01/04/2026
🇺🇸 “Phil Conner (1969 - April 1, 1995) pictured here just three days before his death, was one of my best friends. I met him when I moved to North Georgia and did carpentry work in my home. We just clicked.
Phil was funny, fun to be with, an animal lover and a gentleman. He was built like a rock. Not from working out but from being a hard working man. Born in the mountains of north Georgia and had never left.
We could go out dancing in Atlanta and I never had to worry about any other men bothering me! We were two human beings dedicated to our deep friendship. We were young, carefree, and life was good.
In June 1994, after not feeling well for months, Phil finally made an appointment with his physician who asked if he could do a HIV test. The test showed “full-blown” AIDS. On the advice of his doctors, he quit working.
Phil’s family shunned him. So he moved in with me. We went to every doctor’s appointment together, studied the information on every new medication. I slept on the floor in his hospital room when his immune system kicked his ass. We also went traveling. Phil had never seen the ocean and off we went on a 10 day vacation.
On Thursday, March 30, 1995, we went to see his physician for a checkup. Phil was losing weight and becoming ill. Dementia was beginning to rear its ugly head. He was given 3 months to live. On the way home, we stopped at the funeral home where he wanted his service to be. Phil picked out his own casket and planned his own service.
Friday, March 31, was a day of cartoons (his favourites) and visits from good friends. We all stayed up late. At midnight, Phil retreated to his bedroom. I popped my head in to say, “Good night”, and he looked at the clock and realized it was after midnight. It was April 1, my birthday. Phil wished me, “Happy Birthday” and told me how much he loved me.
How Phil remembered my birthday, I will never know. Dementia kept him from remembering what day it was by this time. The next morning when I took breakfast in to him, I realized Phil had passed away.
I think of Phil and miss him. My good, true friend so much every day.” 📖 by Misha