12/05/2015
I like this article by Jared Wilson.
Here are 12 signs we have a genuinely repentant heart:
1. We name our sin as sin and do not spin it or excuse it, and further, we demonstrate “godly sorrow,” which is to say, a grief chiefly about
the sin itself, not just a grief about being caught or having to deal with the consequences of sin.
2. We actually confessed before we were caught or the circumstantial consequences of our sin caught up with us.
3. If found out, we confess immediately or very soon after and “come clean,” rather than having to have the full truth coaxed out of us. Real
repentance is typically accompanied by transparency.
4. We have a willingness and eagerness to make amends. We will do whatever it takes to make things right and to demonstrate we have changed.
5. We are patient with those we’ve hurt or victimized, spending as much time as is required listening to them without jumping to defend.
6. We are patient with those we’ve hurt or victimized as they process their hurt, and we don’t pressure them or “guilt” them into forgiving
us.
7. We are willing to confess our sin even in the face of serious consequences (including undergoing church discipline, having to go to jail or
having a spouse leave us).
8. We may grieve the consequences of our sin but we do not bristle under them or resent them. We understand that sometimes our sin causes
great damage to others that is not healed in the short term (or perhaps ever this side of heaven).
9. If our sin involves addiction or a pattern of behavior, we do not neglect to seek help with a counselor, a solid 12-step program or even a
rehabilitation center.
10. We don’t resent gracious accountability, pastoral rebuke or church discipline.
11. We seek our comfort in the grace of God in Jesus Christ, not simply in being free of the consequences of our sin.
12. We are humble and teachable.
As it is, I rejoice, not because you were grieved, but because you were grieved into repenting. For you felt a godly grief, so that you
suffered no loss through us. For godly grief produces a repentance that leads to salvation without regret, whereas worldly grief produces
death. For see what earnestness this godly grief has produced in you, but also what eagerness to clear yourselves, what indignation, what
fear, what longing, what zeal, what punishment! At every point you have proved yourselves innocent in the matter. —2 Corinthians 7:9-11
(I have put my signs in the first person plural not because it is always inappropriate to seek to gauge someone’s repentance, but because we
should always be gauging our own first, and because the truly forgiving heart is interested in an offender’s repentance but isn’t inordinately
set on holding up measuring sticks but holding out grace.)
The original is here...
http://www.churchleaders.com/pastors/pastor-articles/253441-know-youre-repentant.html
Twelve signs that mark a genuinely repentant heart.