13/08/2023
Ramblings week 89 – Mothers Day in Retrospect
I have to smile that here we are in the midst of Lent – doubtless giving up chocolates and unnecessary expense – and wow – all that confectionary piled high on the shelves, and all those higher priced flowers along with a whole range of cards -£2.50 plus – suggesting that Mothers everywhere do not know how they are valued unless they are showered with Cholesterol enhancing gifts or short-lived blossoms around the house. The cards of course will last a life time.
Mary, the mother of Jesus, has long been portrayed as the ‘pattern of motherhood’ – Canonised, statues, paintings and churches named after her. Maybe we should start with Luke 1 – the Magnificat – [My soul magnifies the Lord] – “Surely from now on all generations will call me blessed” (the Greek here is not ‘makarious’ (blessed are the poor...) but ‘eulogeo’ (to be spoken well of, to be envied) – So the prediction is that Mary will be well spoken of – respected – envied.
We meet Mary when Jesus is presented at the Temple – Luke 2 –
34Then Simeon blessed them and said to Mary, his mother: “This child is destined to cause the falling and rising of many in Israel, and to be a sign that will be spoken against, 35so that the thoughts of many hearts will be revealed. And a sword will pierce your own soul too.”
The word ‘falling’ may be understood as ‘ruin’ whilst ‘rising’ Strong’s Dictionary gives us
Definition: a standing up, a resurrection, a raising up, rising
Usage: a rising again, resurrection.
Interesting!!
Again we meet her when Jesus is 12 years old, and they (one presumes this is all the family) go to Jerusalem for the Passover Festival – Today there would be a Police Report and the involvement of the Social Services for neglect - ?abandonment – leaving a mi nor behind in that great city amongst so great a crowd of people for 3 days – AND then it is interesting that Mary says first of all “Why have you done this to us” – I take it to mean “Why have you disgraced us before the family” – She had forgotten that now 12, he is an adult – he is responsible for himself – he must be allowed to fly the nest, but she resists this.
Then again, she is at the wedding at Cana – John 2 – “1 On the third day a wedding took place at Cana in Galilee. Jesus’ mother was there, 2 and Jesus and His disciples had also been invited to the wedding..... does this mean that Mary is a single Mum now?? No mention of Joseph which would be usual if he was alive and with the family. But it is interesting John doesn’t name her, yet clearly she takes the “boss” role – she is giving instructions to the “diakanos” –servants or those running the wedding arrangements –
And again, Mark 3
31Then Jesus’ mother and brothers arrived. Standing outside, they sent someone in to call him. 32A crowd was sitting around him, and they told him, “Your mother and brothers are outside looking for you.” 33“Who are my mother and my brothers?” he asked. 34Then he looked at those seated in a circle around him and said, “Here are my mother and my brothers! 35Whoever does God’s will is my brother and sister and mother.”
This could be seen to reinforce the fact of Joseph’s demise – but it also presents Mary as the head of the household, sending in for Jesus to come out to her – she doesn’t go in. Jesus’ words are almost a rebuke to her – note he puts her last – brother – sister – mother. Again she is given no name.
So let us now go to the point where the mother loses her son – John 19
25Near the cross of Jesus stood his mother, his mother’s sister, Mary the wife of Clopas, and Mary Magdalene.26When Jesus saw his mother there, and the disciple whom he loved standing nearby, he said to her, “Woman, b here is your son,” 27and to the disciple, “Here is your mother.” From that time on, this disciple took her into his home.
The four women – three called Mary! In this scene, Jesus, having been the head of the ‘Joseph’ household as clearly there is no Joseph any more, puts Mary his mother under the care of ‘the disciple Jesus loved’ – this was almost a last will and testimony – it would mean that all the ‘Joseph household’ along with its assets and responsibilities, now passed to ?John (we presume). I believe that Jesus delayed his ministry until the youngest male was 12 years old – that is had become an adult in his own right and so Jesus’ responsibilities really came down just to his mother.
Now in the garden. John tells the story of Mary Magdalene – Mary from Magdala – had she been a loose woman – a woman of deep psychiatric problems? But it her that goes to the tomb on that morning – not Jesus’ mother – we do not hear of her again except for Acts 1
14They all joined together constantly in prayer, along with the women and Mary the mother of Jesus, and with his brothers.
Then – not by name – Paul says in Galatians 4 “4But when the set time had fully come, God sent his Son, born of a woman, born under the law, ...”
So what do we make of all this? Proverbs says “Who can find a virtuous woman for price is far above rubies” Proverbs 31 v10. My guess she was quite a woman – that she didn’t go to the tomb is very understandable – the future, whilst yes she would be part of John’s household – would be uncertain – she would no longer be the effective head of her household – But what of her as a mother? Like so many today, Palestine in the first century was far from sweetness, peace and light. Justice was very rough – debt was severe – slavery by virtue of being sold to repay debt – So much we don’t know, yet she managed – she did the requirements of the law with Joseph until Jesus was of age. How did Jesus feel about his mother? The scene given us by John is warm and tender – caring for his mother as he hung upon the cross. Acts shows us a mother who has kept the family together as pious lady supporting her group and community –
All that said, I can’t help feeling that a great deal has been ‘created’ around her story – legend or myth has come about long years after her demise – Her role has been almost as a beacon for the cause of women, but alas it has also be a means to contain women – and that she gets overtaken by the events unfolding in acts – the work of Paul really knows nothing of her at all – yet he – within his culture – upholds the value of women – As Paul says in Galatians 3
28 There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.
On a personal note, I would love society to give more value to the virtues of women over and above child rearing, yet at the same time, give value to men in the rearing of children – we are too polarised, and fall short of allowing much greater freedom of all the gifts that both male and female have