Rabbi Brian Denker

Rabbi Brian Denker Rabbi & Inclusive Lifecycle Officiant, International Federation of Rabbis, NYS Chaplain Task Force It was this experience that brought about an awakening in me.

I believe that our strength as a Jewish people is rooted not only in the gift of Torah divinely inspired in our belief that the “Lord our G-d, the Lord is One” but through the flexibility, willingness and courage of our convictions to bring about change while honoring age old traditions, teachings, and ritual practices as an inclusive and welcoming community to all. My journey into the Rabbinate w

as brought about by my own personal experience when I had such a difficult time finding a Rabbi to officiate at my own wedding; a wedding between two men of two different faiths. One in which I genuinely believe no one individual should be forced to choose between being who they are and being true to themselves. No one should be forced to go without, and no one should be “excluded” from the traditions and rituals of our people that we hold dear just because of who we love. As an openly Gay Rabbi, I work with Jewish, Interfaith and Same-sex couples and families across all life-cycle events, helping to create memories that will last a lifetime while continuing to bind us to the rituals & traditions of our people passed down from generation to generation. I am an active member of the International Federation of Rabbis and a Chaplain with the New York State Chaplain Taskforce & Chaplain Member of the New York State Fraternal Order of Police working as a leading voice and advocate for policies and programs of greater diversity, acceptance, and inclusion for all. It would be my honor and privilege to get to know you and share in the joy of your upcoming celebrations.

✨ Mazel Tov, Alyssa & Andrew! ✨Looking at Alyssa and Andrew beneath the chuppah tonight, it’s not hard to believe that a...
08/29/2026

✨ Mazel Tov, Alyssa & Andrew! ✨

Looking at Alyssa and Andrew beneath the chuppah tonight, it’s not hard to believe that a voice from the heavens knew exactly what it was doing back in 2021, when Hinge brought these two together. ❤️

Their first date took them straight to Chelsea Market, where they wandered, talked, laughed, and began a story that would eventually come full circle. In May 2025, Drew brought Alyssa back to that same neighborhood supposedly for a show and instead proposed, with both families waiting nearby to celebrate.

Alyssa brings kindness, patience, and an endless supply of follow-up questions. Drew brings humor, warmth, and a gift for making her laugh. Together, they make each other better and that’s what bashert is really about.

May their life together be filled with love, laughter, family, a dog, and plenty of chicken piccata! 🐶🍝❤️

It was an honor to stand beside you as your presiding rabbi. Mazel tov, Alyssa & Andrew! 🥂💍

Before Sahed and Polina ever swiped right on Bumble, heaven had apparently already made the match — heaven just happens ...
08/23/2026

Before Sahed and Polina ever swiped right on Bumble, heaven had apparently already made the match — heaven just happens to believe in dating apps. ❤️

Their story began in March 2024 at Alley Pond Park, where Sahed arrived not only ready for a first date, but with a gift for Polina’s dog, Sam. Because clearly, he understood the most important rule of dating: win over the dog first. 🐶

Then came axe throwing, adventures, and eventually Iceland where they discovered that they were not only a great match, but great travel partners. And somewhere along the way, they began building something even more meaningful: a home and a life together.

Then, on a cold and rainy January day, just before Polina was moving her life from Brooklyn to begin their next chapter together, Sahed got down on one knee — flowers in hand, an edible arrangement arriving way too early and nearly ruining the surprise, and Maggie and Sam dressed to the nines. 💍
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Sahed and Polina, may your love always remain as kind, caring, patient, adventurous, and full of joy as it is today. May your home be filled with laughter, happiness, animals, adventures, and perhaps every creature Polina has ever wanted to rescue. 🐾❤️

Mazel tov, Polina and Sahed! May your b’sheret story continue to unfold, one beautiful chapter at a time. 🥂✨

Thirteen years ago, Colton and Chloe found each other in the hallways of high school, Chloe in 10th grade, Colton in 11t...
08/22/2026

Thirteen years ago, Colton and Chloe found each other in the hallways of high school, Chloe in 10th grade, Colton in 11th. What began as a teenage romance grew into something truly beautiful: a partnership built on love, loyalty, family, compassion, laughter, and simply showing up for one another.

Their proposal story says it all. A birthday trip, a secret destination, a hurricane threatening to derail the plans and somehow, the storm passed. At The Dunlin, surrounded by flowers and photographs from their thirteen years together, Colton took Chloe’s hand and got down on one knee.

That’s beshert. Not a perfect forecast, but the right person beside you, steady through every storm.

Colton and Chloe, it was an absolute honor to officiate your wedding and witness this next chapter of your love story. May you always find your way back to each other, through every season, every adventure, and every storm.

