02/25/2026
Whenever I walk through the doors of an evangelical church, it is an experience of mixed emotions. It doesn’t happen a lot anymore, at most a couple of times a year, occasionally out of my own volition, but more often as part of family visits.
These rare Sunday mornings come with a great deal of personal angst. When I take my first step onto the walkway to the church's front door, I feel like the prodigal son returning to a home that once felt so safe. Before entering the church, I take a deep breath to mentally prepare for what lies ahead.
Once inside, I’m greeted warmly at the door and offered a bulletin. As a piano plays in the background, I enter the sanctuary and quickly take my seat. I stare at the bulletin, pretending to read it while feeling others' eyes on me. A few people stop by and introduce themselves, shake my hand, and welcome me to their church. Their names and even their faces are a blur as the forgotten familiarity of these surroundings rushes back. That feeling of nostalgia.
The service finally begins with the pastor welcoming everyone and offering a special greeting to visitors. My eyes immediately return to the bulletin, eliminating any chance of making eye contact with her.
After a list of announcements and a few odds and ends, everyone is asked to stand and the music begins. Two electric guitars and a young kid on a drum set start rocking out to the first song, "How Great Is Our God," A song letting God know that we know how awesome God is. In the corner of my eye, I see someone’s hand begin to rise. Before long, more go up. By the time the second song begins, half the church has their arms in the air, some with both extended upward in a vee, others with just one hand, fingers stretched out reaching towards the heavens. And there is always at least one introvert in the crowd, elbows tucked tightly to their side, hand raised ever so slightly in front of their chest, nervously shifting their weight from one foot to the other. By this time, my anxiety is rising, I keep my slightly shaking hands firmly in my pockets, as my whole body tenses.
Other songs follow, a quick succession of identical-sounding high-energy music, repeatedly marvelling at the power and beauty of God and the salvation found in the name of Jesus. Then suddenly things become more quiet, more intimate, as the music becomes personal.
After a couple of ballad-like songs, the singing stops and the instruments continue to play quietly in the background. The worship leader, in a reverent yet urgent tone, offers a prayer acknowledging Jesus’ worthiness to receive all of the praise given, while invoking the Holy Spirit to speak to the hearts of all those in the sanctuary.
An invitation is extended for anyone to come up to the front of the sanctuary to kneel and pray. The singing begins again, this time on the theme of surrendering to God. Individuals leave their seats, first one, then another, and then five more to make their way up to the altar.
In the quiet I can hear a soft sob echoing from the front. There is a pit in my stomach the size of a grapefruit and I begin to feel nauseous. I sit down, take out a hymnal and flip through it, landing on the section with the Christmas carols, trying to find some normalcy in this bizarre world that was once so familiar.
Mercifully, after 45 minutes, this praise-and-worship part of the service ends, people return to their seats, and I can feel my anxiety subsiding. The scripture is read, the minister preaches her sermon, and a final song is sung. After the service I spend a few minutes chatting with various people. And I leave that church with two thoughts. First, how lovely the people are. And second, thank goodness it’s over.
I am an introverted, non-conformist. As an introvert, I am socially uncomfortable in any church, especially the praise and worship portion of a typical evangelical service. As a non-conformist, my natural inclination is to sit when others stand, read when others sing, and keep my hands in my pockets when others have theirs in the air. My temperament is not a good fit for this style of worship.
But it goes deeper than that. Despite the awkward fit, there was a time when I found value in this experience. As a young teen, the music was emotionally moving to the point of feeling something bordering on spiritual inspiration. But in my adult years, worship services like this have no emotional impact beyond inciting anxiety. What happened to me? What happened to the music?
In our current culture, contemporary Christian music, or CCM, is not simply a blip on the radar of popular music. It is a multi-billion-dollar industry, one of the largest and fastest-growing genres in the music world. And praise and worship music is front and centre.
In my last reflections on the music industry, I described it as a creatively hollowed-out assembly line of monotonous, soulless hit singles, where a few unknown producers and songwriters are responsible for the majority of the songs we hear on the radio.
The contemporary Christian music scene mirrors this to a tee. It is a creatively hollowed-out assembly line of monotonous, soulless worship songs, where a few relatively unknown producers and songwriters are responsible for the majority of music played in evangelical, non-denominational, and charismatic churches.
A 2023 Worship Leader Research (WLR) study showed that 95% of the most-used worship and praise songs originate from just four megachurches: Elevation in Charlotte, Bethel Community Church in Redding, California, Hillsong in Australia, and Passion City Church in Atlanta.
If you go to an evangelical, non-denominational, or charismatic church anywhere in the world, there is a strong chance that every praise and worship song you will hear originate from one of these four communities. Like Max Martin and Dr. Luke who perfected the formula for writing hit singles for the mainstream music world, these mega churches have their own formula for creating accessible, emotionally expressive worship songs around which so many churches build their services.
This music all sounds very similar, a plug-and-play sound that fits seamlessly into every service, regardless of the overall theme. Lyrically, it is predictable with a lot of Christian tropes. The lyrics tend to go from one extreme of feeding God's ego to the other end of the spectrum where the worshipper is the centre of God’s universe. The music is an exercise in affirmation and simplification of what to believe, meant to evoke ecstasy rather than reflection, obedience rather than questioning.
It’s not that I don’t see value in it. The value, as I see it, and I trust those within evangelicalism would agree, is that this time of praise and worship is it’s own form of spiritual discipline. For these communities, repetitive singing is essentially prayer set to music, meant to move spirituality from the brain to the heart, deepening intimacy with Jesus rather than merely talking about God. The concept of a personal relationship with Jesus is somewhat foreign to many people in other Christian traditions.
