06/21/2026
HAPPY FATHER‘S DAY
Happy Father's Day to my father, John O’Doherty and to all fathers. There’s a Japanese proverb that says there are three things to be feared: hurricanes ,earthquakes, and fathers. Anybody who knows me knows I'm a mama's boy and always have been. I think God has put a particular burden on fathers because we are supposed to model the fatherhood of God for our children; that's who we are in the grand scheme of things - Abba, daddy, father.
I remember reading a a book some years ago written by a Protestant minister called “Are You Running With Me Jesus?” The title of the book grabbed my imagination, but the book itself was okay. One of the little stories I read in the book was about a disciple of Christ who did work in the slums with street kids. The children were out on the streets from the age of six or seven trying to look after themselves. He tells about what happened when he told one of the boys that God was our father and how the boy immediately bristled. He continued telling him that he’s like your father, you know, like your father at home. The little boy said: I hope to Christ he isn’t, because when my father comes home when he’s drunk, he vomits on me. That stuck in my mind.
Then on the other hand I was visiting with this Jewish gentleman and his wife who had two children . He was my doctor at the time and invited me to their home. His two little boys were running around the room. They didn't say words like Daddy, or father or Papa. They called him Abba, Abba, Abba, and Jesus told us the same thing. He said when you pray, say Abba. I know we have translations of it but back to the original language Abba, Daddy. So there's the struggle then because every man you see is a child of Adam and we have our brokenness, and we're not modeling the fatherhood of God the way we should, so it's a bit of a problem on Father's Day. Well, where do we go from there?
My father was very good to me as a younger child and I was close to him, and I learned things from him. However, it seemed like when we got older and got to be teenagers, he didn't seem to have much time for us. Here’s a little story of something I learned from my father and he wasn't trying to teach me anything at the time but I learned this, no lies. I played in this castle as a young boy and I was able to climb up on over the walls, don't ask me how, and I tried to catch pigeons in the castle which I did occasionally. There was a river flowing all around the castle and there was a bridge over the river. My father used to sit on the bridge and he'd watch the traffic go by day, after day, after day. So this happened and it left an extraordinary impact. I'm going to preface it by saying that I think my father knew when I was six or seven years old that I would be an alcoholic.
Now alcoholism is a spiritual disease so don't get excited. There’s the sin of gluttony of course, but alcoholism is a spiritual disease that affects your mind and your soul. So I'm looking up at my father who is sitting on the bridge, bear in mind he's the law in our town; we called him a plain clothes detective officer. The town had 1,600 people and the whole town used to pass in front of my father every day as he sat on the bridge and people would come and talk to him.
So he tells me this story as I'm looking up at him. He says there's a big rat, a big rat, and he's living behind the baseboard in Mrs Croak’s Pub. The pub was next door to our home at 3 Castle Street, Cahir, County Tipperary. We lived at 2 Castle Street and the Hickeys lived at 1 Castle Street. He said that late at night, when all the patrons have gone home from the pub, drunk or sober, the rat would come out of his hole behind behind the baseboard. He’d make his way along the baseboard following it and end up laying under a drip of one of the Guinness black beer barrels.
Now remember all stories are true, some of them actually happened; so he's telling me a story and I'm visualizing this rat lying on his back and the drip from the leaking cask of Black Irish beer called Guinness Stout. One of the names for a pint of Guinness in Ireland, believe it or not, is ‘the parish priest’ because Irish beer is black but has a white collar on it, so go figure.
I'm into this story. Then the rat, after whatever five or 10 minutes, is properly drunk out of his mind and he gets up staggering and says ,”Where’s that bloody cat now? I'll straighten him out!” That was the story my father told me and of course it has stayed with me up to this day. At this stage of my life I know that my father was talking about me and that he knew I had a temperament that should never,ever,ever touch any type of alcohol or any type of drugs, re**er, co***ne or psilocybin mushroom - all of that stuff and he was right of course, so I owe him a particular debt.
The other thing that I admired (I'm only looking back) as I mentioned earlier that he sat on the bridge here and saw the town passing in front of him every day. So, I put a big stone bench outside the church here and very often I'd sit on the bench and I didn't realize I was watching the parish coming to Mass. I'm there before every Mass and sometimes people will say, “Will you hear my confession, Father?”
So I learned something about being a father to a town from the way my father was engaged.
Now I want to tell you some little dark story that happened in the same town. There was a murder in the town while I was growing up. Outside the town, within a half a mile, the landscape would begin to go up the way and there were mountains all around us; we could see the mountains just by walking out of our homes. These were small mountains - we call them the Galtee Mountains. Up towards the mountains there was farmland and different animals - cows, sheep, and goats. One of the inhabitants of the town used to milk the cows and sell the milk throughout the town. As he went back to his farm at the foot of the mountains a classmate of mine, and he did this often, would jump up on the back of the man's cart. The man would reach back with his whip to get him off the cart. This ritual went on for quite some time and here’s the dark side of this terrible story. I once said the young man's name, he was a classmate of mine and that's enough for you to know.
The young man came down from his house at the bottom of the mountain a half a mile or so, came into the farmer’s yard and released one of the milk cows out into the dark of night, around 2:00 or 3:00 in the morning. Of course, the milk cows were very sensitive. The farmer himself somehow knew a cow had been released and got up so he could bring the cow back into the barn for the night. As he was leading the cow back into the barn, this classmate of mine came out from behind the door of the cow barn and killed the farmer with a sledge hammer.
My father, God rest his soul, got the word and went around the small town like lightning, I saw this for myself. Nobody pointed it out to me but I knew that somebody was dead and I also knew that my father didn't move from the bridge that day. He sat there hour, after hour, after hour. He used to do that every day anyway, sit on the bridge as the town passed in front of him all day long. People stopped to talk to him and then move on.
At the end of this particular day at 4:00 pm in the afternoon my father got up on his bicycle; bear in mind here you're talking about the law in our town, my father couldn't drive a car and yet he was ‘the law’. He got up on his bicycle, cycled up to the bottom of the mountain where there were seven homes and consciously and deliberately, went from house, to house, to house. When he came to the house of my classmate, my classmate got out the back window of the house and went up into the mountains, so my father knew who the killer was. It’s just like we say nowadays, “he psyched him out”. Two days later he came down off the mountains and the police picked him up.
Anyhow, I’m an Abba, a father, and we who are men are supposed to model the fatherhood of God for our children. Happy Father’s Day.