06/22/2026
“Husband of one wife.”
One of the complementarian striking points on the issue of women in ministry is Paul’s directive for an overseer or elder to be, “husband of one wife.” (1 Tim. 3:2; Titus 1:5-6) At issue is women having authority over men as overseers, and elders as those that teach the Church therefore having authority over men. The argument is, "See, Paul was speaking to men only."
If I were to be snarky, I would just say, “Well, duh. That’s not something you have to tell women because they get that.” But we’ll go deeper. And deeper isn’t that hard to figure out.
Paul was resetting something in the household of God that had gone off the rails by at least 3000 B.C. Lamech, the great-great-great grandson of Cain was noted as having two wives. He was also a double murderer and a vile, ill-tempered man. (Gen. 4: 18-19, 23-24)
The setup for this was the fall into sin in the garden. Since that time, instead of humanity operating by honor and reverence for God and His creation, the earth realm became the stronger ruling over the weaker. Some of the results of this fall were the subjugation of women and polygamy. That subject is for expansion another day.
Paul dealt delicately in setting things in order within the church in relation to societal order. Head coverings, for example. Again, more expansion another day. Christianity was already a huge upset to social order, particularly in the worship setting.
But in the matter of marriage and church leadership, he laid it out – husband of one wife. Not two, three, twelve, or seven hundred as Solomon indulged himself. Back to the beginning, just as Jesus pointed to. (Matt. 19:4-5)
So, in saying that a leader must be the husband of one wife, was Paul excluding women from leadership in the church? No.