11/24/2025
There is a misconception quietly spreading in the church today: one that whispers that the more spiritual a person becomes, the more distant, intense, or unrelatable they should appear. As if closeness to God should make someone float above ordinary life, unable to be touched by the needs, emotions, and realities of those around them.
But the opposite is true. The deeper a person walks with God, the more balanced, grounded, and deeply present they become.
Look at Jesus. The most spiritual person who ever walked the earth and yet the most approachable, the most relatable, the most compassionate. Children ran to Him. Sinners dined with Him. The broken felt safe near Him. His holiness did not build walls; it built doors. His purity did not distance Him; it drew others close.
Spiritual maturity doesn’t make a person strange, it makes them stable. It doesn’t make them unreachable, it makes them understanding. It doesn’t make them intimidating, it makes them safe.
The more spiritual a person becomes, the more they should sound like peace, not pressure. The more they should carry gentleness, not superiority. The more they should radiate humility, not spiritual performance. Deep spirituality is not loud, forceful, or dramatic, it is steady, warm, and deeply human.
We were never called to be “super-spiritual” in the sense of being detached from people. We were called to be filled with the Spirit in a way that makes us more loving, more patient, more empathetic, more kind: people who can sit in someone’s pain without trying to impress them with our righteousness.
A truly spiritual person doesn’t spend their days proving how holy they are. Instead, their life quietly reflects the fruits of someone who has been with Jesus. They listen more than they talk. They help more than they judge.
If our spirituality makes people feel small, we’re doing it wrong. If our “depth” makes others feel like they don’t qualify, we’ve missed the heart of God. If our closeness with Jesus pushes us away from people instead of toward them, it’s not closeness: it’s pride dressed as spirituality.
Spirituality is not measured by how high you reach, but by how low you bow. The holier we become, the kinder we should sound. The deeper we go with God, the softer we should treat people. The more spiritual we are, the more human we must remain. The more spiritual a person gets, the more balanced and relatable that person should be.
Because true depth doesn’t make you distant. It makes you more like Jesus❤️🔥