01/09/2026
MARRIAGES,PARTNERSHIPS,FRIENDSHIPS EXIST AND SURVIVE BECAUSE OF MINIMAL DIFFERENCES.
We cannot all think alike and agree on everything that would make us idiots.
Differences in opinion, perception and beliefs give humans a healthy and creative diversity. However the reality is that for two people who will spend the rest of their lives together or a group who will want to create a business or working partnership, differences have to be at the barest minimum to avoid conflict,lack of cohesion and productivity.
It does not take a rocket scientist to conclude that the marriage institution has been reduced to a sham because of the rate of divorces.
“Vematongo” means from the same area where there is commonality in practices and beliefs. Sometimes it is wrongly labelled as racism or tribalistic when marriages across color or tribal lines are sort of frowned on. We have to appreciate that this might just be to caution people and make them look seriously at the gamut of differences that they may have to wade through in order to end up with a harmonious marital or business relationship.
The bible refers to unequal yokes which as far as Iam concerned are not just about spiritual beliefs,but cultural and or background differences which will not just go away or resolve on their on.
Given, coming from or growing up in the same area might not guarantee a successful marriage, neither are all marriages across tribal,denominational or racial lines going to fail.
However statistics will demonstrate that most or the majority of relationships which survive do so because those involved were or are in agreement on most core issues that affect people’s lives, that they did not or do not have to fight over everything or rely on counsellors to keep their marriages or partnerships intact.
Some people have the maturity and temperaments to coexist with others of totally divergence views and opinions, however this can not be said of the majority.
Common ground is a big attraction in relationships, it also creates a healthy place to start from so as to deal with the other inevitable challenges which arise in marriage.
While this is not the fool proof solution for producing successful marriages, it certainly is a key lMARRIAGES,PARTNERSHIPS,FRIENDSHIPS EXIST AND SURVIVE BECAUSE OF MINIMAL DIFFERENCES.
We cannot all think alike and agree on everything that would make us idiots.
Differences in opinion, perception and beliefs give humans a healthy and creative diversity. However the reality is that for two people who will spend the rest of their lives together or a group who will want to create a business or working partnership, differences have to be at the barest minimum to avoid conflict,lack of cohesion and productivity.
It does not take a rocket scientist to conclude that the marriage institution has been reduced to a sham because of the rate of divorces.
“Vematongo” means from the same area where there is commonality in practices and beliefs. Sometimes it is wrongly labelled as racism or tribalistic when marriages across color or tribal lines are sort of frowned on. We have to appreciate that this might just be to caution people and make them look seriously at the gamut of differences that they may have to wade through in order to end up with a harmonious marital or business relationship.
The bible refers to unequal yokes which as far as Iam concerned are not just about spiritual beliefs,but cultural and or background differences which will not just go away or resolve on their on.
Given, coming from or growing up in the same area might not guarantee a successful marriage, neither are all marriages across tribal,denominational or racial lines going to fail.
However statistics will demonstrate that most or the majority of relationships which survive do so because those involved were or are in agreement on most core issues that affect people’s lives, that they did not or do not have to fight over everything or rely on counsellors to keep their marriages or partnerships intact.
Some people have the maturity and temperaments to coexist with others of totally divergence views and opinions, however this can not be said of the majority.
Common ground is a big attraction in relationships, it also creates a healthy place to start from so as to deal with the other inevitable challenges which arise in marriage.
While this is not the fool proof solution for producing successful marriages, it certainly is a key player or the most important to consider in planning one’s future in marriage or any other situation which brings people together to pursue a common agenda.
Ignoring glaring differences between you and a potential life partner is like committing relational su***de!