31/05/2026
_RCCG SUNDAY SCHOOL TEACHER'S MANUAL_
_LESSON: THIRTY-NINE_
_DATE: SUNDAY 31ST MAY 2026_
_TOPIC: 3RD INTERACTIVE SESSION AND QUARTERLY REVIEW_ *(SUMMARY OF LESSONS 27-38)*
*SUNDAY SCHOOL HYMN*
*1.* O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
O how I love Thee well,
I am happy, it makes me glad
To rejoice at Thy birth.
*2.* O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
Thy friendship suits me well,
Both young and old will sing Thy song,
We long for Sunday School.
*3.* O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
Christ was Thy first teacher,
The Holy Spirit, great teacher,
Does manifest in thee.
*4.* O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
This testimony is sure,
That God, the Father Almighty,
Poured His blessing on Thee
*5.* O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
Though the sun be so bright,
Or if the clouds be black with rain,
I'll be in Sunday School.
*6.* O Sunday School, on the Lord's day
I rejoice to see Thee,
Will thou pass over me today?
Without my being blest?
*_LESSON: TWENTY-SEVEN_*
_TOPIC: GET RICH QUICK SYNDROME_
MEMORY VERSE: "Wealth gotten by vanity shall be diminished: but he that gathereth by labour shall increase". – Proverbs 13:11
BIBLE PASSAGE: JEREMIAH 17:7-11
INTRODUCTION
Wealth and living a comfortable life are part of God’s plan for humanity. He created everything — whether as finished products or raw materials — needed for an enjoyable and fulfilled life (Genesis 1:20-22, 24-25; 2:8-9, 16). The abundance of resources is evident (Ecclesiastes 5:9), yet the lack of patience has driven many, especially youths, to adopt the harmful “get-rich-quick syndrome” to meet their needs. This lesson aims to explore this concept and provide guidance on resisting the temptation to pursue wealth hastily and unethically.
LESSON OUTLINES
1. THE SYNDROME
2. RESIST THE URGE
THE SYNDROME
A. The get-rich-quick syndrome:
i. Refers to an intense and irrational desire to accumulate wealth rapidly, often without considering the consequences.
ii. This overwhelming urge to achieve financial success overnight can drive individuals to engage in unlawful activities such as gambling, Ponzi schemes, cybercrime, armed robbery, selling of body parts, kidnapping, prostitution, drug dealing, advance-fee scam/fraud, etc. (Proverbs 21:6-8).
B. The get-rich-quick syndrome can result in serious negative consequences, such as:
i. A rise in crimes like murder, kidnapping, and robbery.
ii. Deterioration in educational standards.
iii. The erosion of traditional values like honesty, hard work, and fairness.
iv. The rapid loss of such wealth (Proverbs 23:4-5).
v. Lack of genuine satisfaction which often leads to sudden death (Proverbs 1:18-19).
C. Red flags to watch out for to avoid get-rich-quick scams include:
i. Enticing offers promising large amounts of quick profit without risk.
ii. A stranger who claims to be connected through mutual acquaintances and proposes a business opportunity.
iii. Being asked to use one’s account for transfers, withdrawals, or other financial transactions (Proverbs 1:10).
RESIST THE URGE
A. As an individual, you can overcome the urge for quick wealth syndrome by:
i. Trusting God to empower and teach you to make wealth (Deuteronomy 8:18; Isaiah 48:17).
ii. Assessing your current situation and develop actionable improvement plans (Luke 15:17-19).
iii. Stay diligent and dedicated to your goals (Proverbs 22:29).
iv. Seeking wisdom, practice patience, cultivate contentment and uphold integrity as you work towards success (Ecclesiastes 7:12; Hebrews 13:5; 1 Timothy 6:6).
B. Society can play a vital role in combating this syndrome by:
i. Educating individuals on its channels of exposure—such as social media, newspapers, infomercials and periodicals.
ii. Focusing on promoting value-based orientation, emphasising that the means matter as much as the ends.
iii. Shifting the spotlight from wealth to integrity by ceasing to glorify individuals with questionable characters flaunting wealth (Psalm 73:3; Proverbs 13:11).
iv. Additionally, creating job opportunities, empowering youths through skill acquisition, and supporting entrepreneurship are crucial steps in addressing this issue.
CONCLUSION
The get-rich-quick syndrome is a plan to make a lot of money in a short time, often with little effort and not minding the risk, beware (1 Timothy 6:10).
