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27/02/2026

📖 THE APOSTOLIC LIFESTYLE
🔍 In Search of Holiness by Dr. David K. Bernard
🗣️ Chapter 4 I The Tongue (Unruly Member)

⚠️ SLANG

📌 All of us, but especially the ministry, should also be cautious when using slang expressions. Many slang words have bad connotations, and we can pick them up without realizing what they really mean.

❓ What about watered-down versions of curse words? If we do not want to use certain words, why use their derivatives and substitutes?

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26/02/2026

📖 THE APOSTOLIC LIFESTYLE
🔍 In Search of Holiness by Dr. David K. Bernard
🗣️ Chapter 4 I The Tongue (Unruly Member)

✨ THE NAME OF THE LORD (PART II) ✨

📌 We can learn a lesson from the Jews. They were so careful about taking the name of the Lord in vain, that they would not pronounce the name Jehovah. When quoting or copying the Old Testament Scriptures they substituted the Greek word Kurios, which means Lord.

📖 For example, compare Isaiah 40:3 where “LORD” means Jehovah, with Matthew 3:3 where the word is translated as Kurios or “Lord.”

🙌 If you have the habit of using “Jesus,” “Lord,” or “God” without any real thought of praise, worship, or prayer, then why not break that habit? Without realizing it, we might be taking the Lord’s name in vain.

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25/02/2026

📖 THE APOSTOLIC LIFESTYLE
🔍 In Search of Holiness by Dr. David K. Bernard
🗣️ Chapter 4 I The Tongue (Unruly Member)

✨ THE NAME OF THE LORD (PART I) ✨

📖 “Thou shalt not take the name of the LORD thy God in vain” (Exodus 20:7). The commandments applicable today can be grouped into two categories: love God and love your neighbor (Mark 12:28-31). This commandment pertains to loving God. It is designed to teach us the proper use of His name.

⚠️ It refers to all profane, vain (useless), trivial, and irreverent use of God’s name. It also includes any abuse of His name in false religions and witchcraft.

🙌 The right use of God’s name is in praise, prophecy, preaching, teaching, worship, meditation, and prayer. There is a blessing for those who think upon His name (Malachi 3:16).

😔 Unfortunately, many Christians overlook this commandment. How many times have you heard the words God, Lord, Jesus, JC, or Hallelujah (which means “praise the Lord” in Hebrew) used in a useless or lighthearted way?

🔁 To many people the use of one of these words is a matter of habit. If they are happy, angry, sad, disappointed, or startled they use it as a mere byword. Why use a word that refers to God in such a situation unless we are sincerely communicating with Him? This applies to using worship songs and phrases in an irreverent way.

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24/02/2026

📖 THE APOSTOLIC LIFESTYLE
🔍 In Search of Holiness by Dr. David K. Bernard
🗣️ Chapter 4 I The Tongue (Unruly Member)

⚠️ SWEARING (PART II)

📌 When we are called upon by law to swear to something, we can simply say, “I affirm.” To affirm means to state positively, to confirm, or to assert as valid. As human beings we do not have the power to swear by oath, but we can affirm that what we are saying is true.

🤍 As Christians our word should always be true, and our promise should be just as good as any oath. We do not need to use the words “I swear” to prove that at least we are telling the truth this one time.

⚖️ We do not swear because we cannot control the things we would swear upon, but we can make sure that we always tell the truth and that we perform our promises to the best of our ability.

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23/02/2026

📖 THE APOSTOLIC LIFESTYLE
🔍 In Search of Holiness by Dr. David K. Bernard
🗣️ Chapter 4 I The Tongue (Unruly Member)

⚠️ SWEARING (PART I)

📖 “But above all things, my brethren, swear not, neither by heaven, neither by the earth, neither by any other oath . . . lest ye fall into condemnation” (James 5:12). Jesus said, “Swear not at all” (Matthew 5:34).

❓ What does this mean and what is the
reason for this command? To swear means to assert as true, or to promise, while under oath. An oath is a formal calling of God as a witness.

📌 The teaching is that we should not swear to anything or bind ourselves by an oath to do a certain thing or to join a certain group. Jesus told us that the law allowed one to swear by the Lord, but that we should not swear by heaven, earth, or even by our own heads.

⚖️ The reason is that we do not have the power to change any of these things or to enforce our oaths (Matthew 5:35-37). God can swear by Himself because He has the power to make whatever He says come true. If it was not so before, it becomes true the minute He speaks it.

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20/02/2026

📖 THE APOSTOLIC LIFESTYLE
🔍 In Search of Holiness by Dr. David K. Bernard
🗣️ Chapter 4 I The Tongue (Unruly Member)

⚠️ SOWING DISCORD

📌 The subject of talebearing is so important because it is a principal means of sowing discord among the brethren. Sowing discord is one of seven things that are listed as abominations (Proverbs 6:19). An abomination is something God hates, and it will keep you out of heaven (Revelation 21:8).