Mazel tov to two people who found their person very young and spent thirteen years proving just how right they were. ❤️🥂

Allen & Akemi — what a joy and an honor it was to stand with you beneath the chuppah and celebrate the beautiful love st...
08/22/2026

Allen & Akemi — what a joy and an honor it was to stand with you beneath the chuppah and celebrate the beautiful love story that brought you here. ❤️

Some things in life are simply beshert — meant to be. And sometimes, you can find the proof in something as simple as a slice of key lime pie.

From that scorching summer day trekking across Brooklyn for the perfect slice, to cooking together, discovering new foods, dreaming about future travels, and building a life together, Allen and Akemi have created something truly special.

What struck me most in getting to know your story is the way you show up for one another — with patience, laughter, sweetness, friendship, and an ability to navigate life’s unexpected turns together. Your engagement in Japan, in a place so deeply connected to Akemi’s story and at a moment marked by both love and loss, was a beautiful reminder that beshert doesn’t mean the road is always easy. It means that through whatever road life takes you on, you find the right person walking beside you.

Allen and Akemi, you are partners, best friends, culinary explorers, and now, husband and wife. May your life together always be filled with laughter, delicious meals, adventures near and far, and the deep knowledge that you have found your person.

It was an absolute privilege to officiate your wedding and to share in this extraordinary moment with you.

Mazel tov, Allen & Akemi! 🥂❤️
May your love continue to grow from strength to strength.

What an honor this morning officiating the Simchat Bat for Skye, Nicolette Colwin & Spencer Colwin’s daughter. 💕Three ye...
08/15/2026

What an honor this morning officiating the Simchat Bat for Skye, Nicolette Colwin & Spencer Colwin’s daughter. 💕

Three years ago this November, I stood with Nicollete and Spencer beneath the chuppah as they entered their covenant of marriage. Today, I watched that same love and bond blossom into new life, as we welcomed their daughter into the covenant of her people.

There’s something especially meaningful about doing this during Elul, a month of return and renewal, watching this family’s story continue the chain of Jewish tradition, generation to generation.

Mazel tov to this beautiful family. 🕊️✨

Last night, as Shabbat descended and our brothers and sisters at Central Synagogue gathered in prayer, at Central Synago...
08/15/2026

Last night, as Shabbat descended and our brothers and sisters at Central Synagogue gathered in prayer, at Central Synagogue, a place meant for peace, song, and connection to the Divine, became the scene of a violent, hate-fueled assault. This was not a random act. It is an antisemitic attack on Jews at prayer, in the heart of New York City.

As a rabbi in this city, my heart and my prayers are with the entire Central Synagogue community, with the woman who was struck and is recovering, with the security team who put their own safety on the line, with the clergy who now must comfort a congregation shaken in its own sanctuary, and with every congregant who was in that room and will carry this fear with them. To the clergy of Central Synagogue: you did not choose this burden, and yet you carry it with grace.

Let me be unequivocal: violence against Jews at prayer, or against any person at prayer, of any faith, is unacceptable. Not here. Not anywhere. Not under any circumstance, and not for any reason offered after the fact. A synagogue, a church, a mosque, a temple: these are places set apart precisely so that people can seek G-d without fear. When that boundary is violated, something sacred in our entire society is violated with it.

This attack falls at the very start of the Hebrew month of Elul, the month in which we are commanded to begin the work of cheshbon hanefesh, an honest accounting of the soul, in preparation for the Days of Awe. Elul asks each of us, individually, to look inward: where have I fallen short? Where must I do better? It is tempting, in the aftermath of an attack like this, to direct all of our attention outward, toward condemnation, toward security, toward demanding accountability from others. All of that is necessary. But Elul also asks something harder of us: that this moment become an occasion not only for outrage, but for reflection, as a Jewish community, and as a broader society. What has allowed antisemitism to rise again to the point where a Shabbat service is not safe? What have we tolerated, normalized, or looked away from that brought us to this Friday night? Elul does not let us answer that question only with fingers pointed outward. It asks us to look at our own house, too, even as we do not excuse or minimize what was done to us.

This week we read Parashat Shoftim, and its opening words could not feel more urgent tonight: “Tzedek, tzedek tirdof,” “Justice, justice shall you pursue”. Our tradition does not command us merely to desire justice, or to hope for it. We are commanded to pursue it: actively, relentlessly, as something that must be chased down rather than passively awaited.

Shoftim also commands us to appoint judges and officers “in all your gates”, leaders charged with governing the community with fairness and courage. That verse speaks directly to this moment. We need our elected officials, our police leadership, and our courts to pursue justice for what happened at Central Synagogue with the same seriousness Torah demands full accountability for this act, and a genuine commitment to the safety of every synagogue, day school, and Jewish institution in this city.

To my fellow clergy of every faith in this city this cannot be a Jewish problem that only Jews are asked to solve. An attack on a synagogue during prayer is an attack on the basic premise that New Yorkers of every religion can worship freely and safely. Interfaith leaders, elected officials, and neighbors of every background should stand with the Jewish community, not only in statements, but in sustained attention and action.