*_LESSON: TWENTY-EIGHT_*
_TOPIC: LOVERS OF PLEASURES_
MEMORY VERSE: "Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God". – 2 Timothy 3:4
BIBLE PASSAGE: 2 Peter 2:13–14
INTRODUCTION
Lovers of pleasures are those who have invariably turned sensual pleasures, sensual gratifications, etc. to their god and therefore love and serve them instead of God. These people live for pleasure without restraints and are inordinately concerned with their interests above others. Paul, in 2 Timothy 3:1–4 states lovers of pleasures as a sign of the last days. He used the Greek word “philodonos” meaning “lovers of pleasures” to emphasise that society will become engrossed and obsessed with the pursuit of their comfort, happiness and pleasure. We shall examine the dangers of sensual pleasures and remind ourselves of how to bring pleasure to God.
LESSON OUTLINES
1. DANGERS OF SENSUAL PLEASURES.
2. CREATED FOR GOD’S PLEASURE.
DANGERS OF SENSUAL PLEASURES
Sensual pleasure is a carnal or worldly pleasure that naturally extinguishes all love and sense of God (2 Timothy 3:4-5). These fleshly lusts portend a lot of threats to its practitioners and those around them.
Some dangers are:
i. The word of God has no root in them because of the cares of this world and love for the pleasures of life (Luke 8:14).
ii. They are careless in the way they live (Isaiah 47:8). This incessant love for pleasures often results in poverty (Proverbs 21:17).
iii. They are sold out to lustful desires (Titus 3:3).
iv. A blind eye is turned to God’s judgement (Romans 1:32).
v. These people will be judged because they take pleasure in sin (2 Thessalonians 2:12; 1 John 5:17a).
vi. It is rather unfortunate that these people are dead while they live (Romans 8:6; 1 Timothy 5:6).
vii. The reward of unrighteousness awaits them (2 Peter 2:13).
Furthermore, those who take pleasure in fleshly lusts are not subject to God’s law (Romans 8:7):
i. Their growth is stunted as they refuse to leave the baby stage and still exhibit other carnal traits like strife, envy, etc. (1 Corinthians 3:1-3).
ii. They are self-gratifiers (Philippians 2:21) who run after mundane and earthly things and their god is their belly (Philippians 3:18-19; Numbers 11:4).
iii. When every man is eager only for what he can get, and anxious to keep what he has, it makes men dangerous to one another.
CREATED FOR GOD'S PLEASURE
1. Revelation 4:11 discloses that we were created for God's pleasure and we are to give Him glory and honour all the time.
i. One of the ways to give God glory is to acknowledge Him in all that we do (Proverbs 3:6; Jeremiah 9:23-24); when this is done in complete obedience, it is accompanied by prosperity (Job 36:11).
ii. We honour God when we surrender totally to Him (Psalm 37:5; 55:22).
2. We also give pleasure to God when we do the following:
i. Live uprightly (1 Chronicles 29:17).
ii. Stay away from anything that defiles (Ezra 10:11).
iii. Trust Him (Psalm 36:7-8).
iv. Do His will (Psalm 103:21).
v. Seek to know Him for His greatness (Psalm 111:2).
vi. Fear Him and hope in His mercy (Psalm 147:10-11).
CONCLUSION
Love God and serve Him passionately; carnal pleasure is enmity against God. Love not the world!
*_LESSON: TWENTY-NINE_*
_TOPIC: MEN OF ISSACHAR_
MEMORY VERSE: "And of the children of Issachar, which were men that had understanding of the times, to know what Israel ought to do; the heads of them were two hundred; and all their brethren were at their commandment". – 1 Chronicles 12:32
BIBLE PASSAGE: DANIEL 2:20–23
INTRODUCTION
Issachar was the fifth son of Jacob and Leah, and the ninth son overall of the patriarch (Genesis 30:17–18). He had four sons (Genesis 46:13), and went with his father to Egypt, where he died and was buried. Afterwards, his descendants formed one of the tribes of Israel. By the end of the wanderings of Israel through the Sinai desert, they numbered 64,300 fighting men (Numbers 26:23–25). What is most evident is that by the time of David, they were known supremely for their wisdom. They understood the “signs of the times” and how best to live in light of them (1 Chronicles 7:1–5; 12:32).
LESSON OUTLINES
1. UNDERSTAND TIMES AND SEASONS.
2. KNOW WHAT TO DO.
UNDERSTAND TIMES AND SEASONS
A. The Bible tells us that:
1. There are various seasons (Genesis 8:22; Ecclesiastes 3:1–8).
2. Times and seasons are in God’s hands and can change (Daniel 2:21a).
B. To navigate times and seasons,
1. God gives wisdom to the wise and knowledge to those who have understanding (Daniel 2:21c).
2. He reveals the deep and secret things to His children (Deuteronomy 29:29; Daniel 2:22).
3. The men of Issachar had an understanding of the times, to know what Israel ought to do. It takes a mature believer to discern the times (Hebrews 5:14).
C. “Understanding the times” also refers to:
1. Having insight into current circumstances, trends, and seasons in which we live (Romans 13:11).
2. It involves being aware of the cultural, political, social and spiritual climate (Daniel 2:27–28), and recognising opportunities and challenges (1 Timothy 4:1–3).
