05/08/2025
Can a marriage survive when someone committed adultery? Well that is a good question. In Genesis 2:24 (NLT) chapter says “And the two are united into one.” God created you as a three-part being. You are spirt, you have a soul, and you live in a body. God designed marriage so there unity or intimacy in all three of those parts of your body. There is spiritual intimacy, psychological intimacy and physical intimacy. I’m going to connect the three. Spiritual intimacy is when the spirits are connected, the husband and wife have spiritual intimacy. Is based on a common devotion to Jesus Christ. The couple believes Jesus died for their sins and they are a part of God’s family. The Holy Spirit fills them with God’s love. Read Romans 5:5 (NLT) Psychological intimacy another part of oneness comes when a husband and wife have psychological intimacy by sharing their souls (minds, emotions and will) with each other. Sharing your soul means telling each other what you are thinking, feeling, and wanting. Communication is vital for building a psychological intimacy in a marriage. This communication involves both spouses speaking and listening effectively. The goal of communication in marriage should be to gain shared understanding. Read 1 Peter3:7-8(NKJ) Physical intimacy lastly, a husband and wife share physical intimacy by sharing their bodies with each other. God created you and your spouse to enjoy physical intimacy. It is willed and designed by Him. It is an important part of becoming one with your spouse. read Hebrews 13:4 (MSG)
No one is perfect, everyone has a past, everyone has flaws we are all a working process. Meaning we all need to work on ourselves daily with the help of God and not judge one another. I wrote a book a memoir of myself which was not easy to write. I had to relive some very painful areas in my life. Sometimes the pains, hurts and trauma can change the trajectory of your life when you don’t allow God to help you or know God personally for yourself. As for me I knew God but didn’t know Him intimately to allow Him in my earlier years to help me. I tried to do things on my own. I didn’t want people to see my trauma, hurts and pains. I allowed fear to keep me in prison within my mind so I can not allow people to be judgmental on my past.
This was not an easy journey and it caused so many problems in my marriage and family. By writing this book God helped me to become transparent and totally free within myself that has helped me to overcome the fears, anxiety, hurts, traumas, rejections from the past. I can finally say I am free through the help of God. I’m not tooting my horn but I am giving credit where credit is due to God be the glory.
If you would like to purchase my book Over 40 Years of Marriage overcoming Adultery, Infidelity, and Children from an Extramarital Affair. I pray it will be a great blessing to you. You can purchase through our website:thebodyofchristcc.org or Barnes and Noble.