09/19/2024
Manipulative, repressive bu****it, historically and theologically.
•Marriage is typically defined by Christians as descending from Genesis, but Genesis simply prescribes a mutually supportive, committed relationship.
•Love did not emerge as a socially expected basis for marriage until the 20th century. Before that, marriage was essentially a business contract for the benefit of the men involved.
•Before the mid-16th century, Christian marriages did not have to, and often did not, involve a priest, the Church, or even witnesses. It was a contract reached between families (not necessarily with the consent of the bride).
•Marriage didn’t emerge as a sacrament of the Church until the Council of Trent in 1563, during the Protestant Reformation, when Catholics and Protestants began competing over who was going to define and control marriage, and hence procreation, i.e., the means of producing more church members.
By the dominant definition of marriage, over the first 1500 years of Christianity, two people coming together in mutual support and s*xual union, with or without the Church being involved, IS the same as two people committing themselves to each other and “living in sin.” And, if those two “unmarried” people love each other, it’s far more of a Christ-like and Holy union than a young woman essentially being sold to a man in a contract that bears no resemblance to the sacramental teachings of Christ.
Do I perform marriages? Yes, without consideration of s*xual orientation or gender identity. Do I think sacramental marriage within the Church is important? Yes, absolutely, FOR THOSE WHO ARE CALLED TO IT BY FAITH. Is a loving, committed, relationship without a church or state contract “living in sin”? No. It’s not. If it is based on Love, it is of God. Conversely, if a marriage is not based on Love, especially if it replaces Love with fear and shame, then it is, albeit sanctioned by church and state, inherently offensive to God, who is Love.
So, live in Love. Live in truth. Support and defend each other. Bring Love into the world. Find joy and weather sorrow together. Have great s*x and raise beautiful children. And, if you are called by faith to express, celebrate, and sanctify that Holy union within the embrace and liturgy of the ancient Church, come see me. (And no, you do not have to “convert” in order to be married in our Church — just be truly living in Love).