KNOW WHAT TO DO
A. The men of Issachar understood the signs of the times and knew how to live in the light of them.
B. To know what to do is to be full of ideas and skills, vision-driven, and strategic. Also, it is the ability to:
1. Make informed decisions: Go back to school (get a degree, master’s, PhD), attend conferences, learn a trade, acquire a skill, etc. (Genesis 26:1–3).
2. Respond appropriately to challenges and opportunities (Genesis 26:12–22; Matthew 2:13–14; John 2:3–5).
3. Be wise and authentic: live a life of impact for the cause of Christ (1 Peter 3:10–11).
4. Engage in kingdom activities (Matthew 6:33).
5. Fulfil your purpose and calling (John 18:37).
CONCLUSION
The men of Issachar were sought after for counsel on political and spiritual matters and they played an important role in the leadership of Israel. You can be like them.
*_LESSON: THIRTY_*
_TOPIC: SEASONS OF LIFE_
MEMORY VERSE: "To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven."— Ecclesiastes 3:1
BIBLE PASSAGE:
ECCLESIASTES 3:1–8
INTRODUCTION
There are seasons of life. We must all admit that seasons of our lives will continue to change for as long as the Lord keeps us alive to witness them (Genesis 8:22). We will, therefore, be wise if we constantly remind ourselves that no matter what we are passing through, there will be a change because change in life is constant. Accepting this obvious fact once and for all will make us enjoy life itself. It is, therefore, important for us to understand God's role and how to live consciously.
LESSON OUTLINES
1. GOD'S ROLE
2. LIVE CONSCIOUSLY
GOD’S ROLE
A. From the very beginning of the creation of this earth, the Almighty God Himself made sure that there was balance (not uniformity) in His creation:
1. He made light and darkness, day and night, male and female, etc. (Genesis 1:5, 27).
2. The differences in creation eradicated potential boredom. Can you imagine a world in which man experiences only darkness?
B. All these different seasons are what make life interesting (Ecclesiastes 3:11).
1. The season of joy comes when we celebrate success, victory, breakthrough, promotion, good achievements, etc. (Psalm 118:24).
2. The season of sorrow causes sadness, grief and lamentations as a result of loss, failure, defeats, demotion, betrayal, etc. (Psalm 116:3).
3. A season of abundance comes with so much available to use and even share (Isaiah 7:22; 1 Kings 10:27).
4. One can also experience a season of lack and struggle (2 Kings 6:25-30).
5. A season of health comes with physical fitness and a sound mind (Psalm 105:37; Genesis 43:28).
6. Season of sickness can be filled with pain, ache, and discomfort (2 Kings 20:1; John 11:1-3).
C. Other seasons may include:
1. A season of progress and a season of stagnation (Exodus 14:1-3, 13-16).
2. A season of growth and a season of deterioration (Gen. 41:29-31)
3. A season of strength and season of weakness (1 Kings 19:1-3)
4. A season of answered prayers and a season of waiting/unanswered prayer (Job 14:14; 2cor. 12:9)
LIVE CONSCIOUSLY
A. Knowing that's there are seasons in life gives us hope that no matter the conditions that we are in, there we always be a change (Job 14:14).
Therefore,
1. We should not despair if this season we are in is not as bright as promising as we would have liked it to be (2Corinthians 4:8)
2. A new season is on its way (Psalm 30:5)
3. The new season we usher in beauty for ashes unspeakable joy and blessings (Isaiah 61:3)
B. Believers must prepare for all seasons of Life (Job 2:10)
1. Pray for you good season
2.Always rejoice in the fact that all things (seasons) Walk together for our good Romans 8:28)
CONCLUSION
Believers are not immune to negative season but are blessed with the assurance of God's presence even when it's does not look or feel like it (Isaiah 35:4)
*_LESSON: THIRTY-ONE_*
_TOPIC: SOCIAL ETIQUETTE_
MEMORY VERSE:
“Let all things be done decently and in order.”
1 Corinthians 14:40.
BIBLE PASSAGE:
Titus 3:1-2.
INTRODUCTION
Etiquette, according to the Oxford Dictionary, is defined as a code (specific rules) of polite behaviour within a culture, society or professional group. Etiquette makes one behave in a responsible way distinct from animals. It applies to various fields of life: social, professional, business, spiritual, etc. When an individual displays respect for rules of behaviour, we say that person has good etiquette or manners. The Bible equally advises us as believers to apply decency and orderliness in whatever we do (1 Corinthians 14:40). Hence, believers must be guided in their dealings and interactions with others.
