06/04/2026
You can be right every time and still lose your marriage.
Keeping score creates transactional relationships and opponents.
If there’s a winner and a loser, we are no longer on the same team.
The next time you feel the urge to fight, ask yourself…
Am I fighting to win the moment, or to protect the marriage?
When we fight for the marriage, grace replaces pride, patience replaces defensiveness and
humility can lead to connection, restoration, and hearing one another.
Keeping score creates standards, measurements, and expectations that over time, crush intimacy.
How we treat teammates is different from how we treat opponents. Let’s “win” together!
You’re on the same team.