To the Jewish community of New York, we have faced difficult moments before, and we have always met them by turning toward one another rather than away. Show up for a neighbor’s shul. Reach out to someone who was there last night. Let this Shabbat’s fear be answered, in time, with the very thing it was meant to interrupt: a sanctuary full of song.

May G-d grant a refuah shleimah, a complete healing, to the woman who was injured and to the security guard who was assaulted while protecting his community. May the clergy and congregants of Central Synagogue find comfort among their community and the wider Jewish people. May our leaders find the courage that Shoftim demands of them: to pursue justice fully, without hesitation. And as we enter Elul, may this pain be transformed into resolve: to look honestly at what surrounds us, to strengthen our communities, and to walk into the new year, please G-d, with more security, more unity, and more peace than we carry into it.

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They say you often find your b’sheret exactly when and how you least expect it. For Andrew and Donna, it began with thei...
08/09/2026

They say you often find your b’sheret exactly when and how you least expect it. For Andrew and Donna, it began with their mutual friend Amanda, who saw what they had yet to discover.

Their first date at Vespa in Farmingdale stretched for hours as they talked about life, politics, and their shared understanding of demanding careers in healthcare. Andrew found Donna genuine and beautiful. Donna found Andrew tall, handsome, undeniably chatty and thoughtful enough to have food waiting when she arrived.

Even Bonnie offered the wisdom Jewish mothers have passed down for generations: “Jewish men make great husbands.” Andrew, I’m not sure it’s written in the Torah, but no pressure the weight of Jewish tradition is now riding on you!

Months after asking Donna’s parents for their blessing, Andrew proposed over dinner on the sand at the Four Seasons in the Bahamas.

Yet their love is found not only in grand gestures, but in laundry dates, grocery runs, shared meals, and lazy naps. When you find your person, even the ordinary becomes sacred.

It was my honor to stand beneath the chuppah as their officiating rabbi and celebrate two compassionate, selfless people building not merely a house, but a home.

Mazel tov, Andrew and Donna! May you continue stepping forward together with laughter, trust, good health, and endless love. 💍🥂✡️

Picture it: 2024. Lauren swipes right on Bumble—because in this love story, the woman makes the first move, as she shoul...
08/08/2026

Picture it: 2024. Lauren swipes right on Bumble—because in this love story, the woman makes the first move, as she should.

Their first date was brunch at a dive bar, where Lauren arrived fashionably late thanks to Kai, her dog, who insisted on sunbathing. Some call it “Jewish Standard Time.” I call it excellent priorities.

Within twenty minutes, Matthew had already shared everything he disliked—a list most people save for year three! Yet the banter flowed, Lauren was charmed, and something special began.

Fast-forward to November 2025: dinner, Masquerade, and Matthew down on one knee as strangers became their impromptu engagement photographers.

Matthew loves Lauren’s adventurous spirit. Lauren loves that Matthew makes her laugh, calms her worries, and helps her enjoy the moment. Together, they have learned to embrace both the easy banter and the hard conversations—and to keep showing up for one another.

That isn’t simply luck. That is b’sheret.

It was a joy and honor to stand beneath the chuppah as their officiating rabbi and bless their marriage through the Sheva Brachot.

Mazel tov, Lauren and Matthew! May your life together be filled with laughter, adventure, and endless love—even on Jewish Standard Time. 💍🥂✡️

Thank you Josh & Daryl for the wonderful and kind words.  Wishing you both all the best, today, tomorrow and always.    ...
08/02/2026

Thank you Josh & Daryl for the wonderful and kind words. Wishing you both all the best, today, tomorrow and always.

Mazel tov to Joshua and Daryl, married this evening at the beautiful Liberty Warehouse! 💍🥂Their love story began in Augu...
07/26/2026

Mazel tov to Joshua and Daryl, married this evening at the beautiful Liberty Warehouse! 💍🥂

Their love story began in August 2022 with a Hinge match and a first date at Festival on the Upper East Side where the air conditioning had completely surrendered. Neither wanted to suggest leaving, so they stayed, sweated it out and had a wonderful time anyway.

Nearly three years later, Joshua proposed on a freezing, windswept rooftop in the Financial District. Once again, the conditions were far from perfect but together, the moment was.

And perhaps that is the secret of their love: Joshua and Daryl do not wait for perfect conditions. Whether facing broken air conditioning or freezing rooftops, they choose one another and transform the unexpected into a story worth telling.

Some people spend a lifetime searching for their soulmate. Joshua and Daryl found theirs in a bar without air conditioning and confirmed it during a rooftop cold snap.

May your marriage be filled with laughter, adventure and abundant blessings and may you always remain more comfortable together, even in life’s uncomfortable moments, than you could ever be apart.

Mazel tov, Joshua and Daryl! May you continue to build a life and home filled with love, joy, friendship and peace. ❤️

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