LESSON OUTLINE
1. EXPLAIN THE NEED FOR ETIQUETTE
2. SOCIAL ETIQUETTE
EXPLAIN THE NEED FOR ETIQUETTE
1. People around us must not feel embarrassed by our behaviour (Colossians 4:6).
2. We must avoid immoral conduct (Titus 3:1–2).
3. Without etiquette, members of society would show too much impatience.
4. Etiquette makes us cultured people who leave our marks wherever we go (Titus 3:8).
5. It teaches us mannerisms, the way we eat, talk, walk, and most importantly behave in society (Proverbs 23:1–2).
6. It helps us to relate with people (Philippians 4:5).
7. The way we interact with our superiors, parents, fellow workers, friends, etc. matters.
8. Etiquette enables individuals to earn respect and appreciation in society (Proverbs 18:24).
9. It teaches us to value relationships (Proverbs 25:17; Luke 6:31).
SOCIAL ETIQUETTE
1. When invited to a social gathering, do not be in a haste to take the front seat (Luke 14:7–11; Proverbs 25:6–7).
2. Do not call someone more than twice continuously. If they do not pick up your call, presume they have something important to attend to.
3. Return money or anything that you have borrowed even before the other person remembers to ask for it.
4. Always be modest. Be careful not to expose your integrity and character (Psalm 37:21).
5. Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is treating you.
6. If you take a taxi, try to sit at the rear and make plans to pay the next time (Proverbs 18:24).
7. Never interrupt when someone is talking. Always be polite.
8. When someone shows you a photo on their phone, do not swipe left or right.
9. If a colleague tells you they have a doctor’s appointment, do not ask what for. If they want to share, they will tell you.
10. Do not put people in uncomfortable situations by forcing them to say what they do not want to say.
11. Do not be a busybody in other people’s matters (1 Timothy 5:13; 1 Peter 4:15).
In addition, you should not rush for food or chairs in a large gathering. Do not jump queues. You should be careful to maintain cleanliness and avoid waste. Do not use reckless slang. Flagranct abuse of decorum, lack of table manners and improper dressing should be avoided.
CONCLUSION:
We must consciously guard our utterances and conduct as good representatives of Christ (2 Corinthians 5:20).
_*LESSON: THIRTY-TWO*_
_TOPIC: LIVE HEALTHY_
MEMORY VERSE: "For bodily exercise profits a little, but godliness is profitable for all things, having promise of the life that now is and of that which is to come."–1 Timothy 4:8.
BIBLE PASSAGE: DANIEL 1:12-15.
INTRODUCTION
While it is good to pay serious attention to critical aspects of our lives like career, family, fellowship with God, and ministry, we should not neglect our health (Acts 27:34; 1 Timothy 5:23). Without knowing it, we put our health at risk which results in health problems that could range from minor to chronic.
LESSON OUTLINES
1. THE IMPORTANCE
2. THE TIPS
THE IMPORTANCE
A. In as much as God created us as spirit beings after His image (Genesis 1:26-27)
i. He also gave us material bodies (Genesis 2:7)
ii. He is concerned about our physical health (Jeremiah 30:17).
B. It is, therefore, our responsibility and our offering of gratitude to God (Romans 12:1) to prioritise our health because our bodies are
i. God’s temple (1 Corinthians 6:19) and
ii. The containers that enable us to exist and interact with the physical world without which we would be unable to fulfil God’s purpose (Genesis 1:28; 2:7).
C. It is important to take care of our bodies because:
1. Good health is God’s will for us (Jeremiah 30:17).
2. It is impossible to serve God without good health (Mark 5:18-20).
3. Good health brings glory to God (Acts 3:8-10).
4. It increases our productivity in every aspect of our lives (Proverbs 31:17).
5. Living healthy increases our self-worth (Daniel 1:12-15).
6. It is less expensive than ill-health (Mark 5:25-26).
7. We need to fulfil our purpose in life (Philippians 2:25-28).
THE TIPS
A. First and foremost, we need to involve God in our desire to be healthy.
i. God will ensure that we are healthy when we obey/fear Him and depart from evil (Proverbs 4:20-22; Proverbs 3:7-8).
ii. It is important to renew our minds because negative thoughts and mindsets can be detrimental to our health (Romans 12:2).
B. Practically, we must:
1. Minimise the intake of sugar and processed food. Eat more of whole grains, fruits and vegetables (Genesis 1:29; Daniel 1:8, 12-15).
2. Always drink water, and take lots of it, especially during the day. Engage in regular exercise to aid blood circulation in the body (1 Timothy 4:8a).
3. We must ensure that we walk more than sit in one position for long periods at a stretch as this is detrimental to our health.
4. Spend time outdoors and reduce screen time to prevent eye problems and brain malfunction.
5. Be mindful of what you consume (Proverbs 23:1-3, 20-21; 1 Corinthians 10:31).
6. Steer clear of alcoholic/strong drinks; it damages the organs and the image of the victims (Proverbs 20:1; 31:6).
CONCLUSION
What we eat or drink is our first medicine. Take good care of yourself.
