09/10/2026
Dear friends;
It seems that conversations about forgiveness have been surrounding me outside of parish work recently. I had a conversation a few weeks ago with an acquaintance who is not a believer, surrounding forgiveness. Specifically, we were talking about all the issues in the world and how often one should forgive those in power who continue making egregious mistakes. Funny enough, I brought up this passage – not knowing it was our reading this week! – though I referenced a different translation which suggests we must forgive “seventy times seven” times. I did make the joke “But on that four hundred and ninety-first time, though…”
Forgiveness is such a challenging thing, and seemingly always has been. Last week our scripture reminded us how to address conflict with another, and this week, directly after that, we have Peter’s question about how often we have to forgive. It’s not something we, as humans, seem to do willingly or frequently. Maybe that’s because it so often involves an element of hurt and suffering. It’s hard to come back from hurt, and to trust the person who hurt us after that. And yet, as Christians, we are a people who believe that others can change. That’s what we are invited to demonstrate when we forgive.
Now, this passage – along with the “turn the other cheek” message delivered in another section of our gospels – could be misused to encourage people to stay in unsafe and harmful situations, and I don’t believe that was the message Jesus was going for here. It’s not about allowing ourselves to be harmed over and over again. It’s about recognizing that we all have the opportunity to change, to be better versions of ourselves, and that often that can be through seeking forgiveness, forgiving ourselves, and forgiving one another.
Where do you need to seek or offer forgiveness in your life?
Peace,
Cate
Selected verse from this week's readings:
Jesus said to him, ‘Not seven times, but, I tell you, seventy-seven times. ~Romans 13: 8