06/03/2026
So I'm lying on the bed and memories of my alma mater and many phases of my life I shared with people back in the days are flooding my mind like an analogue trance and making me nostalgic. Consequent upon the nostalgia, I started being willfully delusional in my thoughts and muttered glibly that those days will come back one day and we shall all meet again and continue with the good old days.
It then dawned on me for the umpteenth time that those days will never be back again because the path through which those days were formed has been indelibly altered and obliterated by events, decisions, consequential actions and metamorphosis.
I woke up from the manual trance with a sad reality that even if those days come back, the people have changed overtime. The teenagers with whom I rolled back then are now advanced adults and millennial fathers and mothers. Some people I met early days of my life and ministry no longer believe what I still believe.
I also realized that whilst I want the old days back, I can't even act like I did back in the days as a lot of changes have happened in my own life too. And many ideologies I held then are now reviewed by time and transformation. The bridge through which those days could have passed to come back has been pulverised. Now, that has eked out another reality.
There are people with whom I am in this phase of my life now that will not make it with me in subsequent phases, no matter how we enjoy this phase. For whatever reason we part, no nostalgia will bring the moments we share today again, my longing for the days to be back notwithstanding.
We all want growth but we are often not ready for what growth means. It means expiration of seasons, termination of relationships and arrival of new belief systems and paradigm. Growth will lift you, yes, above your current level of thinking and sometimes associations. Growth is not emotional. We often are, like I did this afternoon.
The good old days are gone. Wishes can't bring them back. I'll rather focus on the now good days so that I'll muse about today tomorrow and be consoled by my actions and inactions today that will make the soon-to-become good old days a righteous legacy and goodwill.
Pastor Ama Abraham
Reformers Embassy Onitsha