_*LESSON: THIRTY-THREE*_
_TOPIC: SUSTAINING THE CHASE_
MEMORY VERSE: “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine.”—Song of Solomon 1:2
BIBLE PASSAGE: SONG OF SOLOMON 1:13-17
INTRODUCTION
Just as a romantic chase begins when two people first “fall in love,” a successful marriage requires “sustaining the chase” by maintaining the excitement, passion, and commitment they had in the early days of their relationship. It is easy to get caught up in the daily routine of life, but couples must prioritise their relationship and make intentional choices to keep the spark alive. This lesson will consider the things couples do to kill the chase and identify elements of a sparkling relationship.
LESSON OUTLINES
1. WAYS COUPLES KILL THE CHASE
2. KEEP THE SPARK ALIVE
WAYS COUPLES KILL THE CHASE
Husband's role
1. Some men change drastically (after the wedding) from being the “lover boy” to an uncaring, neglectful and insensitive dictator.
2. They prioritise making money over spending quality time with their spouse (Song of Solomon 5:6; 3:1).
3. They tactically and practically leave most household chores to the wife.
4. Some men even overlook their wife’s contributions in keeping the home (1 Timothy 5:8).
5. They stop being romantic, not using words of affirmation and the love language of their spouses.
6. They display ego by not being apologetic when they are wrong (1 Peter 3:7).
Wives Role
1. Some ladies look perfect when they are “courters,” but after the wedding, they fall into the mistake of attempting to change their husband’s (Proverbs 21:19; Proverbs 14:1).
2. Constantly nagging or criticising (Proverbs 21:19; 27:15).
3. Drastically reducing physical intimacy (Song of Solomon 1:2).
4. Being ungrateful and not recognising their husbands' efforts (Proverbs 19:13b).
5. Looking unkempt and unattractive (Proverbs 5:19).
6. Being unsupportive and disrespectful to their husbands (Proverbs 12:4).
KEEP THE SPARK ALIVE
The teacher should guide the discussion with the points highlighted below:
Relationship is a two-way street; it requires give and take. Therefore, partners must work together to sustain the glow. Here are some ways to keep the flame in your relationship:
1. Communicate: Communicate your feelings, needs and thoughts to your partner in a mature way. Be an active listener and make sure you are understood (Proverbs 15:23; 25:11-12).
2. Initiate intimacy: Intimacy is essential for building trust and honesty. Hugging, kissing, regular s*x, holding hands and sharing secrets no one else knows may also help (Song of Solomon 1:2; Proverbs 5:19).
3. Express gratitude: Expressing gratitude can make good times even better and help you through bad times (Hebrews 10:24).
4. “Alone time”: Maybe some “alone time” away from your partner for a short while (where necessary) may reduce the “see-finish syndrome” and rekindle the fire of love.
5. Be adventurous: Go beyond the events of the day, take fun-filled trips, and build new experiences together like a new hobby e.g. cuisine, vacation, running, etc. (Genesis 26:8; Song of Solomon 2:14).
6. Impress each other: Remember the things you did at the beginning of your love journey that endeared your spouse to you e.g. wear a scent or colour of clothing your spouse likes seeing on you (Song of Solomon 4:10-11).
7. Put your phone down: Stay present whenever you are together.
8. Make laughing together a top priority (Proverbs 17:22).
9. Plan surprise dates and ensure you do not skip them. Try to change location for the sake of variety.
10. Get committed: Set goals and work them out, overcome challenges together, build a shared vision and prioritise the relationship (Amos 3:3).
CONCLUSION
Remember that change starts with you.
_*LESSON: THIRTY-FOUR*_
_TOPIC: THE MARRIAGE BED_
MEMORY VERSE: "Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge"—Hebrews 13:4
BIBLE PASSAGE: GENESIS 49:1-4
INTRODUCTION
Simply put, the "marriage bed" is a "divan" that married people share. It describes the sacredness of the s*xual intimacy between husband and wife. Ideally, it is a place of genuine love, faithfulness, longing and mutual satisfaction between husband and wife (Song of Solomon 1:15-16). Hebrews 13:4 declares that the marriage institution must be highly valued and the "marriage bed" (the couple’s s*xual relationship) must be held in honour and not contaminated through s*xual immorality because God will judge and punish the unchaste and adulterous. Faithfulness in marriage is important.
B. Reuben was condemned by his father for defiling his couch. Concerning Reuben, Jacob declared:
i. ..........................
LESSON OUTLINES
1. UNHOLY ALLIANCE
2. KEEP IT PURE
UNHOLY ALLIANCE
The marriage bed will be defiled when the couple become unfaithful in their union (Hebrews 13:4).
