Place of Devotion

01/06/2026

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12/05/2026

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Musings of an autist … the Autistic Circle of Wellbeing.

We often talk about autistic wellbeing as if it begins with “coping better.” But that is the wrong starting point?

For many autistic people, wellbeing begins with safety. Not just physical safety, but sensory safety, emotional safety, relational safety, and the safety of being believed.

When an autistic person feels safe, regulation becomes more possible. When they are regulated, they can access autonomy: choice, control, communication, refusal, rest, and self-direction.

From autonomy comes authentic connection. Not forced social performance, but being accepted without masking.

From connection comes meaning: interests, purpose, learning, joy, contribution, advocacy.

And then comes recovery.

Because autistic wellbeing is not sustained by constant output. It is sustained by rhythm, repair, quiet, predictability, and enough space to return to oneself.

This is the autistic circle of wellbeing:
- Safety.
- Regulation.
- Autonomy.
- Connection.
- Meaning.
- Recovery.
And back to safety again.

When any part of the circle is broken, distress can be mistaken for “behaviour.” Burnout can be mistaken for laziness. Shutdown can be mistaken for defiance. Masking can be mistaken for coping.

The question is not, “How do we make this person appear more typical?”

The question is: “What does this autistic person need in order to feel safe enough to be fully themselves?”

Because wellbeing is not the absence of visible distress.

It is the presence of enough safety, respect, and recovery for a person to live without constantly having to survive.

12/05/2026

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Musings of an autist … The Autistic Circle of Trauma.

There is a pattern I keep seeing.

An autistic person’s needs are misunderstood. Their distress is treated as defiance. Their shutdown is seen as rudeness. Their meltdown is called bad behaviour. Their need for predictability, sensory safety or recovery time is framed as avoidance, manipulation or lack of resilience.

Then the response becomes more pressure.
More demands. More correction. More shame. More consequences. More “you need to learn.” More “everyone else manages.” More “stop making excuses.”

And so the circle begins.

The autistic person learns that distress is not safe to show. So they mask. They freeze. They fawn. They comply until they burn out. Or they explode because their nervous system has reached the point where it can no longer carry what others refuse to see.

Then that trauma response is misunderstood all over again.

This is the autistic circle of trauma:
- Needs are misread.
- The environment becomes threatening.
- The person masks, freezes or breaks down.
- The system punishes the response.
- Shame and hypervigilance grow.
- The next situation feels even less safe.

We cannot keep calling this “challenging behaviour” without asking what the person has been challenged by.

We cannot keep demanding emotional regulation from people in environments that are causing dysregulation.

And we cannot heal trauma by repeating the conditions that created it.

Support must interrupt the cycle, not intensify it.

Believe the distress. Adjust the environment. Restore safety.

28/03/2026

05/03/2026

Many people think autism is a single line from
“low functioning” to “high functioning.”

But autism doesn’t work like that.

It’s more like a mixing board.

Every autistic person has different levels of:

• sensory sensitivity
• eye contact
• routines
• social understanding
• special interests
• communication styles

No two autistic people are the same.

Autism isn’t one scale.
It’s many different traits.

✨ Understanding this changes everything.

31/01/2026

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02/01/2026

So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day.

27/12/2025

With Alvaston.church – I just got recognised as one of their top fans! 🎉