07/09/2026
TODAY’S REFLECTION
September 7, 2026, Monday
THE MESSAGES PARENTS SEND
Rev. B**g De Castro, OSL
Read 1 Samuel 20:30-34, NIV
“Saul's anger flared up at Jonathan and he said to him, "You son of a perverse and rebellious woman! Don't I know that you have sided with the son of Jesse to your own shame and to the shame of the mother who bore you?” – 1 Samuel 20:30
When someone asks, "What do you do?" the reply frequently includes a job title. But anyone who is raising or interacting with children has a role far more important than ordinary career duties.
Parents are communicators. Yet unlike conference speakers, moms and dads don't get to preplan their entire message. Everything we do and say—especially that which happens "off the cuff"—teaches our kids. Think about your childhood days. What did your parents do that illustrated their priorities, beliefs, and passions?
Even without speaking, we send messages by our body language, interests, kindnesses, absence or presence, silence… Add words to the mix, and we have a recipe for remarkable impact, whether positive or negative.
Inevitably, our children will be greatly affected by what we communicate and how they interpret it. Be conscious of the way each young one processes information—sometimes our intended message becomes skewed by their understanding. What an incredible responsibility we've been given. No wonder wise parents rely on God's help.
Only troubled parents—like the angry, jealous King Saul in today's passage—would ever set out to hurt their children. But in our busyness, or from past woundedness, we might just be sending damaging messages.
What are you communicating to your kids? Ask yourself: What do my actions point to as priorities in my life? Do my children sense a hunger in my heart for God's direction, counsel, and sustenance? Above all, would they know how to have a thriving relationship with Jesus Christ by watching my life?
PRAYER
Deas God, our Heavenly Father, as I reflect on Jonathan's courage and integrity, I am reminded that doing what is right is not always easy, especially when it disappoints those we love. As a parent, my deepest desire is not simply for my children to succeed, but for them to walk in truth, compassion, and obedience to You.
Lord, help my children choose what is right over what is popular, and what is faithful over what is convenient. Give them the courage Jonathan showed, even when they face misunderstanding or opposition. May they always remember that they are deeply loved, not only by their parents but by You.
And if there is one message I could send them every day, it would be this: Stay close to God, honor others, and never be afraid to stand for what is good and true. The Lord will guide your path. In Jesus' name, Amen. 🙏🙏🙏