Coaching2Clarity, Australia

26/05/2022

Interested in learning more about speaking and listening with more compassion? What about being better at self regulation, and stepping back from that moment when you want to bite back at the other person?

Here's my latest blog on working out what's behind our feelings. What is it in us that motivates how we feel and what we might then say? Check it out.

Hope you enjoy the read.
https://www.coaching2clarity.com/blog/our-needs-are-layered

21/04/2022

Hi All, Today I finished revising my online courses. I've made them more interesting. :)
Take a peak.

Launching our re-vamped online courses in compassionate communication.

02/03/2022

In my email today, I received this message from the NVC group email list. It is about how to contribute when it seems impossible or hopelessly beyond our power. You might be experiencing feelings like this given what's happening with the floods in Qld and NSW as well as what is happening in Ukraine.

I thought I would share it.

Elizabeth

Antidote to helplessness – notes from a call with Miki Kashtan

Where do I have agency when it comes to war?


Notes from a coaching call held by Miki Kashtan on February 27, 2022. These are not Miki's exact words, but my notes and my understanding of what I heard. You can listen to the actual call here when the recording is uploaded onto the site: https://thefearlessheart.org/recordings/overcoming-patriarchy-calls/

My first level of power is internal; I have choice in how I relate to myself. I can be compassionate with my capacity limits and mourn the conditions that are outside my control. Both of these – self-compassion and mourning - will help prevent my energy from being wasted in resisting reality.
Think about your options and your limits. Take time to understand what you are able to do and drawn to do, and how best to go about it.
Do the things that you can do whole-heartedly; stretch past the level of what's comfortable but not past your actual capacity.
The antidote to helplessness is to be whole-hearted in what we do, and to know that we did what we could – no less and no more. When we go to assess what we did, look not at the outcome but rather at whether we did what we could in the fullness of our humanity – and then release what we couldn't do. I would add – have some trust that regardless of our perception of the outcome, whatever we do from love will have positive ripple effects that go well beyond what we will ever know.
If you are drawn to helping people come together, remember that despite years of conditioning to be separate, it is a human strength to come together in hardship.
Notes and interpretation of Miki Kashtan's ideas by Pam Winthrop Lauer on 2-27-2022

Overcoming Patriarchy Call Recordings You can access the call recordings here You can find more detailed information about these calls, including upcoming times and how to register, here. Overcomin…

10/01/2022

Hello! Welcome to 2022. A new year. And a new opportunity to make the world a better place!

My hope for 2022 is that we find ways to connect, communicate and care for each other in these times of pandemic and uncertainty. It is in these distressing times that we turn to our relationships and our resilience. But we aren’t always able to ‘go it alone’, and sometimes might need support and understanding from our community. Here is a bit of support from my heart.

I wrote this blog last year after teaching a class on empathy. During class the participants observed how difficult it was to stay in empathy. I thought about this after class and decided to demonstrate how the simplest language choice can make a whole lot of difference. It is about choosing the pronoun you want as topic. Being in empathy is about making the person in pain the topic, by using the pronoun, you.

I hope my blog offers you some support in your practice of empathetic listening, an important skill to develop to serve connection and understanding.

The dates for our courses in 2022 are now available on the website. https://www.coaching2clarity.com/teacher-led-courses/p/foundation-course

Our Term 1 Foundation Course in Compassionate Communication starts on Feb 1. Enrol now and take advantage of the 15% early bird discount.

https://www.coaching2clarity.com/teacher-led-courses/p/foundation-course

All the best,

Elizabeth

Email: [email protected]

https://www.coaching2clarity.com/blog/empathetic-listening-when-the-person-in-pain-has-the-floor

When you offer empathy to someone who is in pain, you give them the gift of being able to safely vent.

29/11/2021

As 2021 comes to a close, I’m reflecting on the year and its ups and down. We are still living with the ongoing challenges of Covid and the increasing uncertainty around climate. And if you’re like me, you are thinking about Christmas and the family connection that we long for.

