10/05/2021
*SET SEXUAL BOUNDARIES!*
_(For all Christians, Pastors, Shepherds, Deacons, Deaconesses, Elders, Dep'tal leaders, Music Ministers, Church members)_
*“I made a covenant with my eyes; how then could I entertain thoughts against a virgin? (Job 31:1, NET BIBLE')*
Sexual immorality is on the increase all over the world. Adultery is fast becoming the norm and men of God are also joining the club. Married women are not left out, many are having secret lovers and emotional affairs are becoming the order of the day.
The rate at which immorality is increasing is alarming! It is spreading fast into every nook and cranny and children are also being initiated into the club. It's no news that 4, 5 years old kids now have s*x with each other. Staying s*xually pure these days is becoming a Herculean task.
*One of the reasons people fall flat into illicit s*x is over confidence. The stupid belief that you can be free around the opposite s*x and nothing would happen!*
*A lot will happen!*
One of the ways you can stay s*xually pure whether married or single these end time is to set strict boundaries. If you are too careless around the opposite s*x, you will fall flat on your face! That is the truth. The earlier you believe this and work on it, the better. *You can't be careless around the opposite s*x and hope to stay s*xually pure, set boundaries!*
There are some people who can't be your friends, raise the standard. Any body can call you names, that's their headache, you have your destiny to protect. As a rule, I don't make friends with liars, gossips and jealous people. They make life so complicated. If you believe in illicit s*x, we can't be friends, period!
*Monitor your chats.* Don't allow anybody send you flirty messages, no matter how innocent it sounds, warn them and if they refuse to stop, block them!
*Limit the hugs and touches*. If your hugging anointing is only for me, I want none of it.
*Don't allow anybody call you pet names (except your close family members and same s*x friends),* it doesn't make any sense. Pet names turn the opposite on, if you don't know that, know it right now.
*Be sensitive to attractions*. Don't be naive around the opposite s*x, know when a man/ woman is s*xually attracted to you and move back from that person. If they focus too much on your physique and body, they are s*xually attracted to you, move back.
*Know when you are s*xually attracted to someone and move back.* It's perfectly normal to have chemistry for someone. Marrying the greatest man on earth or the most beautiful, virtuous woman in the universe will not automatically stop you from being attracted to someone else. Know when the thought of another man/woman gets you excited and move back.
*Don't jump at new relationships*. Give it time. Study the person, know what they stand for, see if your core values are compatible, if not, move back!
*Leadership attracts all kinds of people. If you are a leader or you are gifted, talented or intelligent, the opposite s*x will show more interest in you, be careful whom you allow to get close to you.*
*Accepts gifts with care.* Men don't joke with their time and money. If he spends so much time and money on you especially when you do not ask, he may one day ask for s*x. *Stop begging men for money.* Work with your two hands and raise your standard. Men will respect and honour you for it.
*Work on your marriage.* Fix the problem as soon as possible or else you get attracted to someone who gives you what you lack in your marriage, adultery is the result.
*Be prayerful, be watchful.* Jesus says "watch and pray that ye may not fall into temptation..."
Don't stay with the opposite s*x in a dark or lonely room.
*Don't counsel the opposite s*x on a bed in a lonely room.*
*Avoid provocative dresses and pictures*. Let your spouse or parents advise you on what is okay for you.
*Mind the pictures you post on the social media, if it is getting unnecessary opposite s*x attention, delete it.*
*Don't visit the opposite s*x alone,* especially at night. It doesn't make sense.
These and more are the things you need to do to stay s*xually pure in this 21st century.
People may laugh at you, it doesn't matter. They may call you a neurotic, psychotic, fanatic, over sensitive or paranoid, don't give a damn! Your destiny is too precious to waste on the altar of sin. Avoid friends who make fun of holiness and make friends with people who appreciate purity and holiness.
*Finally, avoid the second look, as far possible*. I agree perfectly with Job on his resolution never to look lustfully at any lady. Yes, you can avoid the second look. Set your boundaries and never allow anyone to compromise your holiness.
Remember without Holiness, NO one shall see the Lord (Heb.12:14)!
Minister. Phrank Fela
