26/06/2023
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H. U. S. B. A. N. D
Most married woman don't understand the reasons why that man is called your HUSBAND.
They go about pointing them as husbands why they have not understood the essence of their creation.
Let me take you to the Bible from Genesis to Revelation.
You are a wife for a purpose take this for free. It is because of your importance that your creation happened. The original plans of God was not to create you at all but after all things are duly created, God sat back and watch the activities and realized that this man need a help. There are levels he cannot attain to without a helper. That was what brought about you. Originally he would have created you from the scratch but because your creation was supposed to be for the man alone not for your fellow women or animals. So He led the man to sleep so you can be form from him and for the urge and need of a woman be implanted in him. Don't blame us when we got attracted to you - laughable.
**( 1 Corinthians 11:8 For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man..
11:9 Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.)**.
So bear that in mind!
The reason why he is called your HUSBAND or why instead of any other term for husband is not used to defined him is because
1. You are there to *HELP HIM*:
Dear sister you cannot claim that he is a husband to you whereby you are not ready to help him at all especially when you know he needed help. Then why are you there. You think is just for s*x alone and child bearing? Common, wake up. STOP addressing him as your husband if you cannot or you are not ready to help him. The essence of your creation is because their is a gap in his life that parent or siblings or even animals cannot fit in because he was supposed to leave them and cleave to you fully. So be ready to HELP HIM - FINANCIALLY, PHYSICALLY, SOCIALLY, IN ALL RAMIFICATIONS.
**Genesis 2:18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an HELP meet for him.
Genesis 2:20 And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.
2:21 And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;
2:22 And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
2:23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
When he does not have instead of abusing him or accusing him help him if truly is your HUSBAND
What does it mean to *help*
It is actually a service you offer to someone without expecting anything in return.
I. Render a HAND of services
II. Render an EXERCISE of sacrifice
III. Restore LAUGHTER and smile
IV. Retain PEACE throughout your services
Learn to be a true helper.
I. STOP being HARDENED and selfish
II. STOP being too EXPECTANT and self-centered
III. STOP being LACKADAISICAL and self-sufficient
IV. STOP being PROBLEMATIC and shameless
Marry him because you want to HELP HIM not because you want someone that will help YOU. With that you will never encounter any problem and you will successful take his interest and heart from his father and mother and even OUTSIDERS.
Why they did what they do to you is because they taught they are helping you to survive when you have turn yourself to a parasites.
That is why they feel in charge and claim right that they own you completely which truly they do but your full expectancy makes it looks like as a parasite to are being help whereas God wanted you to help him.
Yes no doubt they are to provide for their family but you are to help to manage properly their provision. Make it look like a joint effort.
IN A FAMILY SETTING For him TO PROVIDE as expected.
He needs your - Prayers
He needs your - Regards
He needs your - Observance
He needs your - Values
He needs your - Ideas
He needs your - Discipline
He needs your - Encouragements
RAISE a HUMBLE IDEA
RESPECT his ENGAGEMENTS INTENSELY
REASON with him in LOVE, INNOCENTLY
REACT slowly and PRAY INTENSIVELY
Your family shall not break because of your ignorance and lack of sense in Jesus name.
Most of you ladies did not know that God completed His creation in you.
There are awesome virtues He put in you that is not in a man. Infact according to science your brain and mind is more powerful than that of a man yes because yours was built to carry a lots than that of a man. God considered so many factors before creating you.
I. You will hold a baby for months
II. You will go through labor
III. You will breastfeed
IV You will train
V. Your system was to rebuild every month which you cannot compare with whose system remains static
ETC.
If you really understand how special you are you will be looking for who to help not who will help you. Make sure he has a direction and he must be someone you can manage properly.
Manage in the sense that you can talk to him comfortably as a friend to a friend. There is no fear in love. In as much as your words are not disrespectful paying attentions to boundaries as a responsible fellow.
Why most of you have a failed marriage is because you have not really understand your position and you misplaced your priorities.
So if you want him to be your HUSBAND just remember that your first responsibility is to HELP HIM.
GOD DESIGNED YOU TO:
HELP HIM TO THINK
HELP HIM TO GROW
HELP HIM TO SUCCEED
HELP HIM TO MANAGE HIS HOME
HELP HIM WITH REASONABLE ADVICE
HELP HIM TO REMAIN FOCUS
HELP HIM TO SAVE UP
HELP HIM TO REALIZE HIS DREAM
HELP HIM TO INVEST
HELP HIM TO MANAGE WEALTH
HELP HIM TO BUILD A AWESOME HOME
ETC.
MOST ESPECIALLY
HELP HIM TO MAKE HEAVEN
LET HIM KNOW THAT YOUR COMING INTO HIS LIFE BROUGHT A LOT OF CHANGES.
LET HIM KNOW THAT YOU ARE TRULY A HELPER
Be his small god that he pray too. He will never cheat on you or run you down because you are a god. I don't mean being full of yourself but be his idea box and a prayer bag.
Ladies marry well. Don't be too cheap that you can be bought with money because you are not a commodity.
When you are always there 24hours of the day for him. Controlling him in love not remoting him. Checking up on him and always praying for him openly tell me how he will think of another woman.
When he thinks he is helping you and you are just a dependant who is after gain. He sees you differently and have no value for you.
Some times say no to his financial gifts especially when you know he has a lot to take care of. Deliberately say no and insist. Is prestigious. It might be hard for you but is a signal to him that your love is pure and you are there to help. That man will serve you like a god.
That is why I encourage ladies to find something doing by all means so you will help yourself with little needs and stand to be bold when presenting your ideas.
Finally remembered to really be a HELPER
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