JIL Speaks

01/07/2024

03/06/2024

20 THINGS MARRIED PEOPLE WANT SINGLE PEOPLE TO KNOW

1. Marriage is not just about s*x. Don't let s*x lead you to marry wrong.

2. Marry someone who is your choice, not your parent's choice, your friend's choice or society's choice.

3. Marry your best friend, someone you love talking to. Pillow talks are very important in marriage.

4. Invest more in your marriage than your wedding. Don't go into debt to please people who won't be there in your marriage.

5. When you grow older, your need for companionship will increase. Do not suppress your need for love.

6. Finances are a big deal in marriage. Get your accounts ready and learn proper financial management.

7. The foundation you lay during dating determines the quality of your marriage.

8. Finalize things with your exes before you get married, lest your past comes to mess up your future marriage.

9. Practice s*xual discipline in your singlehood or you will struggle to be faithful in marriage.

10. Please understand when a married friend can't spend that much time with you as before. Family comes first but your friendship still matters.

11. Buy books and read articles on marriage, study the institution of marriage before you get in it.

12. Don't be scared of marriage. It is simply spending the rest of your life with your best friend.

13. Commit to someone who is ready for marriage spiritually, emotionally and mentally just like you; lest they let you down and your growth becomes uneven.

14. Involve God in singlehood, dating, courtship, and right through marriage. Many married people abandon God then wonder why their marriage is a mess.

15. If you are not a team player who can accept correction and help, don't get married, you will only frustrate your spouse.

16. Love is possible, it all depends on who you commit to and how you two manage your love.

17. Love can be so simple but human beings tend to complicate it. Find someone easy to love.

18. Leave our husbands and wives alone. Find your own to build with.

19. Don't think marriage comes to complete you. Find yourself preferably before marriage because the demands of marriage and parenthood can easily kill your dreams, vision and purpose if you are not a well defined individual.

20. Marry for the right reasons. Motive determines whether your marriage will last or fail.

By Dayan Masinde and Akello Oliech

01/06/2024

Welcome to the 1st Half of the year 2024🍾🥳🎉

28/05/2024

𝙃𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧 𝙝𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙩𝙚𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩, 𝙬𝙖𝙞𝙩 𝙤𝙣 𝙂𝙤𝙙❓

𝘿𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙚𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙘𝙩𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙞𝙩 𝙨𝙚𝙚𝙢𝙨 𝙣𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙩𝙝❓

𝙅𝙤𝙞𝙣 𝙢𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙏𝙝𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙙𝙖𝙮 𝙣𝙞𝙜𝙝𝙩 𝙖𝙨 𝙄 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙗𝙚 𝙩𝙚𝙖𝙘𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙏𝙤𝙥𝙞𝙘, 𝙒𝘼𝙄𝙏𝙄𝙉𝙂 𝙊𝙉 𝙂𝙊𝘿🙋🏽‍♀️




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22/05/2024

So our Guest Speaker on JIL SPEAKS Ayomiposi Tomilola recommended this movie after the FEMALE GE***AL MUTILATION online seminar we recently concluded.

I recommended it to JIL SPEAKS audience for them to prepare for the quiz coming up tomorrow but after watching it personally, the lessons I learnt are beyond watching it for the quiz.

So interesting and Emotional.

We must say NO to FEMALE GE***AL MUTILATION!

10/05/2024

𝙁𝙞𝙣𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮, 𝙁𝙀𝙈𝘼𝙇𝙀 𝙂𝙀𝙉𝙄𝙏𝘼𝙇 𝙈𝙐𝙏𝙄𝙇𝘼𝙏𝙄𝙊𝙉, 𝙈𝙔𝙏𝙃𝙎 & 𝙁𝘼𝘾𝙏𝙎 𝙤𝙣𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙚 𝙨𝙚𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙖𝙧 𝙬𝙖𝙨 𝙖 𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙝𝙪𝙜𝙚 𝙨𝙪𝙘𝙘𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙄 𝙖𝙢 𝙘𝙚𝙧𝙩𝙖𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙖𝙣𝙮𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙬𝙝𝙤 𝙬𝙖𝙨 𝙥𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙚𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙖𝙧 𝙜𝙤𝙩 𝙜𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩 𝙫𝙖𝙡𝙪𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙖𝙜𝙧𝙚𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙢𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙪𝙗𝙡𝙞𝙘𝙞𝙩𝙮 𝙬𝙖𝙨 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙩𝙝 𝙞𝙩.

𝙏𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙠 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙨𝙤 𝙢𝙪𝙘𝙝 Ayomiposi Tomilola 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙖 𝙟𝙤𝙗 𝙬𝙚𝙡𝙡 𝙙𝙤𝙣𝙚, 𝙞𝙩 𝙬𝙖𝙨 𝙖 𝙬𝙤𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧𝙛𝙪𝙡 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙖𝙧𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙 𝙢𝙖

𝘼𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙩𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙚 𝙬𝙝𝙤 𝙍𝙀𝙋𝙊𝙎𝙏𝙀𝘿 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙚-𝙛𝙡𝙮𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 𝙏𝙞𝙢𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙚𝙨, 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙢𝙮 𝙝𝙪𝙜𝙨 𝙤𝙛 𝘼𝙥𝙥𝙧𝙚𝙘𝙞𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣🙏🏽😍.

