take full responsibility of our actions, as we have decided to drop some relationships and pick up others, as we have purposed to attend seminars, conferences, church programs, as we have planned to seek God daily in truth and as we have decided to know the purpose and value of our lives, it is our hope and prayer and faith that strength mightier than ours will come from God upon our lives, that we may be able to look up to Him always, knowing and believing that He will be of greater help to us. Amen

Welcome to 2018, the year the Lord has made that we should rejoice and be glad in it. It is a year of hard work, reading and growing in wisdom. Stay with us

26/09/2017

Health Titbits
Want to feel better, have more energy and even add years to your life? Just exercise.

The health benefits of regular exercise and physical activity are hard to ignore. Everyone benefits from exercise, regardless of age, s*x or physical ability.
Need more convincing to get moving? Check out these seven ways exercise can lead to a happier, healthier you.

1. Exercise controls weight
Exercise can help prevent excess weight gain or help maintain weight loss. When you engage in physical activity, you burn calories. The more intense the activity, the more calories you burn.

Regular trips to the gym are great, but don't worry if you can't find a large chunk of time to exercise every day. To reap the benefits of exercise, just get more active throughout your day — take the stairs instead of the elevator or rev up your household chores. Consistency is key.

To be continued
Source : Mayo Clinic Online

22/09/2017

Destructive addictions compete with the ability to pray. And any life lived without prayer is filled with the tossing of the wind, such a life hangs on a superficial root, a short moment of ecstatic relief followed by a lifetime of shame, inward un-fulfilments and depression.

Prayer is important because it brings back purpose, draws us closer to the maker, equips the mind, takes dominion over the body, seeks the mind of God, refreshes and calms the troubled soul, assures us of victory no matter what and prepares us to face all things.

Prayer is one of life's tools. And ma********on competes it. S*x addiction competes it. Po*******hy and erotic songs competes it. Human life is measured across time, what can waste our time, can steal our destinies. So a whole lot of us are walking around unfulfilled, hurt, and void. Spiritual things can't be taken for granted, for in it is our ability to control our senses, our emotions and our bodies. May we seek God as we strive to win the competition over destructive addictions.

21/09/2017

Holiday Special

An elderly couple had been experiencing declining memories, so they decided to take a power memory class where one is taught to remember things by association.

A few days after the class, the old man was outside talking with his neighbor about how much the class helped him.

"What was the name of the Instructor?" asked the neighbor.

"Oh, ummmm, let's see," the old man pondered.

"You know that flower, you know, the one that smells really nice but has those prickly thorns, what's that flower's name?"

"A rose?" asked the neighbor.

"Yes, that's it," replied the old man.

He then turned toward his house and shouted, "Hey, Rose, what's the name of the Instructor we took the memory class from?"

14/09/2017

Public display of affection comes naturally when behind-the-scenes display of affection is cultivated!