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11/07/2018

La puerta de los caballos era la puerta de la guerra. Así que esta enseñanza vas a poder identificar las batallas por las cuales estamos pasando y contra quien realmente estamos peliando.

11/07/2018

En el libro de Nehemías este varón de Dios vuelve de la cautividad a Jerusalén para reconstruir la muralla fortificada y sus puertas que habían sido destruidas cuando el pueblo de Judá fue llevado prisionero a Babilonia. En esta serie estaré hablando de cada una de esas puertas, de su signific...

11/06/2018

En esta enseñanza aprenderas un principio espiritual que transformara tu entendimiento acerca de la oración, y te empoderara para orar con poder y efectividad.

05/21/2017

Relational ROUTINES
National Center for Biblical Parenting

Most kids benefit from schedule routines to keep life predictable. But take a moment and look at the relational routines that exist in your family. In some homes we have the arguing routine, or the resistance routine, or the whining when I don’t get my way routine.

Those patterns that exist in relationships can change but it requires intentional effort on the part of the parents. If not addresses they become more entrenched in family life and develop into an unhealthy normal.

One of the mistakes parents makes is to overuse correction to try to change behavior. Correction is good but it can wear out as a primary change strategy. Parents end up focusing on what the child is doing wrong and saying things such as, “Stop it.” “I can’t believe you’re doing that again.” “If you don’t cut it out then I’m going to…” and we’re back into some form of consequences to change behavior.

A better way is to focus on training. Correction might be a piece of that, but training focuses on the goal. Where do I want my child to end up? More cooperation, thankfulness, and responsiveness to instructions are good goals. To get there, kids need practice. This approach adjusts your parenting in two significant areas.

First, it makes your parenting more positive, focusing on where the child needs to go, instead of where the child is right now. Secondly, your discipline strategies focus on practicing doing the right thing instead of complaining about what’s wrong.

Bill, at twelve years old, for example, resists parents’ instructions. It’s been a growing concern. Parents, understanding this shift in their strategy, decide to practice with Bill by giving him a plan for whenever his name is called or he’s given an instruction. Now they practice that plan twenty times a day with Dad and twenty times a day with Mom. They discuss what they are doing with Bill and are firm about the new routine. Bill is resistant at first but starts to learn that there is no other option but to change his tendencies.

It’s these tendencies that come from the heart. Jesus said, “It’s out of the heart that the mouth speaks.” (Luke 6:45). A heart-based approach to parenting is different than a reward/punishment strategy. When you focus on the heart, then good things happen.

02/26/2017

Obey First and Then We'll Talk About It
When parents give an instruction but children don't want to comply or it's not convenient for them, sometimes they need to learn to "obey first and then we'll talk about it." This emphasizes obedience.

If little Brian has pulled a chair over to the counter and is climbing onto it, you may say, "Brian, we don’t climb on chairs."
"But I was just…"
"No, you need to get down. Obey first and then we'll talk about it." Once he gets down, discuss the problem and find a solution together.
"Katy, go get your pajamas on."
"I don't want to go to bed."
"No, obey first and then we'll talk about it."

To some parents this may sound like blind obedience. We've all heard stories about people who were led into cultish activity because they couldn't think for themselves. No parent wants a child to fall into a pattern of blindly following a leader's instructions, but evaluating instructions is an advanced skill.

Many parents have gone too far in the other direction ending up with children who can't follow simple instructions without a dialogue. Parents sometimes believe they have to talk their child into wanting to obey. Inadvertently, these parents teach their children that if you don't like a request then that's enough reason to resist it. These children make poor employees, develop selfish attitudes about following someone else's leadership, and have a difficult time in relationships because they haven't learned how to sacrifice their own agenda for others.

Talking about it is important but sometimes even we, as adults, must obey first and then understand later. God asked Abraham to sacrifice his son without fully understanding and then considered it faith for him to obey. Peter didn't know why he was to go to Cornelius' house but went anyway only to discover that God wanted to bring salvation to the Gentiles. Philip was asked to leave a revival in Samaria and go out into the wilderness, not knowing why, but when he got there he led an Ethiopian man to Christ.

Evaluating instructions is an advanced skill and will become important later on but children need to learn that sometimes we all must "obey first and then we'll talk about it."

This tip comes from the book Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes in You and Your Kids by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN

01/11/2017

Learn to Recognize Emotional Signals

The subtle emotional signals you experience many times a day can help you know when and how to discipline your children. This takes some work and you may need to spend time educating yourself on the emotional signals you're already receiving.

Imagine a car's control panel with many little lights. They flash occasionally, sometimes even intensely. With experience you begin to learn about all those lights and what they mean. One indicates that the oil pressure is low, another reveals that the trunk is open. Yet another tells you that it's time to take the car in for maintenance. Emotions are like those little lights. It takes time to understand what they mean and how to respond rightly to them. When you become more in touch with the emotional signals in relationships and are more sensitive to others then you can begin to respond in healthier ways.

Hundreds of times a day, you make decisions about life. You'd be surprised at how many times it's a minor emotional signal that gets you started. A salesman knows just the right time to close the deal. A husband is amazed at his wife's perceptiveness to sense a problem in their son. A teacher decides to let the class take a stretch break. If you ask those people how they knew how to respond to a situation, they may not be able to articulate what it was that gave them the clue. They just felt as if it was the right thing to do.

If you analyze all of the above situations, you will discover that each involved specific objective signals that don't have to do with emotions. People relied on details that they saw, heard, or remembered. However, those cues trigger emotional responses, not intellectual reason. Salesmen, teachers, and parents often learn to look for signals and clues in others in the form of expressions or behavior. But some of the best skill comes from an emotional sense that this is the right response for the current situation.

Considering emotional cues may seem contradictory to what you've heard in the past. We've all been warned, "Be careful about making decisions based on emotions." That's good advice, especially as you're growing in your experience, because emotions can give unclear signals about life situations. It would be unwise to leave the house messy just because you don't feel like cleaning it, or confront someone just because he made you mad. That's not what we're talking about here. When a decision is very important it's essential to base it on more than a hunch or an emotional cue, but you'd be surprised how anger can become an asset in your parenting if you learn to keep it in check and understand what it is telling you.

This parenting tip comes from the book Good and Angry, Exchanging Frustration for Character in You and Your Kids, by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.

12/24/2016

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08/30/2016

“And you will know the Truth, and the Truth will set you free.”
‭‭John‬ ‭8:32‬ ‭AMPC‬‬