12/06/2022
I Love How Mean You Are To Me
derekhartcouples
In relationship, your mind is preoccupied with how they make you feel, how they look, what they add to your life, how you feel when you're around them, how they make love, how you connect with each other.
Not enough time is spent on learning what makes them scared, how they respond when scared, what you do to cause them to close up and defend themselves.
This "negative" stuff about them is both the key to knowing if they're willing to lower their defenses and heal them, or if those defenses have shown you the limited extent to which you can be close to them.
Where people are scared... is where they will be bonded with, or repelled from.
The couple that succeeds does this both ways, and nurtures those hurt places when they come up.
The couple that fails continuously points out what the other person is doing to drive them crazy
❤
