20/06/2021
Obligations To Families In Accordance Yo Islam ☪️.
In the name of Allah, the most Merciful.
What are the obligations on a man to his family?
A man is obliged to spend on himself, his wife and his children, because Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
لِیُنفِقۡ ذُو سَعَةࣲ مِّن سَعَتِهِۦۖ وَمَن قُدِرَ عَلَیۡهِ رِزۡقُهُۥ فَلۡیُنفِقۡ مِمَّاۤ ءَاتَىٰهُ ٱللَّهُۚ لَا یُكَلِّفُ ٱللَّهُ نَفۡسًا إِلَّا مَاۤ ءَاتَىٰهَاۚ سَیَجۡعَلُ ٱللَّهُ بَعۡدَ عُسۡرࣲ یُسۡرࣰا
“Let a man of wealth spend from his wealth, and he whose provision is restricted - let him spend from what Allah has given him. Allah does not charge a soul except [according to] what He has given it. Allah will bring about, after hardship, ease”
[at-Talaaq 65:7]
وَعَلَى ٱلۡمَوۡلُودِ لَهُۥ رِزۡقُهُنَّ وَكِسۡوَتُهُنَّ بِٱلۡمَعۡروف
“And upon the [father's] heir is [a duty] like that [of the father]”
[al-Baqarah 2:233].
*And the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him)* said in his sermon during the Farewell
فَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ فِي النِّسَاءِ فَإِنَّكُمْ أَخَذْتُمُوهُنَّ بِأَمَانِ اللَّهِ وَاسْتَحْلَلْتُمْ فُرُوجَهُنَّ بِكَلِمَةِ اللَّهِ وَلَكُمْ عَلَيْهِنَّ أَنْ لَا يُوطِئْنَ فُرُشَكُمْ أَحَدًا تَكْرَهُونَهُ فَإِنْ فَعَلْنَ ذَلِكَ فَاضْرِبُوهُنَّ ضَرْبًا غَيْرَ مُبَرِّحٍ وَلَهُنَّ عَلَيْكُمْ رِزْقُهُنَّ وَكِسْوَتُهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ
_“Fear Allah with regard to women, for you have taken them as a trust from Allah, and intimacy with them has become permissible to you by the word of Allah. Your rights over them are that they should not allow anyone whom you dislike to sit on your furniture. If they do that, then hit them, but in a manner that does not cause injury or leave a mark. Their rights over you are that you should provide for them and clothe them in a reasonable manner.” Narrated by Muslim (1218)._
And he (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Start with yourself and give charity to yourself. If there is anything left over, then (give) to your family. If there is anything left over from your family, then (give) to your relatives. If there is anything left over from your relatives, then like this and like this,” meaning in front of you and to your right and to your left.” Narrated by Muslim (997).
Spending on one’s wife is obligatory, even if she is rich.
With regard to spending on children, it is obligatory subject to two conditions:
1.. That they are poor and have no wealth or income that would make them independent of means and thus have no need for someone else to spend on them.
If they are well off, because they own wealth or have an income, then there is no need to spend on them, because spending on them is obligatory by way of helping and supporting them, and the one who is well-off has no need of help.
2.. That what the father (or grandfather etc) spends on them is surplus to what he needs for his own maintenance, whether that is from his own wealth or from his earnings. In the case of one who has no surplus, nothing is required of him.
End quote from al-Mawsoo‘ah al-Fiqhiyyah (41/79).
Secondly:
He is obliged to spend on his parents, if he is well off and they are poor.
Ibn al-Mundhir (may Allah have mercy on him) said: The scholars are unanimously agreed that spending on poor parents, if they have no income or wealth of their own, is obligatory on the son, who should spend on them from his own wealth. End quote from al-Mughni (8/169).
Thirdly:
With regard to other relatives, such as brothers and sisters, it is obligatory to spend on them, subject to three conditions:
Ibn Qudaamah (may Allah have mercy on him) said in al-Mughni (8/169): In order for it to be obligatory to spend [on siblings], there are three conditions, the first of which is that they should be poor and have no wealth or income that would make them independent of means and thus have no need for someone else to spend on them.
If they are well off, because they own wealth or have sufficient income, then there is no need to spend on them, because spending on them is obligatory by way of helping and supporting them, and the one who is well off has no need of help.
_Faith Over Fear_
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