12/31/2018
I know this is the time of year when everybody wants to make promises to themselves. I mean... it's resolution time, right? It's almost 2019.
But if you REALLY want to do it this time...
If you have a goal, a cause or a passion burning inside of you and you REALLY want to win...
Can I share TWO things with you that will help you stay the course? Two things that will keep you going when so many others have dropped out?
1. Let yourself fall out of love.
When people talk about having a fear of commitment they usually mean "relationships". But the most heartbreaking fear of commitment is the one towards yourself. Or to your dreams.
It comes disguised as a voice in your head.
"I'm not into it anymore."
"I don't feel the passion."
Don't get fooled by it. The spark you had was never meant to last forever. It was only just the honeymoon.
It takes commitment and discipline to keep things going. You will have to sacrifice things. Only amateurs jump from spark to spark.
Boring, I know.
But I've studied it from all walks of life. Artistic, business, whatever... And I've had a front-row seat to the most successful people you know... and witnessed their darkest moments. Dark moments I was surprised to learn were just as dark as my own.
The common denominator that gets everyone through?
Commitment and discipline.
That rarified air.
Maybe you can fool your buddies in the pub with your pretty words and rationalizations, but you can't fool "the teacher" about the sweat you never sweat or the burn you never felt.
You need commitment and discipline even if there's a chance you may eventually fail. 'Cause only that relentless effort can give you the kind of "failures that lead to success".
Most people will never know that joy. Of getting the spark... going hard... hating it all... wanting to quit... persevering anyways... missing one or two Coachellas... and coming out the other side... realizing that you love it all over again but in this new way... a way you never knew... and gaining new strength... people noticing... you not caring...
When you've gone full circle you belong to a club that only those who've done it can understand.
But wait! You're HERE now... and you're staring at that "next step".
Everyone else... they're gone. They listened to that "middle america" voice in their head.
The voice that said "I'm not feeling it anymore." The voice that told them not to miss the Travis Scott concert. The voice that told them to start next week. The voice that told them to only work when they're "inspired".
Don't fall for it.
It's okay to fall out of love... but remember... quietly persevere.
THAT is the "hard work" that they're talking about when people accept their Grammys or their Academy Awards. THAT is the "hard work" that they're talking about in the foreword of their new book. THAT is the "hard work" that they're talking about when they're doing a million interviews and traveling the globe.
If you want to achieve your resolutions this year... If you want to sustain the epiphany... Let yourself fall out of love. But still... quietly persevere. I promise. It will come rushing back again. And you will know a new language that only a few understand.
2. Track everything.
It's easy to say "commitment and discipline", right?
But how will you know if you're acheiving it?
Well... You write it down.
Use graph paper, an excel spreadsheet, or a cute little Bettie Page notebook... it doesn't matter.
Just write it all down.
Every day.
Write down what time you woke up. What time you went to bed. How many hours you worked. What you ate. If you meditated. Did you work out? What did you sacrifice? How did you feel?
After a few days, you'll start to see trends.
You'll start to want to beat your prior best!
Your memory doesn't always remember what you ate two days ago but the data always will.
Your memory won't remember that every Wednesday you feel depressed around 2 pm. But the data always will.
When you see it all written down... it will start to change your behavior.
You will have to face yourself.
And only when you face yourself do you come up to the choice that leads to ALL achievement (yes, even Post Malone's)... Do I have the commitment and discipline?
The way you answer that question... will carry into every other aspect of your life until the day you die.
This is the thing that you said you loved, remember?
This is the goal that you said you wanted to achieve!
You'll look at Day One. Then Day Two... Then Day 23... And you'll be like "F**k this, I'm not stopping now!"
Just writing it down will make you rise up to the challenge.
And maybe you won't be "in love". But you will quietly persevere.
Your childish feelings... they will try to mess with you.
But the data never will.
Bronques
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