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15/11/2024

RELATIONSHIP TIPS 💖💖💖

1. Know that it is normal for two people in love to disagree, offend each other, fall short, or misunderstand each other

2. Always remember how much you love and need each other. Remembering this will give you the incentive to resolve any conflict between you two. Don't throw away true love because of a passing storm.

3. Know each other's temperaments. If you are a hot-tempered person, tell your partner/spouse so that your partner/spouse will prepare incase you spark off. But work on your temper still.

4. Agree how to handle fights before fights emerge. A nation develops a constitution to guide its operation, partners/spouses agree on what to do to guide in relations.

5. Don't let the fear of fighting or disagreeing with your partner/spouse keep you two from confronting each other and expressing your feelings. Too many are tired, bored, frustrated or angry in their relationship/marriage but pretend all is well because they are afraid of talking about heavy and uneasy stuff with their partner. Slowly their relationship/marriage collapses, you can't pretend for long.

6. Before you confront and blame your partner/spouse, analyze the situation and see if you have played a role in causing the problem.

7. When a fight between you two is approaching or something happens that inflames tempers, walk away, cool off. Don't talk in anger. Cool down then talk rationally.

8. Remember you are in the same team. Fighting your partner/spouse is fighting what you two have, which in effect is fighting yourself.

9. Avoid insults. Hold and control your tongue, hurtful words only complicate matters, once they are spoken they can't be taken back.

10. Don't be tempted to use the information your partner/spouse shared with you in trust to get your way. Don't use the secrets your partner/spouse shared with you to attack or intimidate your partner/spouse.

11. Don't disclose matters to a third party. Solve the matter the two of you. Don't gossip about the short comings of your partner/spouse to your family or friends. Don't air your dirty linen in public. Cover each other from outsiders as you two remain naked to each other.

12. Pray together. Prayer clears up the air, restores love and order, brings unity of purpose and reminds you that God is watching and you both are God's children.

13. When talking about the matter, fully talk about it, look for its root cause, lay everything on the table. A problem that is not fully addressed or understood will keep recurring.

14. Give each other a chance to speak. None should feel silenced.

15. Be mindful of your body language. You may not insult but your partner/spouse is paying attention to your body language. Don't sneer, click or show contempt.

16. Never use your child/children to settle scores in a cold war with each other. You are both loved the same by the child/children.

17. Conclude the matter quickly. The longer tension exists between you two, the more dangerous it grows.

18. Accept responsibility. Being mature doesn't mean you won't do wrong or fall short; it means that when you do mess you are wise enough to apologize. Say sorry if you are on the wrong, forgive when you are wronged.

19. Come up with a way forward to prevent the matter from happening again or from causing much damage in the future.

20. Hug. Kiss. Make up. Make love.

21. Laugh about it. Find comedy in your difficult times. No storm lasts always. You two will come out through it closer and stronger. Stay focused, your love is worth fighting for, not fighting each other👌👌👌

17/08/2024

To the youth out there
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UNDERSTANDING COURTSHIPS

For all the single men and ladies:
Having encountered and interacted with many singles, I observed with some level of sadness their gross ignorance about COURTSHIP. Therefore, today I write to explain and clarify singles on the subject matter.

WHAT IS COURTSHIP?
Simply put, courtship is a period of time where two lovers having decided to marry, are working towards marriage. At this level, a proposal would have been made signalling engagement or commitment by both lovers. Of course, at this level, both families would have been informed too.

HOW LONG SHOULD A COURTSHIP LAST?
There is actually no time frame with regards to the length of a courtship. However, a good courtship shouldn't be too short or too long. Relationship and marriage counselors, coaches and experts advocate a minimum of 6 months and a maximum of 2 years.

However, not every courtship has really adhered to this recommendation because of the unreadiness of one party to tie the knot at a chosen date, financial reasons, long distance relationships, academics, delay of parental consent, illness, etc.

Christian leaders strongly disapprove of very long courtships so as to curtail some temptations that come with very long wait.

WHAT IS THE TRUE PURPOSE OF COURTSHIP?
The real purpose of courtship is to get to know the person more and discuss and agree on all the salient issues that will help a marital experience.

Examples of what to do/discuss in courtship are:
1. Meet the family of your lover
2. Know where he lives
3. Know your jobs
4. Discuss your spiritual lives
5. Discuss your career plans and their demands
6. Discuss the number of children you would like to have
7. Discuss your finances
8. Discuss every other issue.
9. Discuss how to manage the extended family
10. Discuss educational pursuits and their demands
11. Discuss the type, size, place and funding of your wedding
12. Pray often together for yourselves and your future together.

N.B: At this level of relationship, if you still have some secrets that may affect your marriage in the future, reveal them. For instance, if you have a love child, lost your womb, have a serious medical condition, indebtedness, etc., reveal that to your partner. A true lover sent by God will never look down on you, mock you, insult you or dump you. Rather, that lover will be full of compassion, admiration and respect for you. However, don't be afraid of seeing your relationship come to an end because you are honest. If someone is meant for you, they won't leave you.

"DOS" AND "DON'TS" OF A COURTSHIP:


1. Pray together
2. Communicate effectively
3. Show care
4. Give each other career support
5. Encourage each other
6. Discuss your future together
7. Discuss salient issues
8. Read books and articles on relationship/marriage
9. Attend relationship and marriage seminars
10. Attend marriage counseling sessions with a counselor or coach.
11. Plan for your wedding and marriage
12. Foster a great understanding
13. Build a strong friendship
14. Be real to each other.

'TS
1. No premarital s*x
2. No s*xually explicit chats
3. No pregnancy out of wedlock
4. No sending of n**e pictures
5. No smooching, caressing or fondling
6. No French kisses.
7. No sleeping in the same room and on the same bed.

In conclusion, courtship should lead to the altar. However, should that not happen, no problem, please move on. Any courtship that seems to undermine your personal moral principles, religious beliefs and convictions should be discontinued.

Any courtship where commitment is diminishing and love is waning by the day should be discontinued. Any courtship where there are lies, distrust, dishonesty, fears, confusion and cheating should be discontinued because that can never be God's will for you. During courtship both of you should never ignore any of your salient issues. Discuss everything of importance to you and agree.

If you don't agree on them, that is, you can't find a common ground, there is no need to continue with the relationship. If your heart is full of fears, you don't have peace of mind and assurance from God towards that person, please end that relationship.

God's will for you in marriage is restful peace of mind, personal conviction and assurance from God, provable love and commitment towards you from your lover. Don't be afraid of losing them in courtship. Because a broken courtship is better than a broken marriage.

❤️💝 I love you all 🙏🙏

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