09/05/2024

𝙁𝙞𝙣𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮, 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙙𝙖𝙮 𝙞𝙨 𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚, 𝙄 𝙖𝙢 𝙩𝙤𝙤 𝙚𝙭𝙘𝙞𝙩𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙬𝙖𝙞𝙩 💃🏽

𝙅𝙤𝙞𝙣 𝙪𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙧𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙠 𝙗𝙚𝙡𝙤𝙬 𝙖𝙨 𝙬𝙚 𝙣𝙖𝙫𝙞𝙜𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙁𝙀𝙈𝘼𝙇𝙀 𝙂𝙀𝙉𝙄𝙏𝘼𝙇 𝙈𝙐𝙏𝙄𝙇𝘼𝙏𝙄𝙊𝙉, 𝙈𝙔𝙏𝙃𝙎 & 𝙁𝘼𝘾𝙏𝙎

𝙏𝙞𝙢𝙚: 8:30𝙋𝙈 𝙉𝙞𝙜𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙖𝙣 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚



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08/05/2024

EMOTIONAL DISTANCING

DON'T BE HIS/HER BESTIE IF:

1) THEY ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP/MARRIED

You call them, check on them, go on outings and dates with them in the absence of their partner, somebody that is in a Relationship/Married oh, You've simply being employed as side chic/guy without your knowledge

He or she is using you to kill boredom, and satisfy their emotions when the main person is acting up, or not around, that's an emotional affair on their part.

They have turned you into their Comforter, when you're not the Holy Spirit. Run oh.

2) THEY HAVE SHOWN THEY HAVE NO FEELINGS FOR YOU.

So they have shown they have no interest in you as a lover, even said so, yet they are still calling you their bestie, enjoying it as you carry out best friend duties, whereas you are dying inside from your desire for them, ignoring suitors all because their calling you their bestie is giving you hope,

OR you are the one gunning for the bestie position, hoping that by the time they see your capabilities as bestie, they will change their mind, oshei, you are simply writing a Letter of Application for Admission into the University of Heartbreak.

Respect yourself, carry your heart and emotions and go, maintain the friendship, but do so with BOUNDARIES to protect your heart.

3) YOU BOTH HAVE FEELINGS FOR EACH OTHER BUT THEY ARE WITH SOMEONE ELSE.

You will end up with "it was the devil"

"I don't know what came over me"

"We didn't mean to"

Don't keep yam and goat in the same room..

You will end up with a well fed goat and a missing yam.
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Protect your Heart from emotional misuse and abuse.

Because if you don't, who will?

(c) Musa Gift

07/05/2024

Something we need to ponder 🤔 on

06/05/2024

𝙊𝙣𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙢𝙮 𝙘𝙝𝙞𝙡𝙙𝙝𝙤𝙤𝙙 𝙈𝙮𝙩𝙝𝙨 𝙤𝙧 𝙗𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙚𝙛𝙨 𝙄 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙘𝙚𝙧𝙣𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙁𝙚𝙢𝙖𝙡𝙚 𝙂𝙚𝙣𝙞𝙩𝙖𝙡 𝙈𝙪𝙩𝙞𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 (𝙁𝙚𝙢𝙖𝙡𝙚 𝘾𝙞𝙧𝙘𝙪𝙢𝙘𝙞𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣) 𝙞𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙞𝙩 𝙝𝙚𝙡𝙥𝙨 𝙩𝙤 𝙠𝙚𝙚𝙥 𝙛𝙚𝙢𝙖𝙡𝙚 𝙨𝙚𝙭𝙪𝙖𝙡 𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙚𝙩𝙞𝙩𝙚 𝙞𝙣 𝙘𝙝𝙚𝙘𝙠 🌚.

𝘼𝙣𝙮𝙬𝙖𝙮𝙨, 𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙨 𝙖𝙣 𝙤𝙣𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙚 𝙨𝙚𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙖𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝘿𝙚𝙢𝙮𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙛𝙮 𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙈𝙮𝙩𝙝𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙚𝙡𝙡 𝙪𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙡 𝙛𝙖𝙘𝙩 𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙁𝙚𝙢𝙖𝙡𝙚 𝙂𝙚𝙣𝙞𝙩𝙖𝙡 𝙈𝙪𝙩𝙞𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣.

𝙒𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙖𝙧𝙚/𝙬𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙢𝙮𝙩𝙝𝙨 𝙤𝙧 𝙛𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙨 𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙨𝙪𝙗𝙟𝙚𝙘𝙩 𝙢𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙚𝙧❓ 𝙡𝙚𝙩❜𝙨 𝙙𝙞𝙨𝙘𝙪𝙨𝙨 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙠 𝙗𝙚𝙡𝙤𝙬 𝙤𝙣 𝙈𝙖𝙮 9𝙩𝙝

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