25/08/2024
Depends on individual circumstances and varying demeanour of each of our fellow female human beings who are Mothers. It doesn’t automatically mean that this particular statement applies to a one size fits all. For a start the Mother has to be okay in herself in order to be okay for her child and if she completely sacrifices herself in the thought that she is giving her child/children the best then this is actually a paradoxical error and a subconscious form of self-sabotage. Her children will have picked up on it from the energy she exudes from when they were babies in the crib and time passes and children grow, but it doesn’t mean that they don’t notice or have some kind of perception of what she is feeling. They learn to become good actresses/actors (just as she believes she is) because they don’t want to make her feel worse than she already does. When they are older it can mutate and cause problems. Possibly resulting in resentment. You can make housework fun and get the kids to join in to help with light duties (increasing and adjusting to their age range) and earn a small amount of money (say 50p for hoovering one room or 25p to sweep up the lawn path, or whatever) but it gives them a chance to understand the value of money and doesn’t take away their childhood, quite the opposite.. it helps them to prepare to be self sufficient - a vital life skill. Why can’t the Mother include the child in the preparation and the cleanup of the baking? Why then can’t she thank the child for their help and participation in the more difficult tasks and tell her child that she appreciates it and having spent time with them. As for photography, well unless we are going back in time.. as far as I am aware (nay, DEFINITELY AWARE) on account of the fact of having owned multiple genres of cameras and they have a “Self-Timer” setting as do Smart Phones so she can be included in the same photographs. If she is not fortunate enough to be able to own any of those, you can use an old fashioned circa 90’s camera with a film roll and ask a neighbour to take a photograph. Unless in the most direst or unfortunate of circumstances, there is usually a solution to most problems. But then it’s better for people to live in ignorance and wallow because Human Beings are hard-wired for chaos and actually making an effort to fix the issue is too difficult. It falls on the children who when they grow up and start families of their own, tend to seek out partners similar to those of their parents and then repeat the same cycle again with their own children. It’s an everlasting loop. Very rarely does it get broken. That’s how it is every day. It’s absolutely devastating.