With that understanding, Is this use of music in this way any different from praying a psalm over and over again? Is it different from the use of the rosary? Or the silence we use here? Because if it’s not, why does it not work for me? Why does it give me the heebie-jeebies? Why do I feel so uncomfortable in that atmosphere?
For me, the disconnect between the loving God they are singing about, with a God sends people to hell to burn for eternity because they didn’t “believe” in the right way, is jarring. Through worship music they are ignoring the fact that this is the same God who deems a loving relationship between two people of the same s*x as abomination, causes hurricanes and and chooses not to cure cancer -whose ability to forgive is solely dependent upon the crucifixion of an innocent man. I cannot in good conscience sing songs of praise to this God nor will I ever again kneel down at an altar and pray to this God.
And so we come to the story of Abraham. God asks Abraham to do the unthinkable: sacrifice his son Isaac as a show of obedience. And Abraham goes along with it, knowing full well that what he is about to do is awful. There is a reason he avoids letting Isaac and those travelling with him know what he is about to do. Abraham shuts off the rational part of his brain that must have known only an evil god would ask this of him.
The fact that God stops him before he goes through with it matters little. The point of the story was not whether God would stop Abraham, but whether Abraham would put his trust in God despite what was asked of him. Abraham does and God blesses him for it.
I believe in the goodness of most of people within Evangelical Christianity. The idea of hell, issues of same-s*x marriage, the problem of evil, and atonement theory are largely downplayed and disregard, focusing instead most of their spiritual energy singing their songs of worship and praise. I know very few people, in these traditions, who are passionate about protecting these concepts. I think most in evangelicalism wish these problematic inconsistencies did not exist, and try not to think about them. Their particular style of worship offers the ability to ignore those harder questions. Like Abraham, there is a blind trust that God’s love will triumph, and all of these things that seem so contradictory will someday make sense.
There is another story in the Bible, a few chapters later, about Abraham’s grandson, Jacob. In this account, Jacob wrestles with an unnamed adversary, later identified as God.. The struggle lasts throughout the night, and is so violent that Jacob’s hip is dislocated. Yet he refuses to let God go until God blesses him. Jacob named the place of the encounter Peniel, because he saw God face to face, and did not lose his life. God renames Jacob Israel, because he has struggled with God and with man and has overcome. Jacob walked away from the fight with a limp and God’s blessing.
Two different stories, two different men, two very different ways to receive God’s blessing. I identify strongly with Jacob. I have gone to battle against God, the God of evangelicalism and walked away with that spiritual fire still burning within me. Yes, I now walk with a limp, carrying my share of religious baggage and doubts. It’s little wonder that the music that speaks to me comes from people who have struggled, who question, who put their doubts into lyrics and melody.
Contemporary worship and praise music can created a culture of theological complacency. And for many people, that's fine. They can live their lives, trusting in the goodness of God, and feel blessed without having to wrestle with some of the conceptual difficulties others do. But it does come at a cost. They sacrifice wisdom for comfort, theological resiliency for spiritual simplicity.
One of the dangers of being subservient to this God of praise-and-worship music is that God is so easily manipulated by those who control the message. The harshness of their Christian God is allowed to go unchallenged. What happens when these two worlds eventually collide?
What happens when the God of worship music is also the one who dooms children to hell?
Everyone who attends these evangelical, non-denominational and charismatic churches must, at some point, decide whether to get into the ring and go to battle with this God. Some don’t, and simply immerse themselves further in the world of praise and worship, shutting off that part of their brains. Theirs is a religion of the heart.
I know many people like this, and they are amazing. They love Jesus. They love their neighbours. Most minimal interest in fighting for or opposing same-s*x marriage or discussing hell. They are the quiet majority. There is a trust in God that things will one day make sense, and that is good enough. Staying out of the ring allows them to continue to believe in the God of their worship music. And like Abraham, their obedience comes with a blessing.
The problem is that many do eventually get into the ring. And they have not built any spiritual resilience or theological flexibility to go to battle, because their intellectual diet has only consisted of praise and worship songs. All they’ve known is a rigid, black and white understanding of God. When they wrestle with this God and lose, most leave the church with a broken faith.
I’m not saying people shouldn't listen to praise and worship music, but we all need much greater exposure to music with a limp, music that pushes against the Christian establishment and an incoherent view of God. We need music in our churches written by people who grapple with doubt and hopelessness, and is honest that sometimes religion is a struggle. Most importantly, music with a limp encourages and better equips those who have left the church, with a broken faith, to get back into the ring for one more round with God.
Closing
The church I grew up in is only a half dozen blocks from here. Some of my best memories and deepest personal connections were made within those walls. It’s been close to ten years since I’ve been inside the building. It exists as this sacred space in my head; maybe I don’t return because I don’t want this image to be spoiled.
I completed my undergraduate studies at an evangelical college of the same denomination. Both places have their fair share of praise-and-worship music theology. It was in this atmosphere that my deep love for the Christian faith and the importance of a relationship with God were formed.
But in these environments I was also exposed to some much deeper ideas. I credit my father and the professors, who challenged the simplistic way I read the Bible and thought about theology and social issues. Looking back, I realize they were laying the groundwork for me not to go to battle against the world, sin, or the devil, but to get into the ring and fight with God. The fact that I am here, still passionate about this faith, has a lot to do with those who took the time and care to prepare me.