A. This impurity may stem from:
i. Being involved in any form of adultery which Proverbs 6:32 depicts as a lack of understanding and destruction to the soul.
ii. Acts of fornication (1 Corinthians 10:8a).
iii. Extramarital s*x with another person apart from one's legal spouse and involvement in any form of s*xual immorality (Romans 1:27-28; Leviticus 18:6, 17, 20, 23).
B. Other s*xual vices that corrupt the marriage relationship include:
i. Lustful thoughts and actions which defile the marriage bed (1 Peter 2:11; Matthew 5:28; Proverbs 6:25-29).
ii. Exposure to s*xually illicit materials (Ephesians 5:5).
iii. Roving eyes that are full of unhallowed s*xual activities (2 Peter 2:14; Proverbs 6:25b).
iv. Swift feet which hasten to destruction (Proverbs 7:10-12).
v. Flirting (2 Timothy 3:13).
vi. Emotional cheating such as telephone s*x/phone intimacy with the opposite s*x (Romans 6:12-14).
vii. Suggestive s*xual movesthat attract temptations (Proverbs 7:16-19)
KEEP IT PURE
The teacher should use the points below to guide the discussion.
A. God frowns at any form of infidelity in marriage (Hebrews 13:4b). Thus, the onus lies on married people to keep the sanctity of their marriage bed (1 Corinthians 7:2-5).
i. A couple should discuss any untoward s*xual pressure from a third party and seek godly counsel if necessary (Proverbs 11:14).
ii. They must be sincere in pointing out any s*xual dis-satisfaction experienced in their s*xual affairs and wisely work at making it better (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10).
iii. Deliberately learn and grow your s*xual intimacy together in the fear of God.
iv. Be a united force and uproot any stranger to your marriage bed (Proverbs 5:3-6).
v. Enjoy what you have and be content with your spouse (Proverbs 5:15).
B. Other ways include:
i. Fleeing from seductive influencers and lust (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5).
ii. Renewing your mind with God's word (Psalm 119:11).
iii. Practising self-control (Proverbs 25:28).
iv. Always remember that the pleasure of sin is for a moment but the consequences are grave (Proverbs 20:17).
v. Evading the wrath of God and abstain from s*xual infidelity because God will not hold anyone guiltless (1 Corinthians 6:9; Proverbs 6:29).
vi. Avoiding toxic friends/relationships (Proverbs 1:10; 13:20).
CONCLUSION
The s*xual activities of married people must remain sacred as the partners remain faithful to each other irrespective of time or distance.
_*LESSON: THIRTY FIVE*_
_TOPIC: PARENTING STYLES (PART 1)_
MEMORY VERSE: “And the younger of them said to his father, ‘Father, give me the portion of goods that falls to me.’ So he divided to them his livelihood.”–Luke 15:12.
BIBLE PASSAGE: 1 SAMUEL 2:22-25, 29
INTRODUCTION
A parent is a person who is responsible for the care, upbringing and well-being of a child. He/she can be biological, legal or custodian. Some parents are firm, while others are indulgent. Some are attentive, while others are absent-minded. As a Christian parent, raising your children to please God and thrive in life is a big responsibility. Understanding various parenting styles through the degrees of “responsiveness” (the extent to which parents are warm and sensitive to their children) and “demandingness” (the extent of control parents put on their children) is crucial.
LESSON OUTLINES
1. PERMISSIVE AND UNINVOLVED
2. AUTHORITARIAN AND AUTHORITATIVE
PERMISSIVE AND UNINVOLVED
A. Permissive parents are high in “responsiveness/love” but low in “demandingness/discipline.”
i. They communicate openly and usually let their children decide for themselves, rather than give direction (1 Samuel 2:22-24).
ii. Rules and expectations are either not set or rarely enforced (1 Samuel 3:13).
iii. They give in to their children’s demands to make them happy and avoid conflicts, even at their own expense (Luke 15:12).
RESULT: Delinquent behaviours and the inability to make the right decisions are traits common under permissive parenting. However, it has the potential to increase self-esteem and creativity in children.
B. Neglectful/Uninvolved parents are low in “responsiveness/love” and low in “demandingness/discipline.”
i. They usually let their children fend for themselves, perhaps because they are indifferent to their needs.
ii. They offer zero guidance and correction (1 Kings 1:5-6).
iii. They find it difficult to form close relationships as a result of personal experience, stress, etc. (1 Samuel 16:10-11; 2 Samuel 14:28).
iv. They are also cold (but not always intentional) as they often struggle with their issues.
RESULT: Children from neglectful parents tend to be self-dependent while they exhibit truancy, emotional withdrawal and the fear of becoming dependent on others (Proverbs 29:15).
