11/07/2016
Five things we owe every Pastor’s wife.
Beloved, as promised, here are few ways you could support the ministry of your Pastor.(take time to read and take action)
Your Pastor's wife deserves equal respect accorded her husband.
1. We owe her the right to be herself.
She is our sister in Christ and accountable to him. Allow the pastor’s wife to serve in whatever areas she’s gifted in. Allow her to try different things, and to grow. But do not put your expectations on her, if at all possible. Do not try to tell her how to raise her children. Do not try to get to her husband through her with your messages or (ahem) “helpful” suggestions.
2. We owe her our love and gratitude.
She has a one-of-a-kind role in the congregation, which makes her essential to the church’s well being. Church members should love the wife and children and show them appreciation at every opportunity.
3. We owe her our love and prayers.
While the Father alone knows her heart, the pastor may be the only human who knows her burdens. Pray for her by name on a regular basis. Then, leave it to the Lord to answer those prayers however he chooses. If we believe that the living God is our Lord and Saviour and that He hears our prayers, we should be lifting to Him those whose lives are given in service for Him. Ask the Father for His protection upon the pastor’s wife and children—for their health, for their safety from all harm, and for Him to shield them from evil people. Pray for His provisions for all their needs, and for the church to do well in providing for them. Pray for the pastor’s relationship with his wife. If their private life is healthy, the congregation’s shepherd is far better prepared for everything he will be asked to do.
4. We owe her our responsible care.
What does she need? Do they need a babysitter for a date night? Do they need some finances for an upcoming trip? If they are attending the state assembly or the annual meeting of the denomination, are the funds provided by the church budget adequate or do they need more? Is the wife going with the pastor? (She should be encouraged to do so, if possible.) Ask the Holy Spirit what the pastor’s wife (and/or the pastor’s entire family) needs, and if it’s something you can do, do it. If it’s too huge, rally the troops.
5. We owe it to the pastor and his wife to speak up. Sometimes, they need a friend to take their side. If your pastor’s wife has a ministry in the church, look out for people who are criticizing her for: a) dominating others, b) neglecting her home or c) running the whole show. To some, she cannot do anything right. You be the one to voice appreciation for her talents and abilities, her love for the Lord and her particular skills that make this ministry work. Imagine yourself standing in a church business meeting to mention something the pastor’s wife did that blessed someone, that made a difference, that glorified the Lord. Imagine yourself planning in advance what you will say, asking the moderator (who is frequently the pastor) for a moment for “a personal privilege,” without telling him in advance. And, imagine yourself informing a couple of your best friends what you are planning to do, so they can be prepared to stand up “spontaneously” and begin the ovation. (Hey, sometimes our people have to be taught to do these things!) The typical reaction most church members give when someone is criticizing the pastor’s wife is silence. But you speak up. Praise God for her willingness to get involved, to not sit at home in silence, but to support her husband and bless the church.