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Be The One Ministries Helping men fight the war within through faith, integrity, leadership, and accountability. Founded by Dr. Thomas A.

Wallis, author of The War Within.
“Most men aren’t losing in public… we’re losing in private.”

THE WAR WITHIN THURSDAY — ARE YOU HOME, BUT NOT REALLY THERE?Guys, how many times have you been sitting right beside you...
15/10/2026

THE WAR WITHIN THURSDAY — ARE YOU HOME, BUT NOT REALLY THERE?

Guys, how many times have you been sitting right beside your wife, but your mind was somewhere else?

Work. Emails. Sports. Social media.

I've been guilty of it!

And here's one that really gets me.

How many times have you taken your wife to dinner, and BOTH of you spent half the evening looking at your darn phones?

Think about that. We finally make time for a date, then spend it paying attention to everybody except each other!

“Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.” — Philippians 2:4

Men, being present isn't the same as being available.

Your wife doesn't just need you sitting across from her. She needs your attention, your conversation, and your heart.

Here's my challenge: The next time you take your wife on a date, PUT AWAY THE PHONES! Both of you!

Talk. Laugh. Hold hands. Remember why you fell in love.

Don't let a screen steal the moments you can never get back.

Fight for Your Marriage. Fight for What Matters.

Be Bold. Be Strong. Be The One.

Tommy Wallis
Be The One Ministries

14/10/2026

Family matter! Put family before work - it will payoff. I promise.

TRUTH TUESDAY — DON'T HURT THE ONE WHO STANDS BESIDE YOUMen, I've been there. Done that.When I was a school superintende...
13/10/2026

TRUTH TUESDAY — DON'T HURT THE ONE WHO STANDS BESIDE YOU

Men, I've been there. Done that.

When I was a school superintendent, I spent so much time trying to be politically correct, patient, professional, and careful with my words.

But there were times when I got home, I had nothing left.

And who sometimes caught the frustration?

My wife.

The very woman who stood beside me through the good days and the bad.

I could show patience to hundreds of people all day long, then come home and lose it with the one person who deserved my patience the most.

Guys, that's not right. And I was wrong.

“Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.” — Colossians 3:19

Men, don't hurt the one you made a promise to love.

Your wife shouldn't have to pay the price for the battles you fought all day.

Give her your best, not what's left.

And if you've failed at this like I have, don't let pride keep you from saying two powerful words:

I'm sorry.

Fight for Your Marriage. Fight for What Matters.

Be Bold. Be Strong. Be The One.

Tommy Wallis
Be The One Ministries

MISSION MONDAY — KEEP THE SPARK ALIVE!Guys, last week Nicole and I went on a date.And it got me thinking...Remember when...
12/10/2026

MISSION MONDAY — KEEP THE SPARK ALIVE!

Guys, last week Nicole and I went on a date.

And it got me thinking...

Remember when you were dating your wife?

You made time for her. You wanted to impress her. You couldn't wait to see her. You actually listened to every word she said! LOL.

Then life happened.

Work. Kids. Bills. Responsibilities.

And sometimes we stop pursuing the very woman we once couldn't wait to marry.

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church...” — Ephesians 5:25

Men, here's something I've learned:

ONE DATE A WEEK KEEPS THE SPARK ALIVE!

It doesn't have to be expensive. Dinner, coffee, a walk, or just time together without distractions.

Your wife shouldn't have to compete with your career, your phone, or your hobbies for your attention.

Just because you won her heart doesn't mean you should stop pursuing it.

So here's your Mission Monday challenge:

Take your wife on a date this week.

And guys, I'm curious...

When was the last time you took your wife on a real date?

Fight for What Matters.

Be Bold. Be Strong. Be The One.

Tommy Wallis
Be The One Ministries

STAND FIRM SUNDAY — FIGHT FOR YOUR MARRIAGEGuys, this week we're going to talk about fighting for our families.But we ne...
11/10/2026

STAND FIRM SUNDAY — FIGHT FOR YOUR MARRIAGE

Guys, this week we're going to talk about fighting for our families.

But we need to start with our marriages.

We spend hours fighting for careers, promotions, raises, success, and status—all while God has given us a godly helper who simply wants some of our time, attention, and love.

Scripture tells husbands:

“Love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” — Ephesians 5:25

Man, that's a lot.

Christ didn't just say He loved the church.

He gave Himself for her.

Your wife needs to know you'd fight for her.

She needs to know you'd sacrifice for her.

She needs to know that other than God, there is no one you love more.

So guys, don't make this complicated.