AUTHORITARIAN AND AUTHORITATIVE
A. Authoritarian parents are high in “demandingness/discipline” but low in “responsiveness/love.”
i. They enforce strict rules with little consideration of their children’s socio-emotional needs.
ii. In an attempt to be in control, authoritarian parents often talk to their children without expecting feedback.
iii. Their rigid parenting style uses harsh discipline, justified as “tough love” (1 Samuel 20:30).
RESULT: Low self-esteem, depression, aggression and poor social skills are common traits in these children although they may show signs of discipline and respect for authority.
B. Authoritative parents are high in “responsiveness/love” and high in “demandingness/discipline.”
i. They let clear rules and expectations for their children while they practice flexibility and understanding.
ii. They communicate frequently; they listen to and take into consideration their children’s thoughts, feelings and opinions (Genesis 22:7-8).
iii. They allow natural consequences to occur, especially for wrong-doings but use those opportunities to help their children reflect and learn.
iv. Authoritative parents nurture, support and are in tune with their children’s needs (Ephesians 6:4).
v. They guide them through open and honest discussions to teach values and reasoning (Proverbs 22:6).
RESULTS
i. Children who have authoritative parents tend to be self-disciplined, socially competent and can think for themselves (e.g., Mordecai and Esther, Naomi and Ruth).
ii. Their chances of displaying negative traits common in children trained by authoritarian, permissive or uninvolved parents are usually very low.
CONCLUSION
Understand that your parenting style will greatly affect your children’s lives.
_*LESSON: THIRTY SIX*_
_TOPIC: PARENTING STYLES (PART 2)_
MEMORY VERSE: "He who spares his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him promptly"–Proverbs 13:24.
BIBLE PASSAGE: ESTHER 2:7, 10-11.
INTRODUCTION
In our last lesson, we discussed the four major parenting styles namely the "permissive", "uninvolved" "authoritarian" and "authoritative." We shall proceed to consider the significant responsibility Christian parents have, in raising their children in a way that honours God and promotes spiritual growth, emotional well-being and career success through the lens of the Scripture.
LESSON OUTLINES
1. BIBLICAL POINTERS
2. THE BEST PARENTING STYLE
BIBLICAL POINTERS
A. Your parenting style simply refers to your approach to parenting. Every parent uses a method whether defined or not.
B. The following questions will help us find out if there are scriptural pointers as to the mind of God on parenting:
Question 1: Does the Bible have anything to say about different parenting styles?
Answer: Yes, it does. The Bible gives several examples of very effective parenting techniques, and some disastrous parenting methods (Genesis 18:19; 1 Samuel 2:27-30).
Question 2. Are there Scriptures that reveal how parenting can be more effective?
Answer: Yes! Scriptures provide guidance for parents to follow by emphasising:
i. Love, care and support (Ephesians 6:4; 1 Timothy 5:8; Proverbs 31:15, 21)
ii. Discipline (Proverbs 23:13-14)
iii. Correction (Proverbs 19:18; 29:17)
iv. Spiritual instruction (Deuteronomy 6:7; Proverbs 22:6).
C. Knowing these pointers are not enough to make the necessary changes! Obeying them is crucial in becoming a godly and effective parent.
THE BEST PARENTING STYLE
What is the best parenting style? The teacher should ask the class to discuss.
The teacher should use the points below to guide the discussion
A. Parenting does not follow a "one size fits all" model.
i. You do not have to stick to a single approach, as there will be times when a mix of methods is necessary.
ii. The most effective parents recognise when to adjust their style based on the circumstances.
iii. For instance, an authoritarian parent might choose to be more permissive when a child is unwell, offering extra warmth and easing some restrictions e.g., "Of course, you can have ice cream for lunch and dinner."
iv. A permissive parent might adopt a stricter approach when a child's safety is at risk, such as while crossing a busy street e.g., "I am holding your hand whether you want it or not."
CONCLUSION
Use the parenting style that best suits your family's needs with the guidance of the Holy Spirit.
_*LESSON: THIRTY-SEVEN*_
_TOPIC: THE BROKEN WINDOW THEORY_
BIBLE PASSAGE: 1 CORINTHIANS 5:6-8
MEMORY VERSE: "Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good."–Romans 12:21
INTRODUCTION
The Broken Window Theory posits that small, unchecked problems can lead to large and widespread issues. It suggests that “when an environment is in disarray, it only gets worse if not attended to because disorder invites more disorder.” The faster you fix a broken window, the less likely another one will turn up broken. As Christians, we can apply this theory by addressing small and seemingly insignificant issues and weaknesses in our lives, relationships, careers, families etc. before they escalate. Today, we will explore how to apply this theory to the family.
