10/08/2024
**"Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it." (Proverbs 22:6 AVD)**
There may be disabled people in your home, and you are unaware. Be careful of creating disability within your home. A scene that repeats itself in every house: A young man or woman, in the prime of their life and in the best of health, living in their parents' house. They wake up in the morning and leave their bed unmade... because the mother will take care of it. They change their clothes and leave them scattered in any corner or spot... because the mother will gather them, wash them, iron them, and return them to the room. They are served food ready to eat, and before or after that, they don't bother themselves with washing a cup or a plate... because the mother will take care of everything related to that. They go to school or university and return to either sleep or spend the night on Snapchat, Twitter, Instagram, or watching consecutive episodes of a new series. Meals are served to them ready, and all they have to do is "take a break" and reach out to eat, thank God for that, and then resume their struggle in front of the screen of their phone, iPad, or laptop.
Sometimes, in their free time, they might graciously sit with the rest of the family, but God forbid they forget to check their phone to stay present and close to their friends, with whom they spend most of their time, lest they miss, God forbid, a comment, a picture, or a curiosity about what others are doing.
This person does not contribute or participate in any responsibility in the house, even in the smallest way. They leave the place in chaos and get upset if they don't like the dinner. If they see something in the house that needs repair or replacement, they pass by it like a cloud... of course, repairs are the father's responsibility, right? And cleaning and organizing are solely the mother's responsibility...
Reflecting on what I see around me, I came to one conclusion: I think we have succeeded in creating a disabled generation. Yes, a disabled generation, and with distinction. We now have a generation, most of whom behave as if they are guests in their own homes. They don't help, don't contribute, and don't bear any responsibility around them from school age to college, and even after getting a job. They live in their parents' house as guests. They know nothing of responsibility except for personal expenses and a driver's license. And the father and mother remain burdened with household responsibilities even as they age and their bodies weaken, because (the parents don't want to tire the children).
Appreciation and responsibility are values you instill in your children; they are not suddenly created, not even after marriage. Because after marriage, they will carry the culture they acquired from their parents' homes into their marital home. And what culture is that? The culture of disability... of dependence... and consequently, a generation that cannot be relied upon.
The Saudi writer Mishal Abu Al-Wada' brilliantly articulated this in his article titled "Are There Guests in Our Home or Are They Disabled?" There may be disabled people in your home, and you don't know it...