🗣️ Sowing discord involves going from person to person causing dislike, distrust, and division by telling confidential
things or by constant criticism. The kind of person that sows discord by words is one who thinks he can tell all kinds of things anywhere, anytime, to anyone.

🔍 These people repeat things they heard in confidence and obtained through friendship. They are not afraid to criticize anyone. Test yourself in this area.

❓ Do you enjoy gossiping about people?
❓ Do you enjoy hearing something bad about someone?
❓ Do you enjoy telling everything you know?
❓ Do you enjoy criticizing or laying blame on others?
❓ Do you stir up trouble, dissension, and strife?

⚠️ If so, you need to be careful. It does not matter if you are the best preacher as far as oratory is concerned, if you sow discord you are in trouble with God.

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19/02/2026

📖 THE APOSTOLIC LIFESTYLE
🔍 In Search of Holiness by Dr. David K. Bernard
🗣️ Chapter 4 I The Tongue (Unruly Member)

📰 TALEBEARING AND GOSSIP PART V

🤔 If you hear that another saint has said something against you, done something against you, or has been indiscreet in some areas, what should you do? First, love thinks no evil, so you should disbelieve the rumor. Forget about it. If after praying you cannot forget it, then go to the person involved, get the story straight from them, and clear it up (Matthew 18:15).

📢 What happens if you hear a serious rumor about someone? If you cannot ignore it then ask the pastor about it. The pastor should then speak to the individual concerned. If he is persuaded that the rumor is false then he should so advise those who heard it. If he feels that it is true he has a duty to clear up the problem. He cannot ignore it. Regardless of the outcome, you should not pass the rumor on any farther.

👤 If the pastor hears a serious rumor about you, he should call you in and explain what he has heard. If you explain the situation and it is the result of a misunderstanding, you must not get a bad spirit. Do not try to find out who started the rumor or who is doing the talking, but be thankful that the pastor is trying to help you.

🙏 Let him clear it up. If you try to find out who told the pastor, you are manifesting a spirit of vengeance and malice. Let the pastor rebuke the one who started the rumor. If you are really innocent, the person who reported the rumor to the pastor has done you a favor, especially if they did not spread it any further.

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18/02/2026

📖 THE APOSTOLIC LIFESTYLE
🔍 In Search of Holiness by Dr. David K. Bernard
🗣️ Chapter 4 I The Tongue (Unruly Member)

📰 TALEBEARING AND GOSSIP PART IV

📌 Notice that you never have the authority to cover unrepented sin regardless of whether it is your friend who is involved or not. Also, you cannot cover sin that will disqualify a man from his position according to the Bible. In both cases, the one in authority needs to know.

🤝 At the same time, you do not need to retell your friend’s sin to others. That is between him, those in authority over him, and God. Basically, a private sin becomes a church problem when the person does not repent but lives as a hypocrite, or when he brings disgrace and reproach upon the church.

⛪ This is especially relevant when someone in a position of leadership has sinned. For example, what if a deacon in the church commits adultery, but repents? The pastor should still be informed because this is a matter that could disgrace the whole church and because the deacon has lost his qualifications, namely his good report.

📖 The one with whom he has sinned as well as anyone who finds out about the sin will lose confidence in the church if nothing is done. This does not mean that the pastor should make a public announcement of the repented sin. He should silence the man if he has repented, and not tell anyone why.

⏳ In many cases, the pastor may put someone on probation or silence them for a certain period of time. Of course, the people should not speculate and gossip about what has happened.

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17/02/2026

📖 THE APOSTOLIC LIFESTYLE
🔍 In Search of Holiness by Dr. David K. Bernard
🗣️ Chapter 4 I The Tongue (Unruly Member)

📰 TALEBEARING AND GOSSIP PART III

📌 To take a practical example, what should you do if you find out that a certain man who is in the church and who calls himself a brother has committed adultery? You cannot conceal the sin, for you do not have that authority. You must report it to the person in authority—the pastor, presbyter, or superintendent, depending on the person involved.

📖 At that point, the matter becomes the leader’s responsibility. If you then tell everyone else in the church you become a talebearer. There is a reason for telling the pastor since he must protect the rest of the church and must try to help the sinning brother. There is no reason, however, to tell anyone else.

🤍 If the brother has repented, why tell anyone about the sin? How will it help him to tell everyone else of his fall? As another example, suppose a laymember falls into sin, repents, and moves to another church. The former pastor should inform the new pastor so that the latter may help him, but it should be kept secret from the other
church members.

