02/10/2026
STANDARDS ARE GOOD — BUT THEY CAN BECOME TOO RESTRICTIVE
Having standards in a relationship is important. You should know your values, what you believe, and the kind of character you desire in a partner.
But sometimes, standards and preferences can become so restrictive that you reject almost everyone who comes your way.
The Bible says:
“He that is first in his own cause seemeth just; but his neighbour cometh and searcheth him.”
— Proverbs 18:17 (KJV)
Not every preference carries the same weight. Character, integrity, faith, purpose, and how someone treats you may matter far more than height, complexion, occupation, tribe, social status, or a long list of personal preferences.
Be careful not to create such a narrow picture of your “ideal person” that you cannot recognize a genuinely good person who does not fit every preference.
Father, give me wisdom to know the difference between godly standards and unnecessary restrictions. Help me to see people with discernment and not reject what You have prepared for me because of unrealistic expectations, in the name of Jesus.
— Pastor Best Louis Iseh
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