LESSON OUTLINES
1. APPLICATION TO PARENTING
2. APPLICATION TO MARRIAGE
APPLICATION TO PARENTING
A. Parents are to be intentional in raising sound children in a seemingly unchecked society. Watch out for the following and treat as soon as discovered:
1. Sibling rivalries: Teach your children to love one another and avoid unhealthy competition (Romans 12:9-10; Ephesians 4:32).
2. Avoid the blame game: Teach your children to always take responsibility for their actions rather than trade blame (Proverbs 28:13; Isaiah 5:20).
3. Refusal to apologise correctly: Teach your children to apologise correctly as this goes a long way to keep friendship. (Proverbs 25:11).
4. Preferring a child over others: Show equal love to all your children and not run a divided home like Isaac and Rebecca (Genesis 25:28).
B. You may consider adopting some of these rules in raising your children:
1. Instruct them to do the dishes before going to bed.
2. Clean up spills immediately.
3. Make their bed upon rising.
4. Keep the bathroom clean (Deuteronomy 23:13-14).
5. Never leave piles of dirt on the floor.
6. Dress decently
7. Keep their person clean, remember “cleanliness is next to Godliness”
8. Go to bed at reasonable hour
9. Arrive early for appointments.
10. Pray with your children daily and eat at least one meal together each day.
APPLICATION TO MARRIAGE
A. In marriage, small, unchecked issues can lead to bigger problems if not addressed (Song of Solomon 2:15).
i. Neglecting small cracks in our relationship can lead to a broken marriage.
ii. We need to relate with each other in understanding especially in the area of communication, intimacy and finance (1 Peter 3:1, 7).
B. It is important to build a strong marital relationship as we consider the following:
1. Address conflicts promptly and completely (Ephesians 4:26-27). Small conflicts can lead to greater division.
2. Practice love and respect (Ephesians 5:33; 1 Corinthians 13:4-7).
3. Communicate effectively (Proverbs 15:1).
4. Embrace intimacy and spend quality time together (Genesis 26:8; Song of Solomon 2:10).
5. Maintain financial transparency and prudence (Proverbs 21:5; Luke 1
6. Avoid unnecessary suspicion: stop thinking or expecting your spouse to do terrible things. This portrays a feeling of insecurity (1 John 4:18).
CONCLUSION
Do not leave issues unattended to; small actions today can prevent bigger problems tomorrow.
_*LESSON: THIRTY EIGHT*_
_TOPIC: WIDOWHOOD AND SINGLE PARENTHOOD_
BIBLE PASSAGE: GENESIS 21:9-19.
MEMORY VERSE: "A father of the fatherless, and a judge of the widows, is God in his holy habitation." –Psalm 68:5.
INTRODUCTION
A single parent is a parent without a marriage partner, widowed, separated, deserted, divorced or never married; one who is in charge of his or her household. The reason for becoming a single parent is diverse. For some, it is a deliberate desire/preference while other situations such as single-person adoption, unwanted pregnancy, r**e, etc. force others into it. Widowhood is the state of a man or a woman whose spouse is dead. On some occasions, the experiences of both single parents and widows/widowers are quite similar. God, therefore, commands us to protect these people in our churches and communities (Exodus 22:22).
GOD'S DISPOSITION
The Teacher should explain God's disposition to single parents and widows as follows:
1. God is highly concerned about single parents and widows/widowers.
2. He is the Father to the fatherless and the protector of widows (Psalm 68:5).
3. God does not want them to be afflicted or treated badly. He hears them when they cry. God says anyone who maltreats them may invite his wrath (Exodus 22:22-24). To maltreat could be to neglect, abuse or take advantage of.
4. God wants us to defend them (Isaiah 1:17).
5. He sustains and relieves widows (Psalm 146:9).
6. God makes provisions for them in His law (Deuteronomy 10:18; 26:12-13).
7. He preserves the fatherless children and expects widows to trust Him (Jeremiah 49:11).
OUR RESPONSIBILITY
A. Irrespective of the cause, single parents and widows/widowers should be treated with love and acceptance.
i. Provision of a support system such as financing the repair of properties/belongings, giving scholarships for the children's education, welfare support, etc. will go a long way in helping widows and/or single parents live a better life.
ii. Sharing words of encouragement via text messages or phone calls will provide emotional stability.
B. Encourage single parents and the widowed to discover/fulfil their purpose from God's viewpoint.
i. Provide an environment for single parents and the widowed to learn skills that can help them sustain and provide for themselves and their children.
ii. Help them to develop a close relationship with God who can heal them from wounds, bitterness and resentment they might be experiencing.
iii. Family members are enjoined to take care of them so that they will not suffer. This is seen as proof of commitment to God (Matthew 25:34-40).
iv. The widowed and children of single parents should not be abused, stigmatised or enslaved but should be helped (James 1:27; Galatians 6:10).
CONCLUSION
The church should be a family of faith, a real community where burdens are shared, friendships are formed and support is given as we journey in faith together.
