20/08/2016
I decided to share this recent thought of one my Sister in the Lord in case you don't get see the actual publication...
"This Thing Called S*x"
A young lady came to me sometime ago to tell me her "boyfriend" said "If you love me you will have s*x with me" then I told her to tell him "if you truly love me, you will also dance n**e in the market square!" The guy ran and never looked back. If "I love you" without proving it with s*x is not enough then there is a problem with your premarital relationship!
When God makes a pronouncement about anything its important for His children to know that He means every word. What I see around me today are Christians who believe and take serious every positive prophecy and promise that is in the bible yet we presume that God must be joking when He says "don't do this or that."
I have had uncountable questions about s*x from singles and am sorry to say that it is a No, No before marriage! If your question is why, my answer is because God said so! There's nothing to add or subtract! If you're unable to hold your body s*xually before marriage, you will not be able to hold it when temptations shows up after you are married and you cannot prove love by s*x except in marriage.
S*x is Gods gift and its only permissible in a godly marriage. So there's no way you can do it outside marriage with one or multiple partners and not commit sin. You are not even supposed to have any partner until you are ready to get married and that is after you have prayed through and God shows you who He wants you to marry. This sounds impossible to many but that's the best way to keep yourself. Some of those who even claim to be "virgins" before marriage know that they do not qualify to lay that claim because they have tried several unholy things when the flesh stirred itself. It is not an easy thing to abstain from premarital s*x yet it is possible if we do it Gods way. We will be doing the coming generation a lot of good by telling them the whole truth.
The bible states in proverbs 5:15-17 "Drink water from your own cistern, and running water from your own well. Should your fountains be dispersed abroad, streams of water in the streets? Let them be only your own, and not for strangers with you." This Scripture is purely talking about s*x, asking you to drink from one source- one partner, which is only possible through a godly marriage.
Don't be deceived, the world has gone really crazy with all kinds of sinful acts but Gods word is same and will never change.
1 Corinthians 6:9 says "Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind..." So if you have multiple partners and indulge in s*xual sin, its time to STOP! There's nothing to test-run, you are not a "Tokunbo car!" You are Gods priceless child, don't make yourself any less.
This takes me to s*xual counsel to the married: Its sad how the devil has been able to twist our thinking. The unmarried find it hard to abstain from s*x while the married who are licensed are too busy to be committed to it.
Proverbs 5:18-19 further states "Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, let her breasts SATISFY YOU AT ALL TIMES."
There is no room for excuses, the women are often guilty in this area. Don't be fooled, what s*x alone will fix in your marriage, prayers will not do it! So you had better come down from that prayer mountain and get into the bedroom. As you are praying for your husband with your mouth, pray with your whole body too and I can assure you that the latter is the most acceptable prayer.
If your husband says he's tired of missionary he wants doggy, you better go along with what he wants because if "doggy" opportunity present itself outside you are on your own. The women out there are hot and ready to do anything anytime so don't be fooled. You should go all out to seduce your spouse, let him/her be attracted to you always, let his/her mind be filled with your thoughts always- with these the devil is already a loser in your home!
Some men have been exposed to WOMEN of all kinds, shapes and sizes before they got married, some involved in strip parties etc They are now born again yet they still see these women in their daily dealings, as much as they are fighting daily to remain true to the marriage vows their wives must also help them by giving them the best s*xually. S*x in marriage is like when someone likes rice, to maintain that interest the rice must be well served as white rice with stew/soups of all kinds, jollof rice, pepper rice, fried rice, coconut rice, Chinese rice, etc, don't forget also that there is ofada rice.
Some women even abuse their husbands that s*x is not food. I must correct your thought, s*x is food! In fact it is soul food and the wellbeing of your spouse depends on it. I don't joke with it in my marriage and I must say its my best button to unlocking the "miraculous!" Come to think of it, God is so gracious with the gift of s*x because you don't have to pay for it so If you are not ready for s*x like your partner wants it, then you have no business being in marriage.
When you first got married you both slept naked, After some years madam becomes "mama Pikin" and starts tying wrapper to bed, to do chores even to the market! The only time your husband sees you naked is when you want to have your 2 minutes instant bath! Mr husband, you should also work on your pot belly and drunkenness because madam sees it as hindrance to her fun. There's no marriage in heaven so there's no point punishing yourself here.
Both partners must be committed to making it a specially spiced offering that is a sweet aroma unto God not a one way traffic that does not make the heart rejoice.
I pray for deeper understanding for you...
I pray you get the best in God...