📜 These examples explain two scriptures about talebearing.
“A talebearer revealeth secrets: but he that is of a faithful spirit concealeth the matter” (Proverbs 11:13).
“He that covereth a transgression seeketh love; but he that repeateth a matter separateth very friends” (Proverbs 17:9).

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16/02/2026

📖 THE APOSTOLIC LIFESTYLE
🔍 In Search of Holiness by Dr. David K. Bernard
🗣️ Chapter 4 I The Tongue (Unruly Member)

📌 TALEBEARING AND GOSSIP PART II

⛪ God has ordained organization and authority in the church (I Corinthians 12:28). (See Chapter XII.) When problems arise in the church, those in authority should be informed. However, needless talebearing to other members of the congregation is not right. Laymembers in the church are not to judge one another (Romans 14:10, 13; Matthew 7:1; James 4:12). In the church, the leadership can and must judge in order to protect the flock (Matthew 18:18; I Corinthians 6:5).

⚖️ This means the leadership does have the responsibility for dealing with sin in the church. It also means the laity does not have that responsibility. Sometimes, certain things must be told for clarification, for instruction, or for accuracy. In general, however, telling stories that could be harmful to others is not right in the sight of God. Talebearing and gossip are against the Word of God. “Where no wood is, there the fire goeth out: so where there is no talebearer, the strife ceaseth. The words of a talebearer are as wounds, and they go down into the innermost parts of the belly” (Proverbs 26:20, 22). How many churches would have peace if their members really believed this scripture!

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13/02/2026

📖 THE APOSTOLIC LIFESTYLE
🔍 Practical Holiness by Dr. David K. Bernard

TALEBEARING / GOSSIP 🗣️

This is one of the most vicious sins. It is Satan’s primary tool for destroying the church from within ⚠️. It can destroy confidence in people, harm the innocent, and hinder the repentant. It splits churches, discourages saints, and disillusions new converts.

The Bible teaches us to speak evil of no man, especially our brothers and sisters in the Lord ✝️ (Titus 3:2; James 4:11). “Whoso privily slandereth his neighbour, him will I cut off” (Psalm 101:5).

Most people readily acknowledge the evils of gossip, but the problem is identifying it in their own lives 🤔. This is an area of great practical difficulty for many Christians.

Let us explicitly describe what we mean by talebearing or gossip to awaken awareness of our actions:

Basically, it means telling things of a personal, intimate, or sensational nature 🗨️.

It includes spreading rumors that could damage someone 💔.

It includes backbiting, which means telling scandalous things about someone 😡.

Gossip isn’t only lying or spreading unverified rumors, it can also be telling personal facts that the gossiper has no business revealing 🤐.

Even telling a fact can be talebearing if it’s shared as gossip to someone who doesn’t need to know 👂.

Let us guard our tongues and hearts, remembering that words have power ✝️🔥.

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12/02/2026

📖 THE APOSTOLIC LIFESTYLE
🔍 Practical Holiness by Dr. David K. Bernard

✨ INTRODUCTION

“But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison” (James 3:8). ⚠️
“Let the words of my mouth . . . be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD” (Psalm 19:14). 🙏

✨ UNRULY MEMBER 👅

The tongue is the most difficult member of the body to control, and it has the potential for causing the greatest harm. ⚠️ The way we use our tongue is a clear indication of our relationship with God. ❤️

The tongue speaks whatever is in the heart. If a person speaks evil, then evil must be in the heart, “for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh” (Matthew 12:34). “Those things which proceed out of the mouth come forth from the heart; and they defile the man” (Matthew 15:18). 💭➡️🗣️

James gives strong teaching concerning the tongue. “If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man’s religion is vain” (James 1:26). “If any man offend not in word, the same is a perfect man, and able also to bridle the whole body” (James 3:2).

He compares the tongue to a bit in a horse’s mouth 🐎, a small helm that controls a large ship 🚢, and a small fire that can cause great destruction 🔥. The tongue can defile the whole body, and only the power of God can tame it (James 3:1–13). ✝️

This is one reason why God has chosen speaking in tongues as the initial evidence of the baptism of the Holy Spirit 🔥 (Acts 2:4; 10:46; 19:6). We receive the Holy Ghost when we repent, believe, and fully surrender to God 🙌. The tongue is the hardest member to yield, so it is often the last part of us to come under God’s control. When we speak in tongues under the inspiration of the Spirit, it signifies that God has taken complete control of our lives 🕊️.

James makes it clear that it is easy to sin with the tongue, that the tongue is dangerous, and that sinning with the tongue can destroy holiness ⚠️. This leads to an important question:

👉 In what ways can we sin with the tongue?

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