22/12/2025
The Dangers of a "live in" Relationship
1. It is a bad investment. Can you imagine giving yourself and investing your time and effort to someone who can just walk away anytime with no legal repercussions?
2. Speaking of legal repercussions, in case of adultery, you have no legal protection. Your partner can sleep with anyone anytime with or without your knowledge and it's all the same. Even if your cry blood, he or she ain't going to jail.
3. Your kids with that person are legally illegitimate. If he leaves you and married another, their kids have more right to his estate than your kids even if they're older.
Live in relationships only benefit men since it provides them with an escape route while it only causes damage to women since they're spending their prime years that could never be recovered while having no legal protections and privileges whatsoever.
Personally, I once knew a woman who acted like a housewife to a man who won't marry her and she did that for almost 2 decades then the guy just left her. Now, she's a depressed menopausal 45 year old lady living alone in an apartment with dogs. She wasted her prime years to something unworthy and now she's alone.
I wouldn't want that fate to my daughter or any man's daughter. So, what I'll say to our young women is this, don't put yourself in such a situation. Don't lower yourself just for a guy's affection. Want a boyfriend? Go ahead. But don't live with the guy unless you guys are married. Don't waste your prime years on a man who won't willingly tie himself to you and can walk out on you on a whim. Don't believe the naysayers that spread the nonsense that marriage is just a paper or that it is a chain that will enslave you... Because no, it is not. Marriage is an institution that will protect you and is designed to make you bloom into the homemaker that you're meant to be. A live-in arrangement won't give you that. All it would give you is a make-believe fantasy of a married life that can be shattered instantly. Why be a pretend wife if you can be an actual wife with all the rights and privileges of being one?