Hold her hand.

Put your phone down.

Listen to her.

Whisper “I love you” when there's absolutely no reason to say it.

And here's something I've learned over the years:

LISTEN TO YOUR WIFE.

Have you ever wondered why she sounds so wise sometimes?

Maybe it's because God is using her to speak something you need to hear.

This week we're going to Fight for Our Family.

But we're starting where we should.

FIGHT FOR YOUR MARRIAGE.

Fight for What Matters.

Be Bold. Be Strong. Be The One.

Tommy Wallis
Be The One Ministries

STAND TOGETHER SATURDAY — WHEN YOUR FAITH IS WEAKGuys, there are going to be days when your faith is strong.And there ma...
10/10/2026

STAND TOGETHER SATURDAY — WHEN YOUR FAITH IS WEAK

Guys, there are going to be days when your faith is strong.

And there may be days when you barely have enough strength to pray.

THAT'S WHY WE NEED EACH OTHER.

I love the story in Mark 2.

A paralyzed man needed to get to Jesus, but the house was packed.

His friends could have said:

“Sorry, there's no room.”

Instead, they carried him onto the roof, tore through it, and lowered their friend down in front of Jesus.

Then Scripture says something that has always stood out to me:

“When Jesus saw their faith...” — Mark 2:5

THEIR FAITH.

Think about that.

The man on the mat had friends who believed enough to carry him when he couldn't carry himself.

Men, sometimes that's what standing together looks like.

When your brother is struggling to believe...

believe with him.

When he can't find the words to pray...

pray for him.

When he doesn't have the strength to get himself to Jesus...

PICK UP A CORNER OF THE MAT.

And when you're the one lying on the mat?

Have enough humility to let somebody carry you.

We weren't designed to do this alone.

If we're going to Fight for What Matters, then let's fight for our faith—and sometimes, fight for the faith of the brother beside us.

Who's carrying a corner of your mat?

And more importantly:

WHOSE MAT ARE YOU HELPING CARRY?

Stand Together.

Fight for What Matters.

Be Bold. Be Strong. Be The One.

Tommy Wallis
Be The One Ministries

ANTASTIC FRIDAY — TRUTH WITH LOVELast Sunday, I heard Jonathan Pokluda preach at Lakepointe Church in Rockwall, and toda...
09/10/2026

ANTASTIC FRIDAY — TRUTH WITH LOVE

Last Sunday, I heard Jonathan Pokluda preach at Lakepointe Church in Rockwall, and today I want to thank God for something we desperately need:

PASTORS WILLING TO PREACH THE HARD TRUTH.

We live in a world where there's tremendous pressure to say what is comfortable.

Don't offend anybody.

Don't address the difficult subjects.

But guys, sometimes the truth is uncomfortable.

There is a Heaven, and there is a Hell.

There is a God who loved us enough to send His Son to pay for our sins.

And there is an enemy Jesus called “a liar and the father of lies.” — John 8:44

But here's the key:

TRUTH MUST BE SPOKEN IN LOVE.

“Speaking the truth in love...” — Ephesians 4:15

Love the sinner. Hate the sin.

And never forget—we're sinners too.

We all need grace. We all need forgiveness. We all need Jesus.

If you have a pastor willing to preach what Scripture says about hard subjects—same-sex marriage, transgenderism, LGBTQ issues, racism, abortion, po*******hy, adultery, greed, pride, hatred, forgiveness, repentance, and sin—thank him.

Not because he's attacking people.

Because he loves people enough to tell them the truth and point them to Jesus.

Pray for him.

Pray for his family.

Pray for courage, wisdom, humility, and protection.

I once heard a pastor say:

“You don't have to be controversial. You just have to quote Scripture.”

And remember, God's Word isn't just for correcting someone else.

Sometimes the toes it steps on are mine.

Thank God for pastors willing to preach the truth—and willing to do it with love.

Fight for What Matters.

Be Bold. Be Strong. Be The One.

Tommy Wallis

**THE WAR WITHIN THURSDAY — WHEN YOUR FAITH GETS SHAKEN**Guys, if we're going to **Fight for What Matters**, this week w...
08/10/2026

**THE WAR WITHIN THURSDAY — WHEN YOUR FAITH GETS SHAKEN**

Guys, if we're going to **Fight for What Matters**, this week we're fighting for our faith.

But here's something we don't talk about enough:

# # # **SOMETIMES OUR FAITH GETS SHAKEN.**

I've had times in my life when I prayed and didn't understand God's answer.

Times when I asked:

**Why, God?**

Why did You allow this?

