10/01/2025
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How can we say such an absolute statement? Let me clear the air.
Yes, non-christian husbands can love their wivesβjust as they can breathe fresh air, enjoy a beautiful landscape, and partake in an incredible meal.
Theologians call this "common grace". It means that all are free and able to enjoy the goodness God gives in various forms because He is good and His goodness spills over onto all humanity (see James 1:17). But for believers, there's so much more, particularly for marriage.
A husband whose heart has been captured by Christ has a deeper, truer understanding of love and grace only Christ can give. He understands that he is saved and loved only by God's grace in Christ and is therefore compelled to love his wife similarly. He knows a different, heart-changing love and he extends the same to his wife. He is patient, kind, and gentle. He is faithful.
A wife who is a believer will be profoundly impacted by a husband led by Christ. That's how marriage was designed to work. "Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her..." ~ Eph 5:25.
There is nothing more relieving to a wife than a husband who loves her well and leads as he himself follows Christ.
Husbands, let's be that brand of men. Let's be men who follow Christ relentlessly and win our wives' hearts consistently.
As husbands, we can only lead as far as we are being led; and only Christ can show us how to love truly.
Stay fierce, men.
Onward,
Ryan