12/04/2026
Where my ladies in the building? 📢 📢 📢 This one is especially for you but I also need men to pay close attention and tell what they think cuz it concerns relationships and marriage.
Ladies have you ever felt like you were walking on eggshells around your man? Every conversation you try to have about stuff you disagree on is either blown out of proportion or dismissed as a nonevent. Are your feelings or opinions being invalidated or suppressed with statements like “what will you do about it?” “I know you lost trust in me a longtime ago”, “I’m more stressed than you”? Does your man always turn every situation to make it look like it was your fault? Literally walk out on you, ignore you or physically avoid you each time you try to talk out your issues??? These and more are some of the things men put women through on a daily, tormenting them to a level that they start questioning themselves? “Was it my fault?” “Where did I go wrong?” “Did I use the right words?” Sometimes making them question their value and self worth.
Dear men how would you describe a man who treats his wife/partner as such? Please be honest. Yea I know most of you would say women and their wahala or that I’m being biased. No matter the scenario, should a husband be dismissive of his wife’s opinions and feelings as such? Torture in marriage is not only physical, it can also be psychological and emotional. There are men out there who act all self righteous especially to outsiders while silently tormenting their wives. These are usually the type that come across as being very kind, generous especially to outsiders and most people would find it difficult to believe that they treat their wives that way. As a man you’ve failed woefully if you can confidently say to your wife’s face that you know she lost trust in you a longtime ago yet you’re doing little or nothing to change the narrative. If you’re one of such men I urge you today to take a step back and think deep about your actions and redress the situation. Women need empathetic men who can be there for them when they’re sad or worried.
To my lovely ladies out there if you find yourself in this or a similar situation I want you to hold your head high and be strong. I know the situation can be emotionally and psychologically challenging but don’t despair. Don’t be silenced by letting the narrative be flipped to “it’s all your fault “. Continue keeping it together, praying and looking for knew ways of getting through to them. If they’re willing to, go for therapy if need be. Explore all possible solutions but NEVER let them rubbish yourself esteem. Let me know your thoughts.
Let’s talk about this in the comments section.
Happy Sunday my people
Shalom 🙏🏽