Where are You in this?

What am I supposed to do now?

And sometimes there wasn't an immediate answer.

Men, having questions doesn't mean you don't have faith.

Look at the father who brought his son to Jesus in Mark 9.

He said:

**“I do believe; help me overcome my unbelief!” — Mark 9:24**

Man, I love the honesty of that.

He didn't pretend.

He didn't give Jesus some religious answer.

He basically said:

**I believe You, Jesus—but there's still a battle going on inside me.**

I've been there.

Maybe you have too.

Here's what I've learned:

**When my faith is shaken, that's not the time to walk away from God. That's when I need to lean into Him even harder.**

Open His Word even when you don't feel like it.

Pray even when you don't know what to say.

Keep seeking Him even when you don't understand what He's doing.

Sometimes fighting for your faith is simply saying:

# # # **“GOD, I DON'T UNDERSTAND YOU RIGHT NOW, BUT I STILL TRUST YOU.”**

That's faith.

Not having every answer.

Not understanding every circumstance.

**Trusting the One who does.**

So if you're struggling today, don't hide it from God.

Tell Him.

**“I believe. Help my unbelief.”**

That's part of **The War Within.**

And that's how we **Fight for What Matters.**

**Be Bold. Be Strong. Be The One.**

Tommy Wallis
Be The One Ministries

TRUTH TUESDAY — FIGHT FOR YOUR FAITHGuys, here's a truth we probably don't like admitting:WE MAKE TIME FOR WHAT MATTERS ...
06/10/2026

TRUTH TUESDAY — FIGHT FOR YOUR FAITH

Guys, here's a truth we probably don't like admitting:

WE MAKE TIME FOR WHAT MATTERS TO US.

We'll get up early to hunt.

We'll stay up late watching a game.

We'll rearrange our schedule for work.

We'll drive hours for our kids.

We'll make time for the things we enjoy.

But then we'll say:

“I just don't have time to read my Bible.”

“I've been too busy to pray.”

“We've had too much going on to get to church.”

Jesus said:

“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness...” — Matthew 6:33

Notice that word:

FIRST.

Not if there's time left.

Not after everything else gets done.

Not when life slows down.

First.

And I'm talking to myself here too.

It's amazing how quickly I can find time for something I really want to do, while telling myself I'm too busy for something I know I need to do.

Men, fighting for our faith doesn't mean adding another religious obligation to our calendar.

It means recognizing that our relationship with Christ is the foundation for everything else on the calendar.

If we're going to fight for our marriages...

Our children...

Our integrity...

And the people God has placed in our lives...

We better fight for our relationship with Him first.

So here's the Truth Tuesday challenge.

Take an honest look at yesterday.

Where did God fit into your day?

Then look at today.

Don't just try to fit Him in.

PUT HIM FIRST.

That's where we begin when we Fight for What Matters.

Be Bold. Be Strong. Be The One.

Tommy Wallis
Be The One Ministries

MISSION MONDAY — FIGHT FOR WHAT MATTERSGuys, we're starting a new topic this month:FIGHT FOR WHAT MATTERSLast month was ...
05/10/2026

MISSION MONDAY — FIGHT FOR WHAT MATTERS

Guys, we're starting a new topic this month:

FIGHT FOR WHAT MATTERS

Last month was Built for the Battle.

This month we're going to ask a different question:

WHAT ARE YOU FIGHTING FOR?

Because we only have so much time.

So much energy.

So much influence.

And if we're not careful, we can spend all three fighting things that really don't matter.

I've done it.

I've fought to be right.

I've fought over things people said about me.

I've spent energy on battles that, looking back, weren't worth what I gave them.

Paul told Timothy:

“Fight the good fight of the faith.” — 1 Timothy 6:12

Notice Paul didn't just tell him to fight.

He told him to fight the GOOD fight.

That's where we're going in October.

We're going to talk about fighting for:

Our faith.
Our marriage and family.
Our integrity.
The next generation.

Not every disagreement deserves your response.

Not every criticism deserves your attention.

Not every battle deserves your energy.

But some things are worth fighting for.

And this week, we're starting with the most important one:

FIGHT FOR YOUR FAITH.

Before we can lead our families, protect our integrity, or influence the next generation, our own relationship with Christ has to be the priority.

So this month, don't just ask:

“What am I fighting against?”

Ask:

“WHAT AM I FIGHTING FOR?”

Let's Fight for What Matters.

Be Bold. Be Strong. Be The One.

Tommy Wallis
Be The One Ministries

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