10/17/2026
How can you think like Jesus about dating?
While the Bible does not give commands or rules specifically about dating, Christians can honour God in their dating relationships by thinking like Jesus about dating.
1. Delight in God first
Every thought Jesus had was borne out of his love for the Father. So, if you want to think like Jesus about dating, you need to love God first and foremost when entering into dating.
This will help ensure that the love you direct toward a dating partner and potential future spouse will not be a selfish love. After all, the two greatest commandments imply that true love for another necessarily flows from our true love for God. (Matt. 22:36-40)
2. You need the Holy Spirit
Jesus was empowered by the Holy Spirit. We need the Holy Spirit’s empowerment to:
- Love God first and foremost
- Practise patience and self-control when faced with sexual desire and deciding whether or not someone is a good choice as a spouse
3. Seeing the future as God sees it
Jesus saw everything through the lens of the Grand Story of the Bible. This means that your choice of a spouse should line up with God’s eternal priorities for marriage.
A few of these priorities include you and your future spouse…
- becoming united together with Christ (1 Cor. 6:14-15)
- growing together in holiness (Eph. 5:21-33)
- raising godly offspring, if you start a family (Eph. 6:4)
4. Glorify God with your Body
Just prior to going to the cross, Jesus prayed: “Father, the hour has come; glorify Your Son, that the Son may glorify You,” (John 17:1)
He prayed this prayer because the goal of everything Jesus thought and did was to glorify God.
In the same way, thinking like Jesus about dating includes accepting that your body and your sexuality is not your own. It belongs to God.
And so, as the Apostle Paul says, “Glorify God with your body.” (1 Cor. 6:20)