I thought I would share what I’ve been feeling about Christmas, wanting so much the joy and connection Christmas can bring, but also feeling the anxiety around potential conflict. I wrote a blog to help me (and maybe you) manage.

Also, I want to thank you for your interest and curiosity in the language of compassion as you build positive connections with the people who matter to you. You are part of a big community of people around the world who want to make life more wonderful.

We have our training dates up for 2022, so feel free to check out what’s on offer on the website, https://www.coaching2clarity.com/

Happy Holidays, and see you in the New Year.

Warmest regards,

Elizabeth

https://www.coaching2clarity.com/blog/christmas-and-family-gatherings

4 steps for managing conflict with compassion at Christmas

24/09/2021

...and now for the September blog.

Have you experienced moments when someone tells you that you should or shouldn’t do something? In these moments, do you feel sort of taken aback, a bit thrown, or perhaps a bit angry? Is it like, “Don’t tell me what I should or shouldn’t do? I’ll make up my own mind, thank you very much!.....

14/07/2021

Below is my July post. This blog is about understanding what is going on for us when we react and FREEZE.

Like my blog on the Fight response to fear, Freezing is a kind of survival response back when it served us well to stay still and quiet to avoid danger. While Freezing might have been helpful in our earlier life, it doesn’t always serve us well in adulthood.

Have a read to find out how I managed my ‘frozen’ self through an inner dialogue of self-connection. It helped me reduce my tendency to freeze in the moment.

I hope you enjoy the read.

If you would like to learn more about how to self connect, then check out our next Foundation Course in Compassionate Communication, starting July 20. If you enrol before July 17, there is a 15% discount.

Warmly,

Elizabeth Thomson

Have you ever found yourself in a situation when an interaction is so unexpected that you are left speechless, powerless and just simply unable to respond?

29/06/2021

Welcome to my June blog. This blog is about understanding what is going on for us when we react and fight back with words.

The blog came about because I was needing help to understand why I had conflicting feelings about how I behaved in a particular situation. On the one hand, I was triggered, then spoke in anger. Yet at the same time, I was ashamed with myself for behaving badly. I was at war with myself. Sound familiar?

The blog steps you through an inner dialogue of self empathy, working on integrating the conflicting feelings and needs that we grapple with when triggered. It uses an example of a ‘fight’ response.

I hope you enjoy the read.

Please feel free to share it with your family and friends. Also don’t hesitate to reach out if you have any questions or comments for me.

If you would like to learn more about how to self connect, then check out our next Foundation Course in Compassionate Communication, starting July 20.

Warmly,

Elizabeth

Listening empathetically and integrating an unhelpful survival reaction. Have you noticed what happens when you startle a dog? It barks and appears threatening.  It responds like this as a protective, survival reaction.  As humans, we can do that, too. Have you ever found yoursel

14/06/2021

Kick a ball or cook a snag, but be sure to talk to your mates. It's Men's Health Week

Australians take their own lives at more than twice the rate of the daily road toll, and three quarters of those are men. Experts say professional help is invaluable — but so is feeling connected socially.

01/06/2021

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30/04/2021

Just to let you know, we have changed the date for our Foundation course in Nonviolent Communication facilitated by Alexandra Norman, Certified NVC Trainer. The new dates are Saturdays May 8 and 15. The 15% discount has been extended to May 6. Come along and discover how to empower the voice within!

https://www.coaching2clarity.com/teacher-led-courses/p/foundation-course

20/04/2021

If you enjoyed my blog, Connecting compassionately by saying what you mean, ,
then read on for the sequel, Hearing the hard to hear message with empathy.
https://www.coaching2clarity.com/blog/hearing-the-hard-to-hear-message-with-empathy

How would it be to learn to listen and speak differently, from a place of love and empathy, using language expressions that enrich life and make life more wonderful?